Why is life to hard on you.? Why do bad things need to happen to me....
how do you deal with life?
everything.....around me feels like is ending
and oppportunities that i had are not there any more...
im a guy and i feel like crying...
i prayed but i dont know if it helped...
why is life so hard?
i found out yesterday that...
my exgirlfriend...
might be having a child...
im with someone else right now...
and i dont know what to do.
2007-02-06 01:56:50 · 9 answers · asked by david r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm not even going to get on the subject of how my life has been hard as it would take all day to type. I think having a hard life makes a person smarter, and a better person. I know so much more through my past experiences than I have ever thought I would know on certain subjects. Life is just a big test. I believe after we die we reincarnate into someone new and retain our lessons learned from our previous life. Until we develop into a higher and more intelligent being. I think that explains why some people are smarter than others it isn't that they are stupid to life's problems just a naive, inexperienced soul just starting out in life. You have to look at life as a series of tests you will always pass them as long as your alive whether you want to or not, as you have no control over someone else's actions towards you. They only way you fail is if you check out early and commit suicide. I understand you hurt over the discovery of your ex being pregnant that is totally understandable. It hurts to loose someone even if you think you have moved on. You are dealing with the finality that the realtionship is over and she is with someone new. I can't believe guys have such a hard time crying. It okay for a guy to bawl his eyes out. It is part of the healing process. It will take time and most people don't ever truly get over someone they love. But some day you will be happy again. Hang in there and stay strong, I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-06 02:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by Destiny 5 · 10⤊ 5⤋
Life is unfair. The unfairness builds character and teaches you.
Beyond that, if you look around, there is always some poor sap that has it worse than you do. You might want to count your blessings.
I'm guessing the baby is yours? You might want to make sure of that with a simple paternity test. If she's keeping the child, I guess you have to pay child support, if not, you will have to sign adoption papers (possibly). It doesn't mean you have to run out on your current relationship but you can't exactly walk away from the other like nothing ever happened, either.
Good luck. The situation is more common than you may think and certainly not the end of the world.
2007-02-06 02:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by Charlie 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how old you are but it sound's like you have made some mistake's (which is part of life) that you have to deal with in order for life to get better you just have to face up to your past before you can go on happily, first find out for real if she is pregnant, Can you talk to your parent's for guidance? Because they can best help you if that's possible. If not please find someone older and wiser to help you. Then if she is pregnant you will have no choice but to tell your new girl friend if she decide's to have this baby, but take it one step at a time (find out for sure asap). Life is what you make it so try to consider the consequences of your action's from now on and your life can be much happier.
Good Luck and thing's will get better
2007-02-06 02:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Take one day at a time or you well feel over whelmed. Have a paternity test done on your ex, don't take her word that this is your child. Sit your new gal down and tell what is going on and if she really cares about you she well be there for you.
2007-02-06 02:02:41 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
be strong.no one told us life is fair.i've been through hell at a young age,and now that i've grown mature,i tend to regret everything that has happened. i really did hate the wrong decisions that i had before,the impulsive acts that i've done..i kept on saying i should not have done this, i should have done this...
keep your focus. don't lose your balance. do what is right this time..
2007-02-06 02:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by warrior is a child 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
pray, life is only as hard as we make it. i would suggest finding out for sure if your ex is indeed expecting. and if she is just tell your new girl the truth. It is easy to move on with the truth versus being kept in the dark about things. you can still be a father without being involved romantically with the mother of your child.
2007-02-06 02:26:45 · answer #6 · answered by trey0540 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Sometimes life can throw you 5 blows in a row and you ask yourself why me??, things happen for a reason and we don't know why at that time. Let her go emotionally, keep yourself busy and show her you have gotten on with your life, that is the best thing you could do for yourself. Hang in there and keep positive and you will see things change for the better. =)
2007-02-06 02:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by Gabriele 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I ask myself the same question everyday. I wish you all the best bro. Don't give up.
2007-02-06 02:06:52 · answer #8 · answered by Myself 4 · 20⤊ 0⤋
Life is what you make it - nobody said it would be easy.
2007-02-06 02:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋