from being straight and liking women till your in your teens and then all of a sudden wake up and be gay from then on?
2007-02-06 02:09:41 · 24 answers · asked by omgitsamonster 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No.
2007-02-06 02:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No you cannot. Only if it was always there and you surpressed it can you suddenly come out. Don't worry, no one just becomes gay, its impossible. You either are, or you aren't.
If you have always been attracted to bois and just never allowed anything to develop, while forcing yourself to "like" girls cause "everyone does" then sure -- you can come out. If that were true then, you were never straight though.
It's thoughts not actions that matter. If you are exclusively sexually attracted to girls -- when you are honest and do nothing to block your feelings -- then you are straight.
If you are attracted to both, bi
If you are attracted to males only -- gay.
If you are not sure, I would go to a place like this group ( http://groups.yahoo.com/group/GayMalePictures/ ) [I am presuming you are 18+] -- join, go through the file folder and look at the pics. Be brutally honest with yourself, don't come in with expectations.
If you react sexually OR if you find yourself disgusted, you may want to look deeper. You may be surpressing something.
if you have no reaction, and are kinda like -- ok -- then you should stop worrying and go on with life, cause you are straight.
The reason for that break down is that a person who is subconsciously reacting, but denying it -- expresses disgust or anger at the things that are causing the reaction to prevent themselves from recognizing their own reaction. So, when the Taliban was in power in Afghanistan, they shot a grandmother to death in front of her 8 year old son, because she lifted her skirt high enough to show her ankle crossing a puddle. Likewise men who are homophobic are, according to studies, homophobic more than 60% of the time because they are reacting sexually, and covering that by having anger and disgust directed at gay males. Therefore, while only arousal or interest shows definitely that you are bi or gay --- finding yourself disgusted at something that should be pretty nuetral really -- may indicate something is hidden. If you have no reaction though, you are just plain straight, be happy.
Contact me if you need to talk.
Kind thoughts,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2007-02-06 10:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
More likely just brainwashed into going out with women because that's what you're expected to do, and the alternative as presented by conservatives is such a horrible meaningless existence that it does not bear consideration. A lot of men marry women, have children, and they end up breaking up when they finally accept that something is missing from the relationship. Dating and having sex with women doesn't make you "straight", just a good actor.
2007-02-06 13:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by kena2mi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people start having sexual desires or awakenings beginning in their teens. It starts with puberty and your hormones just start going crazy.
People are taught that one day you will have a wife or husband to marry; a member of the opposite sex. They are taught to conform to one moral code of living. The reality is that there are variations in a person’s sexuality and personal identity because nature is diverse. It is illogical to think that we can all be the same.
I suspect what is happening to you is that you are simply becoming more aware of your sexuality, which is, as you are finding out, a very strong urge. It is natural because you are apart of the whole process of nature. In time you will figure out for your self where your identity lies. Whether gay or bisexual or heterosexual you are completely and utterly and undeniably... human.
Best to you,
Jason
2007-02-06 11:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wake up gay every day.
But that doesn't answer your question. I agree with the others; one comes to a slow realization, sometimes there's an internal struggle, and finally through lots of tears, praying, research, and exploration one accepts their sexual orientation.
2007-02-06 10:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by behrmark 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I had fantasies about having intercourse with girls when I was in junior high and high school and I had a girl friend (all friend, no sex). But I had a sexual attraction to two of my best friends at that time, too. I made out with several girls in college, got them off pretty well, but I was having sex with a guy at the same time. The only "change" from straight to gay was when I admitted that, for me, with guys there's a special "magic" that just isn't there with gals.
2007-02-06 10:17:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not really. The only thing close it waking up and realizing you've been trying to hide your feelings all the time and start opening up and telling people you are gay
2007-02-06 10:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No.
It's always there but we have difficulty recognising it. Did you wake up one day and starting saying, "God, I so want that girl!"? Like straight who take some years to bloom, gays also develop with time. Gradually, they'll start having feeling for guys until the feeling transforms into aattraction and one day love!
2007-02-06 10:17:59 · answer #8 · answered by Ieshwar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No...you don't "turn gay".
It's part of you...kind of like having brown hair. You wouldn't wake up one day with brown hair if you were blonde all your life would you?
2007-02-06 10:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by Melanie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can wake up one day and realize you have been fighting with yourself over this issue.
2007-02-06 10:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would imply not simply a choice but an physical switch that could be turned "on" and "off" at will.
Now that's funny!
2007-02-06 12:20:34 · answer #11 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋