for MEN only!!!???

Question

1. married or not married-why can't u be satisfied with ur wife or gf? why ur still trying or having another woman/women in ur life? but still ur keeping ur real gf & original wife with u? is dat normal for u guys?

2.why is dat u don't like talks with ur lover? or even u avoid confrontations especially if ur having arguements with her? why ur not listening?

3. do u really enjoy gossips also?

3.

the things is, i have been along since childhood with group of guys as my friends & brothers...& i know dem, been with dem, know wats going on...just wondering why dey still do this stuff, dey only said to me, its natural...lolz!but really, is it?
men r born to be polygamous dey said...defend urself guys!!!
really, just wondering...:-) & also, searching for answers...

Answer 1

All right, for the sake of humor - I'm going to attempt to answer this. First of all, most men are self centered. Women are objects in their eyes. I am sure that there are a good number who would disagree with me but their actions speak louder than their words of denial. The reasoning behind this, in my opinion, lays in the way American society portrays women as "things" instead of people. Just listen to the latest rap song out, that sports videos of women dressed in clothing that make them appear to street walkers. Look at the way that the fashion industry is producing clothing that has more “sex appeal” for our children who are in junior highschool/middle school. Shoot, there is even a company (dunno who off hand) that makes thongs for 10 year old girls!! If American society is not making women out to be sex objects – I don’t know what is going on then. Its easy to respect a person – but harder a “thing” because you “use” things.
I would have to say that men - overall - are not akin to talking about their emotions. American society has made such a thing a stigma. It is more popular for a man to go drinking with their friends and talk about their "bitches" /"old ladys" and other problems. Yes, men gossip but not in the same way that women do. Men tend to speak of things as if they are objects and not items of personal attachment. Again, you use “objects” but you respect and honor items of personal attachment. Now, I understand that this description does not fit every man but I do feel that it is a popular among a majority of American men. Men just do not talk to women about things that affect them emotionally - unless they have reached a point in thier lives where they feel that they must vent because they have succumbed to uncopable stress (a break down).
Men do listen to women but women do not think that men care about their issues. Perhaps to some degree, I agree that men don’t care but on the other hand I disagree. For me, I am married and my wife has on occasion accused me of not listening to her. I do listen to her but I do not relate to issues as she does. She seems to stress over little things and I just cannot understand why she cannot see things from a ‘big picture’ perspective. So, because I cannot relate to her issues – I cannot become as interested in the topic as she would like for me to. I love her dearly but I am not her and will not understand life as seen through her eyes. It is because of this that she will forever feel that I do not care about how she feels about things. I know that is not entirely true but there is nothing I can do about it. Where there are times where I do feel I can do something – I really do try.

Lastly, as I bring this response to a close I want to readdress the self centeredness of men, that I mentioned earlier. I think that because the center of a man’s world is predominately himself – tending to those close to him comes secondary. How different would a man’s character be if he put his wife/girlfriend’s desires/needs/concerns before his own? Surely such a sacrificial act is not common among American men. Who ever heard of catering to your significant other before catering to your own desires/needs first? Well, personally I believe that doing as much is very possible for any man but not all the time. I have a ranking which I use to explain my priorities. The list goes as follows: God, wife, child, myself, family, friends, others. That is how I see things and how I live my life. I cannot tell you how much I have given up or sacrificed just to make my wife happy/comfortable but she is worth it to me. She completes me in ways no one else but God can and I feel a deep, intrinsic need to take care of her because of that. My wife is my right hand and I treat her accordingly. My left hand cannot do anything by itself and will always have a need for the right hand for support and strength. Keep in mind that if I attempt to do tasks with my left, when use to completing those tasks with my right, I feel awkward and out of place. I often find difficulty in completing the task overall.
So, I forgot to address the first question…oops. I am satisfied with my wife but as any couple knows – a sex life is nothing of constancy. Women have periods where they just don’t want to have sex. To me sex is a very important component of a relationship. When a man’s sexual needs are not addressed and taken care of – it is easier for him to turn his head and look else where for the attention that he wants. Granted this does not mean that any given man is going to cheat because his needs are not being taken care of. Many may agree with the saying “You can look but you cannot touch.” In deed, my wife is not the most attractive and beautiful woman in the world. There will always be grass that seems greener in other pastures – that is just life. I, however, enjoy the pasture I live in. My wife is the most attractive and beautiful woman in my world and that is all that matters to me. That is not to say, however, that I will not look over the fence – its only natural to do as much. I don’t see a problem as long as I don’t start desiring and lusting after what is not in my own pasture – if you know what I mean. It is one thing to look – it is another to want.
Hope this helps.

Answer 2

1. - not married. I am satisfied.

2.- have talks all the time. Try to avoid conflicts with everyone because they are not conducive to constructive relationships. Relationships are like complex electronic equipment: delicate. If you shake them up or bang them around too much they may still look the same on the outside but they may never work as well again. I do listen.

3.- gossip is enjoyed by everyone, whether it's the news, or sports or relationships.

Answer 3

well I can see where this is going so I will answer your question with this, are you at all aware that just as many women cheat on their men as men cheat on women? probably not, anyways I am single and haven't had a girlfriend in I couldn't tell you how long, I guess it's because I am the guy that is shy and doesn't have all the looks and the money but you know if I had one I'd definitely be happy with what I had, and yeah I enjoy the gossip as well

Answer 4

1. Everythins is easy, just think logically, Men trying have another woman for two reasons: first: his wife or gf doesn't satisfy him, second: he hasn't a big goals, all his life is enjoying, such men are not truthworthy, Real wife or gf, especially wife do morrally support her husband.
But for some guys, who has the goal in his life, one girl is enough. People dicisions depends on their "values" of the life.
2. Technical question, Bs lovers only for sex, usually lovers are stinkers, every not stupid men know it is dangerous to give some information about you, dangerous for his family.
3. Only women enjoy gossips, men enjoy criticts.
4. for advice, Clever men act according to the girl. If she is stupid and beautiful it is for sex, if clever and ugly for business, if wise and beautiful for wife + very good in sex + wise men = forever only with wife.
Usually, wise girls are not beautiful, but beauty is not barrier, it is enough to be nice,

Answer 5

I didn't understand you.
Are you asking that why u should stay with your lover when he is looking at some other girl? Is It that?
Or
Just why men look at other girls when they having their own beloved one.

My dear Getting apart or getting closer is a 50/50 share of thoughts and actions. I mean to say that when you loose some object it may be your negligence also right?

Why you blame MEN?

May be your second question is answering the first question look at it once my dear !

Nobody enjoys gossips girls are more prone to them and more uncomfortable with them.

Regarding Men, They don't care them as much as women care them.

Answer 6

Life is one big beauty contest. You are always searching for something better until you can't find anything better. And even when you find something that is so perfect there is something wrong. It is perfectly normal trust me. When you find someone that is not perfect and see them as perfect then you will know that that person is your souls recognition of your counterpart. (love) You may love your wife/gf but when you see some hott butt walking buy your most likely going to look. It's natural!

Answer 7

Ma'm. You've gotta have aserious sit-down with your Love Interest. If there's problems of trust. You may need to take it somewhere else. Problems aren't always the Mens, fault. Sometimes, it our unwillingness to tell Our Lady, that she's messing up. You could be doing something to cause him to act this way.

Answer 8

1. I don't cheat and wouldn't cheat
2. I like talking to my partner, and i avoid confrontations because i don't want it to get worst, it's called compromise. And i do listen.
3. i don't gossip..only girls does that.

Answer 9

men always like to gossip they just dont admit it , we always listen we just dont always take it in , you can have a fridge full of steak but we,ll always fancy a burger its all in the genes or jeans

Answer 10

wow now now i no why I'm not married or got a girl Friend