last year i decided to date a really good friend of mine, "Michelle" (who had just recently broke up with my best friend "Sue" - god i hate lesbians!! ha) anyway, i dated her and realized how hurt "Sue" was so i broke up "Michelle" soon after (mostly because of Sue's feelings...) however, it's been quite some time and "Michelle" has made it very clear that she still loves me...and i can't deny that i don' thave feelings for her too - but what keep's me from going back to her is how much it would hurt "Sue" again... Is this the correct reason not to be with "Michelle" again? Am i doing what is in my best interest?
(i know it's confusing...but it's real...welcome to the world of lesbianism!!!)
2007-02-06 02:21:16 · 12 answers · asked by Taken by a Texan 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
How many times do you need to ask this? Is it until you get an answer that agrees with what you already know?
Either: go out with Michelle - because YOU BOTH WANT TO (Sue can find someone else to console her)
or deny them both access to your lovelife and keep them both as friends.
2007-02-06 03:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she didn't break up with your friend to be with you, and it has been a reasonable amount of time, you should follow your heart. I understand Sue will be upset, but people do break up, and lesbian dating tends to be pretty incestual. (Meaning, my ex is dating my good friend's ex, who used to date my exe's ex.... It really is Gays of Our Lives.) Eventually, Sue and Michelle may be able to be friends again. In the meatime, you don't want to miss out on someone who might be the love of your life, just because she used to date your friends.
Side note: I met my wife in an elevator. We had the rare distinction of never having dated anyone that the other knew. It was pretty unusual. :)
2007-02-06 02:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by Beth B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a situation where you're kind of gonna have to choose between "michelle and "sue". what would be in your best interest would be to choose the one who truly matters the most to you. the friendship you have with "sue" or the relationship you could have with "michelle". the reason i said you have to choose between them is because there's a very good chance of you going back to michelle could completely ruin your friendship with sue but then again no matter how hurt she was back then she could be over it now. you need to ask sue how would she feel if you would start dating michelle and try to see how she responds to it.
2007-02-06 03:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go back to Michelle. it's unhealthy to break up a friend's relationship just because of one's own personal issues. Sue needs help getting on with her life and forcing you and Michelle appart isn't the solution to her problem(s).
2007-02-06 06:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats up pay interest, your so fortunate that this woman has emotions for you too! when I first fell in love with a lady, she didnt sense an identical way and it change right into a hurtful expereince! Your difficulty is a few distance more effective then mine is and in case your going to enable this one slip with assistance from because of your friends, then i think sorry for you! Your going to finally end up regretting and wishing something occurred! merely bypass consisting of your heart, in case you want her and he or she likes you too than there is no damage there, merely be jointly and dont difficulty about your friends! they receives over it and bypass on. good success
2016-11-02 11:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you deep down in your heart think is right. If that means being with michelle then do it.
2007-02-06 02:56:05 · answer #6 · answered by Crush06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine how confusing it would be if I were involved in a lesbian love triangle. I hope this helps.
2007-02-06 02:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may be YOUR world of lesbianinsm...but its DEFINITELY not mine! Thank God. Im 100% lesbian but i've never been involved in this kind of drama!
2007-02-06 03:43:37 · answer #8 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you had me at lesbian love triangle i join them
2007-02-06 04:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by txlesbian06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date a guy. They don't have any feelings so you don't have to worry about things like that....
2007-02-06 02:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by bumpy560 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋