My hubby is a perfect caring and loving person, but when it comes to sex. he does not need any. he can stay without it for month and I am just the opposite. I think about it every second of day. I am getting less and less attracted to him and just fantasize of someone who can;t get enough of me and make me feel desired. i am thinkng to make him see a doctor, but still i do not feel attracted to him anymore. I love him in every other way. What should I do?
2007-02-06 02:43:33 · 15 answers · asked by wonder 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should get over it. Sex isn't everything. It's all in your head. You should be nice to him and focus on other things. Get a hobby. Go shopping, learn to be a great cook, spruce up your home, get organized, adopt a kid, whatever.....just get over the sex issue. I think you are just feeling old and feeling sorry for yourself. LOVE YOUR HUSBAND. STAY WITH HIM, WORK IT OUT, AND DO NOT CHEAT. THINGS WILL GET BETTER.
2007-02-06 03:03:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you love your husband, give him a chance as mentioned take him to a doctor, this should not be a big problem, try to dress sexily, and prance around him in skimpy and sexy ling ere that should do the trick, although I agree sex and passion is very important but at the same time love and caring is much more important, come to think of it the actual act of making love would be only 10 to 15 minutes a day, this is also only a body function to which we give more importance than the other body functions. I may be old fashioned,but I feel a marriage must not disintegrate just for the sake of sex. Good luck.
2016-03-15 07:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. If you have already spoken your need of sex to him and he still has no interest, then something is wrong. There could be issues that come from something terrible happening in his childhood (who knows).
Your husband has caused you to feel this way. But, your marriage can still be saved if you seek counseling from the right person.
If you are Christian, I would recommend seeing a pastor for counseling on this issue. He may be able to get through to your husband and explain that he has a duty to satisfy your sexual desires.
You must STOP fantasizing about other men, immediately. That is the same as adultery.
Has anything happened in your marriage to make him not want you, sexually. If you have had problems, you must deal with them and heal together. Healing your relationship will return the desire if this is the case.
2007-02-06 02:46:16 · answer #3 · answered by Christian93 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Having been in a relationship just like this, I would say yes it can survive, but why would you want it to? No man just "doesn't need any" if he's healthy. I would think the hubby is either having an affair or is gay. I'd strongly suggest you go and see a doctor to make sure he hasn't brought anything home. Then check through the computer logs for websites he's been to lately. There's nothing a doctor can do for him. But one might help you immensely.
Good luck.
2007-02-06 02:50:46 · answer #4 · answered by Vix 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is not a perfect relationship at all if there is no passion or sex. You need marriage counseling and help for this.
2007-02-06 03:05:30 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be worried that he's getting sex from someone else.
After years and years of marriage alot of couples lose their sex drives and become more like friends, because they are. They are lifetime partners and are still close even though they aren't physically intimate anymore. But if you guys are still young and haven't been together for more than 20 years or so, I would be concerned.
2007-02-06 02:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my point of view this relationship looks more like a friendship. Try discussing how you feel and ask if he has a problem that perhaps a doctor can help. Show him that you are there to support him in case he does. Depending on his age it could also be that he has a low sex drive and this happens to everyone as we get older.
2007-02-06 02:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same, exact, boat as you are sweetie. I mentioned it once - nothing. I mentioned it twice - nothing. So I'm saving my money and planning my escape. I didn't sign up for this, and I bet you didn't either.
Some men use sex as a weapon. Trust me, it's either a head game, he's cheating, or he is gay. And none of those answers turn me on, so I'm out the door.
No, sex isn't the most important thing in the world. But when you love a man who has emotionally checked out of the relationship, and he's unwilling to work on it, there's nothing we can do.
Hey, wanna rent a house together? hahaha..
2007-02-06 02:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by Ade 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
have him see a Doctor possibly even joint counseling, he could be suffering from depression. If you still love him the attraction will come back when the situation improves, in sickness and in health, a healthy man don't just loose interest in sex. If you love him try to help him if it don't work out at least you know you've done all in your power to full fill your vows and you didnt simply give up on your love
2007-02-06 02:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by sweetcavebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can, but only if you and your husband can talk and work it out together. You both have needs and you both have to be aware of, respect, and consider each other's needs. There is a happy middle ground - it just takes work to find it.
2007-02-06 02:49:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋