should i take her back?

Question

i met this girl bout 6mnths ago n we really hit it off 2gether she was funny, kind, and i liked everything about her. she said that she really liked me a wanted to see how things go. she moved in with me and we were inseperable until i took her away for a wkend with some of my family she started to ignore me whilst we were away, then she would start arguements when i got friendly with with other people. the next thing i no ive walked in on her kissing my uncle. i finished it with her but we were still talking. when we came home from our wkend away she said sorry and she wanted me bk n i accepted but 3days later i come home to her packing a few bags and she said she was going to get some head space and stay with her mum, later that day her mum rang me to speak to her daughter... not knowing where she has gone i foned my uncle to see if he had heard from her and he said that he hadnt for me to find out a few hrs later that shes moved down there with him. now 2 wks on she wants to come bk

Answer 1

Please don't let her come back. She's only using you as a doormat, grow a backbone and stop the cycle right now.

Answer 2

Hi Whistaferian
You obviously like this girl a lot or you would not have introduced her to your family, & would not be thinking about taking her back after what has happened..
You are asking for other peoples opinions, knowing fullwell that from the way you have described her actions that they will tell you to leave well alone.
This is a difficult call for anyone, but Is it something else I wonder? You have to ask yourself .. How much do you need her? can you accept the way she is? Can you trust her? What do you want from the relationship?
Then you can put it to her, not as conditions but more as concensus of opinions for any future together. You have to find out if she wants the same things as you do?
You are probably feeling a bit mixed up & hurt, not because she might want a bit of man loving but because she lied to you about it, you say you are still talking so that is a good thing,
If you both decide that being together as a couple is what you both want, then I hope you can work out your differences, you must both be able to trust each other, so insist no lies.
Forgive your uncle he is only a man.
Goodluck whatever you decide

Answer 3

There are way too many choices for you out there to take this one back! Cheating is horrible enough, but with a family member!? She is nasty and does not respect herself or you - stay clear of her and find yourself a better girl. Once you pull yourself out of this situation you will realize what a mistake she is.

This move has destroyed all trust. By taking her back you are showing her that it is okay to treat you this way. If she really does love you, she would have NEVER cheated on you or left you for someone else - especially your uncle. What kind of relationship would you two have after this has all been done? She is definitely not the girl you thought she was when you fell for her.... Things between you two will never be the same again, your perception and your family's perception of her is not what it once was. You two are just not meant to be.... higher your standards honey.

Answer 4

Run away, run fast. Things don't end unless they are bad, and to be honest if it was meant to be between you two - it would have worked out the first time, love should not be this hard, at this early stage in a relationship you should be having fun and getting to know one another not worrying if she is snogging your Dad in his study whilst the rest of the family are downstairs tucking into a roast dinner !! Good luck x

Answer 5

Hell NO!!! She is using you, you are only an option when something else ain't working out for her. I thought only straight women went through that kind of stuff. If you value yourself, then you need to start actin like it. If you are the type of chick that deserves to be sat on the shelf then take her back, cuz you will be back on the shelf in a month or less. But if you deserve something better, dont tell her about it, show her!!!!

Answer 6

Don't be stupid !! She chose her bed and now she can lie in it with your uncle !! You've only met her 6 months ago - move on and leave her and your uncle in the past. You will meet a perfect girl for you soon i promise, don't waste another second of your time on her

Answer 7

NO WAY! that's a little extreme, you can so find someone better than her. And you will be happy you did. Why be with someone that you have to keep an eye on, If you don't trust her 100% (and she has proven to you that she can't be trusted) don't be with her. She is the dumb one!

Answer 8

Absolutely not! You can't trust her because she's cheated on you. Your friend, obviously, has some issues that she needs to deal with before she will be faithful to anyone. Don't let yourself in for more hurt; find someone that deserves your trust!

Answer 9

Tell her to stay with your uncle because your going out to find someone genuine and caring

Answer 10

if you like having the p*ss taking out of you then let her come back to you, honestly once is bad enough and you were good enough to give her a second chance, i wouldnt give her another, shes not worth it and doesnt sound like gf material to me, next time she might run off with your cousin, or your best mate dont give her the chance

Answer 11

She confused she wants a man and a woman ! Both of you are giving her something the other one can't give her.Maybe all three should move in together.