Sex with my husband has grown monotonous and I need tips on how to bring the spice back?
We have been married for two years and have done everything in the book, I'm up for anything wild and crazy, but I don't want to do anything that will freak him out. What turns you guys on even when you're going throught a dry spell and find it hard to be interested in sex?
2007-02-06 02:48:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try waking him up in the middle of the night with your head under the covers (if you know what I mean)
Rent a porn and offer to act out the scenes with him
Offer up the rear-end
Get a little freaky in public.
Great him naked when he comes home from work, or maybe dressed like you're asking for it
Give him a lap dance/strip tease
Join him in the shower on a Saturday morning
Give him a 'Sex' card with a list of things you'll do for him that he can cash in at any time.
Take him to a nice hotel - sometimes a change in scenery can help out a lot.
Try video taping yourself and let him watch; or video tape yourselves together.
Go to a photographer and have sexy pictures of yourself taken for him.
2007-02-06 02:58:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its what leads up to the sex that makes it worth while. I would say do some role-playing. Go to a bar or somewhere separately and pretend you guys are meeting for the first time. See if he still got the skills to get into those panties. Also a lot of times women are not aware that a man and his view of himself goes hand and hand. This view is either built up or destroyed by the woman he is with. So women be careful to not emasculate the men in your life. When this happens they will lose interest in a lot of things including you.
2007-02-06 11:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's and interesting idea... Ask him!
Go on-line and look up "submissive partners checklist" or some variation of that. You'll find it on websites relating to bondage. (Don't freak out, stay with me here) The list covers just about everything you can ever imagine doing sexually. Fill it out and have your partner do the same then compare notes and see what kind of secret interest you both share.
BE HONEST!!! If you can't share your desires with your partner...
IMPORTANT!!!!! If you are going to do this you have to have an OPEN mind! You do not have to DO everything your partner is interested in but if you react negatively to something that turns him on that he might become afraid of being truthful and you might miss out on something that you secretly desire as well.
Every year for New Years my wife and I fill this out and decide what new act we are going to incorporate into our sex lives over the next year.
2007-02-06 11:21:50 · answer #3 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring another girl in the bedroom. He will go crazy watching you and the other girl pleasure each other. Might try some vibrators or "The Rabbit" (My wife loves to put this in some other girls private area and the little vibrator piece in the other girls anus). I've got plenty of video.
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2007-02-06 11:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by LiL EarlE 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hard question without knowing what all you've tried already.
I would suggest trying some role playing, maybe even some light bondage for fun. Maybe bring a can of whipped cream into play.
2007-02-06 10:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by chad_zortman 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, my lover says that my nakedness is his greatest turn on, so if you want your husband to come over and we can see what's going on, that sounds interesting. Haha. Just kidding.
Seriously and I quote "uhm, lingerie, oral sex, butt sex, sex in public, just sex, who the hell doesn't get turn on by sex? It's sex. You get an orgasm. It feels good. Are we talking like he's not attracted because she's an obese whale now, like the dude didn't like her in the beginning?"
2007-02-06 10:56:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The woman being forward about sex is one of the biggest turn-ons for me, so take control as soon as he comes in the door :)
2007-02-06 10:57:51 · answer #7 · answered by thingfishy 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Foreplay (maybe a striptease or something), followed by a good BJ. Role-play is also good and fun!
2007-02-06 12:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would surprise him with a nice oral sex session in the hallway or on the sofa. Be aggressive. It turns us on.
2007-02-06 10:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by bobroberts33 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Change the venue and watch sexy movies once in a while
2007-02-06 11:02:18 · answer #10 · answered by girlalive 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋