Basically, would you speak to the person about what she said, or would you just carry on reguardless, still speak to the person, but keep your distance?
2007-02-06 00:23:41 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It was a 'mate' who said some nasty comments about me to somebody else, but shes not perfect.. just JELOUS I think!!!
2007-02-06 00:29:19 · update #1
This is from personal experience, two of my so called friends were talking about me through email and make accident or so I'm lead to believe i some how got sent the email which had allot of hurtful things in it. What i should have done was talk to them and try to sort this out or at least end on good terms but i was so hurt that i lashed out on them which then resulted in them bad mouthing me o anyone and everyone and make up lies and rumours. So i would suggest talk to the nicely if they become anger then i would leave it. a true friend is someone who you can trust. not someone who talks about you.
We have then made things back up to point that if we pasted each other in the street we would say hi. that is it really, i can't forgive no matter how much i have tried because on each leave they have hurt me.
Its up to you what you do, and if they nothing or pretend they didn't say anything or start making fun don't sink to there level you'll be better off with people who are your real friends.
i hope this as helped.
2007-02-06 00:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by Lynda27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well having been in this situation myself, i confronted this person without repeating what had been set and said that i was aware of things being said about me behind my back, i was prepared to let it go but if she wanted to say anything to me i would be much more receptive if i was the first person to know about any problem she might have with me. My friend was set back by my forwardness but it has made a friendship a lot stronger and a lot straighter with each other,,,,,, true friendship can withstand anything!!! if she walks away she was never true in the first place.
2007-02-06 00:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by Angie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. I used to work with a girl who spread a load of rumours about me & another girl, she did this because she was jealous at the fact i just wasnt in to her. i thought about saying something to her, but figured that in the end it just want worth it because enuff people knew that she was full of sh!t anyway & what she said was a load of tosh. It also made me feel sorry for the poor lass in the sense that she had nowt better to do than make up stuff about me! I have however kept my distance from said girl since then.
2007-02-06 00:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by Jay A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say I slag people off, sometimes I let off steam about my friends to my partner. I do say things to him that I wouldn't necessarily say to their faces. Sometimes, people irritate me or upset me, but not to a point that I necessarily need to tell them. Sometimes I just have a little moan to hubby. Fair play to anyone who genuinally never criticises another person behind their back. Edit - I have a friend who is brutally honest, she never really slags off behind backs, she says what she feels she needs to say to your face. It's incredible abrasive and sometimes unnecessary. I dont think you always have to tell everyone what you think about them all the time.
2016-05-23 23:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by Betsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you telling this girl that you know what was said get the person who told you into trouble? If not, then if I were you I'd have a quiet word with the girl and say "I heard you were saying this about me, and I'm hurt as I thought we were friends". Then listen to her side of the story. Don't pick a fight - its not dignified and just brings you down to her level.
2007-02-06 00:42:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could waste energy and time trying to work out who said what and why, or you could consign it to the mental bin and carry on as you were. You may want to question the motives of both people - the person who allegedly criticised you, and the person who told you of it.
Personally I wouldn't bother with it. It's what you think about yourself that matters.
2007-02-06 00:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How do you know this person has actually talked behind your back? Did another friend tell you this?
Often it can be a he said she said game when you have more thantwo friends, and especially if they like playing you off against each other.
Personally i would ignore it and get on with life.
2007-02-06 00:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by lonely as a cloud 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely speak to her about it and ask her why she said/did it. Tell her that it hurt your feelings and please have some respect and not do things like this again or you will have to part friends. If you don't confront her, she will never know how it made you feel. Take care Heather
2007-02-06 00:28:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would confront the person and ask what there problem is.
Once you confront her she will either lie or admit it then on you can dertermine what she is. A liar or just a plain bi*ch
Good luck
2007-02-06 00:28:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it, sounds like petty jealousy. If you don't react, she'll find out it's no fun to make nasty comments about other people. You'll turn out to be the better person, and other people will see her for the petty person she is.
2007-02-06 02:46:42 · answer #10 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋