Hi I was hanging out with a guy friend of mine(who knew I liked him until I found out he is taken) in my room. We were snuggling and cuddling and he wanted me to cuddle with him. I was like "You have a girlfriend and you're engaged!" he's like "I don't know what you call it, she's not really anymore".
Then as we talked, he looked into my eyes and said "You're fighting something, go ahead and do it." Which I wasn't fighting anything so he seduced me and we did it. After that we both promised we'd never have sex again.
So the next day I felt really bad, I felt like an adulteress. I asked him why did he screw me when he had a fiance, he didn't answer and I said that's cheating and I guess if it didn't mean anything I guess it's fine.
So the next day, he deleted me from Myspace.
What's going on?? Did he just use me or did he have feelings for me?
2007-02-06 01:56:26 · 22 answers · asked by thegetgo291 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He stayed awhile after we did it and we hugged and cuddled some more
2007-02-06 02:00:59 · update #1
I'm not blamin anyone
2007-02-06 02:05:45 · update #2
It seems he doesn't know what he wants. As Chris Rock said, A man is only as faithful as his options.
You wrote: I asked him why did he screw me when he had a fiance
Ask yourself why you screwed him knowing he has a fiance. I feel bad for his fiance. That is terrible.
I would just cut him out of your life. You don't ever want to be involved with someone who cheats after making his relationship official with another woman. You're better off without him (not to mention her).
How would you feel if you were her?
2007-02-06 03:22:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You came across a clever 'player'. Learn the lesson and move on. Examine the responsibility you have in this situation...you put yourself in a vulnerable spot and expected something unrealistic to take place. You should never have been hanging out with a guy that was engaged to someone else. He doesn't have feelings for you. He wasn't loyal to his girlfriend and he wouldn't be loyal to you either. You now have the opportunity to make different decisions in the future. I hope you pass on this one and let it go. Your self respect is worth more than his attention. I suggest you stop trying to communicate with this guy in any form. Good Luck
2007-02-06 02:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may have had feelings but they're not what girls feel or want. We are wired differently when it comes to that kind of thing. Girls "fall in love" and boys fall in lust. Some of us never ever know or feel the type of love that women feel in our entire life times. I know it's unfair, but it's reality. That's why there so much misunderstanding between the sexes and couples in relationships. The younger the boy/man, the less emotional maturity you'll find. It's not that he used you, per se. He is experiencing life via all the people who come into his. You just happen to be a girl in the process, so to speak.
2007-02-06 01:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he used you and you let him! It takes two, don't put all the blame on him, your at fault as well as he is. It is never a good thing to do the dirty with a good friend at all. The relationship will never be the same. I hope you can put it aside and get on with your life, and maybe you have learned something from all of it.
2007-02-06 02:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how I would be soft with you! I'm surprised that you allowed one without knowing that he loves you or not. Even you had doubt that he has a fiance. Now, when he had had what he wanted from you, he cut off from you. If he ever want some more *** from you, he may contact you. Otherwise FORGET him.
Yes, he doesn't have any feeling for you.
2007-02-06 02:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by dnagsarkar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just used you because he wanted sex.If someone is engaged or dating someone don't have sex with them because it leads to bad things.I understand that it really wasn't your fault. You may have maybe felt awkward in a situation like that. Just stay away from him and you will be fine.And if they say that they aren't engaged and they were engaged just say "no".You may want to get a test for AIDS,STDS or any other disease just to be safe.
Hope that was Helpful!!
2007-02-06 02:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Dimmo And Di 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you allowed yourself to be used. You set yourself up to be used, and he took advantage of it. Now, you are upset with him. You don't bring a guy into your bedroom and don't cuddle with a him on your bed without something happening. You should be upset with yourself for trying to get someone who is suppose to be in committed relationship. He is a dog, but you did wrong too.
2007-02-06 02:10:08 · answer #7 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say it sounds like he got sexually excited and decided sex was more imported than being faithful to his girlfriend. Now he is worried his girlfriend might find out so he is dodging you.
Yes, I would say he used you.
2007-02-06 02:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by Phuzzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may have feelings for you and then he felt guilty after your affair. I would let him go now...you wouldn't want him anyway...he is a cheater!! I feel really bad for his fiance.
2007-02-06 02:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by luvmykids 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He used you. Got what he wanted and dropped you.
Guys are like that
2007-02-06 02:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋