to work or not?

Question

i am feeling like i don't want to work now i don't need to cause my hubbys money keeps us very well and mine just pays for nursey 2 days a week when i'm here.the only thing is she likes nursery and i feel like it is selfish on my part she goes two days and is 10 months 2 weeks old. I only came back cause of pnd and needed to get out but i don't feel that way anymore.

someone put be independant i don't want to be we're a family i am a unit with my husband we don't work without each other and thats how we like it

Answer 1

My son is 10 months old 2, i never went back 2 work cos i didn't want to leave him, and i didn't need 2, i couldn't imagine leaving him with anyone, i think your daughter would prefer you to be at home, if you can. I take my son to a mother and baby/toddler group and he loves that, so that's where he socialises with other children.
If you feel you need 2 work 4 u then stay at work cos if your happy your baby will be happy. Discuss with your husband

Answer 2

I gave up work last summer when my daughter was 13 months old - she had been in nursery from 8 months. It was a difficult decision, I had a really good career and excellent job, but I regretted not spending the time with my baby and watching her grow. I've been off 5 months now and I don't regret it one bit. My problem was that I was never home - left for work at 5am some days and came home 7pm other days, she was off to bed when I got in!

As you are talking about part time, I do think that when she is older nursery and playing with other children would do her good, but to be honest we go out and see people even though she's just with me and she's very sociable. No problems. You only get one chance at watching them grow up I think! Good luck in whatever you decide.

Answer 3

If you don't want to work - is it because of your job? Maybe try and find something thats better suited to you and can still fit in around your baby going to nursery. Nursery is definately a good idea for babies, whether you're working or not, as it gets them socialised from an early age, and this is definately a good idea for future.

Maybe if you're doing something you enjoy - maybe volunteering or something, you will still be able to get out of the house - being a housewife can be stifling if you're doing it 7 days a week - so i would recommend you still going out whilst your baby is at nursery and maybe join a club or get another hobby - the world is your oyster! And i just wish that one day I could be in the same boat - my husband and i are struggling on our combined incomes, and we want a baby, but it seems we will just have to wait.

Good luck and enjoy your future!

Answer 4

That's a tough one. I have a 16 month old girl and i don't work. I don't want to work either, like you my partner can afford to keep us nicely. I do think it's a good idea for your child to go to nursery just for other child interaction but why not go to a few mum and toddler groups instead? They are much cheaper than a full 2 days at nursery. being able to stay a home while your child grows up is such a privilege, I know some people would kill to be in our position. Ask your husband what he thinks?

Answer 5

well what you could do is work part time that way you could have some time to be you and be mommy. it is always healthy to have time where you are not mom, but you. it is also good for her to go to a daycare or nursery. it will teach her social skills that most kids that are with mom til school don't develop til later on in life.trust me i am a full time mom of an 8month old and a full time data entry clerk, and you have no idea how wonderful it is to just be a me, not mom 24/7. i love my daughter to death, but we all need a break. i know how hard it is to walk away to go to work. i feel so selfish. but bills need to be paid and she WILL survive without me for 9 hrs a day.to help with my seperation from her i have her pics all over my desk. also this way you can save up some of your money, that you worked for, and do something special with your daughter, like a mother/daughter day. whatever you decide is what will work for you and only you can make that decision. good luck and take good care of that baby.

Answer 6

I have two boys one year and two years and I know the struggle you're going through.
I have very strong motherly instincts and when I had my boys the only place I wanted to be was with my children, I am now back at university through my own choice but when I am there all I think about are my babies.
My mother raised 4 children on her own when my dad left 17 years ago, if you want to stay at home with your children I say go for it your children will thank you for it and if your husband earns enough money and he's okay with it then why the hell not!!!!

Answer 7

I am like you, my son goes to the sitter 1-2 days a week. I think if you are fortunate enough to have time with your baby and time for yourself at work, then you should do that. My son is always in a wonderful mood after he's been at the sitter, I know he likes it. My baby is such a "people person" and I attribute that to getting out of the house to go to the sitter. I work in a hospital, so there are some weeks where there's not enough patients for me to be able to work and I know after those weeks that I made the right decision to work part-time because it's good for both me and my baby. Hope this helps with your decision. Good luck!

Answer 8

Don't listen to anyone on here, not even me if you don't want to. This is your life, your baby and your family's decision. You should do what makes you happy because if your happy your baby is happy. If it's work great go for it, if it's stay home, then do that, at the end of the day nobody on here has the right to tell you what is right and wrong in your life. Just do what makes your family happy do what you think is right for all of you! Don't let other people put you off because they disagree with your choice, it is not going to affect any of us, only you and your family.
Be happy !

Answer 9

if finacially you dont need to work then i say to work just a day or two. as long as you have someone you trust to watch your baby. im in the same situation. however i have three children. my husband is constantly at work so i pretty much take care of everything myself. i have gone back to work for just a day or two just to get me out of the house and give me and the kids a break from each other. you need to do what makes you happy. its good to be around other adults though not just confined with your child and its also good if she gets to be around other children it will help her in the future. even if you dont go back she can still go to the nursery and you could use the time to get things done or take a nap. hope things work out for you

Answer 10

If you don't need to work, then I think you should feel very fortunate because most Mom's today don't have that choice. Should you decide to stay home you can always get involved in outings with other Moms and babies to give your child some social time with others. I think the most important job in the world is raising children so feel good about staying home with your child. It's one thing I don't think you will ever regret doing.