How do I get it through to my 19 year old friend that her 31 year old bf is using her for sex?

Question

ok, he's a dog! he has 5 kids, only told her about 2 of them and he talks to his ex's on his cell phone all the time in front of my friend. the other day i caught him meeting another girl.

Answer 1

you may not be able to, she will have to find that out for herself sweetie

Answer 2

Drag a camera with you where ever you go and you can catch him in the act next time.
31 is just to old for a 19 year old.
Of course that just may be ill feelings of the past when my ex messed around with a 30 year old slut when he was 18. But still....to old for her.
I do hope you knock some sense into her.

Answer 3

she isn't a child, she is an adult and if she can't see that she is being used, then she is wearing blinders. unfortunately, she is going to be hurt and hurt badly. does she know that this guy has that many children? if he is calling his ex while he is with her, doesn't she know it or care? you are her friend but you can only do so much to steer her in the right direction. don't badger her about it unless you are willing to lose her friendship let her know how you feel and let her know that you are there for her to an extent. let her know that you do not support her relationship with this guy cause he is going to hurt her and then just move on to some one else. then pray for her.

Answer 4

You can try but she probably won't listen. The best thing you can do as a friend is to be there for her when she does finally realize what's going on and it all falls apart. You know where it is heading but unfortunately, she is blind right now. People rarely listen when it comes to love. Stand by and be there for her.

Answer 5

I would like to know how you know he is using her primarily for sex. Is it because of the age difference? How do you know that your friend is not using him for sex because he is more experienced. I'm just wondering if she told you something or if you're just suspicious because of what you've seen on television.

To answer your question - if you are really concerned, either you just tell her or either stay out of her relationship and let her find out for herself.

Answer 6

You can't that is something that she is going to learn the hard way. At that age no one listen to no one she is not matured enough all you have to do is prepare youself for the moment that she is going to hit rock bottom...Be there for her and just may, just maybe she will one day listen to your advice.

Answer 7

did u ever think may be he isn't maybe he realy does care about her but if he is she'll find out herself trying to persuade her and makin her thing he is could seriously come between your friendship just see what happens it'll all work out for the best.

Answer 8

its good that you are trying to look out for her, but you are going to have to let her realize the things going wrong and see them for herself, only then will she be able to take the steps she needs to get this guy out of her life, but when the relationship crumbles all you can do is be there for her and help her through it....

Answer 9

Your friend and her boyfriend are both adults. If she hasn't listened to you before, she wont start now. She is more than likely one of those who have to touch the fire to find out it's hot.

Answer 10

just ask her if shes looking for a father figure or maybe she just likes older guys?? does he work or sells drugs?? he probably has kids elsewhere??maybe shes his maid???