2007-02-06 00:16:59 · 13 answers · asked by Lew 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is the tough question which I am facing. I have tried to meet someone else but it never works. I know that I can never go back to my wife. So I have been in limbo a long time.
Recently I met a woman on the street in University City ( a part of St. Louis.) With her two beautiful daughters, she was singing and dancing to Christian music trying to interest others in attending church (any church.)
She said that she has been separated from her husband for 10 years and now is getting a divorce. She does not hate him but just wants to do the right thing since if you never see a person, it doesn't make sense to be married to him/her.
Now, for the question of remarrying. A person who has suffered a lot may never want to remarry since the person can find companionship with friends, family, etc. However, some people feel strongly that they can't live alone.
Our society makes it difficult to live alone. I would not cast any stones at a person who remarries although all the churches don't agree on this complicated subject.
2007-02-06 00:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, ludybug got it dead wrong. You on the other hand have pretty much gotten it right. People are allowed to divorce with the option to remarry another, if their spouse cheats on them. That is it. Otherwise, they are to be reconciled to one another or they are to remain single and celibate. Now, God did not say that this was only how believers were to act. He said this is for all. It is even more so for Christians, as they are to be followers(obeyors) of Christ and his teachings. If they are not, then they are not really Christians, no matter what they try to tell you. To the person who said keep Christ out of M & D. Dude, where do you think the morals and rules come from? This is one of the most Godly matters people deal with, as it involves sex, family, etc. So many of you are scared to death of dealing with God. I have to assume it is because so many of you know you are wrong and you just do not want to or cannot face that fact. Guess what, death and judgment come even if you do not want to face it or deal with it. It is not a matter of what you thing or believe. It is a matter of what God said he wants, what he thinks is right and what his rules are. The only choice any of us have is to either disobey and deal with the consequences or obey and get the reward. It is that simple. In regards to abuse. The Bible did not list any reason for scriptural divorce, other than the mate cheating. Those who list abuse are adding to the scriptures, which we are not to do. We are not to add to or take away from the scriptures. Plus many do not want to admit the following: Much of what is called abuse now a days, is not really abuse. Many who claim to be abused, had all the warnings in the world of how the other was yet went ahead and married. That is making a choice, not abuse. Do not be fooled. People keep trying to make Gods word cover for them and their own wrongs and own choices.
2016-03-15 07:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course they can - there is no legal exception for christians. The church they belong to may have opposed the divorce and therefore may refuse to perform a wedding for anyone who has been divorced, had chrn outside of marriage, etc but legally they can marry. They may have to seek a more liberal church or have a civil ceremony but they can certainly remarry.
2007-02-06 00:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
God, the Originator of marriage, designed it to be a permanent union. But is there any Scriptural reason for a person to divorce his or her mate—and one that would allow for the possibility of remarrying? Jesus addressed this matter by declaring: "I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery." (Matthew 19:9) Sexual infidelity by a mate is the only ground for a divorce that will allow the innocent mate to remarry.
According to the Bible, the only legitimate ground for divorce that permits remarriage is adultery or "fornication."—Matthew 5:32.
2007-02-06 00:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
A friend of mine married his ex wife, again. The only problem with the whole setup is that he ended up with a bratty step-daughter who looks like him...
Seriously, I think it was a bi-hatch to get the child support people to understand that he didn't need to make payments anymore.
2007-02-06 01:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by battistin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, so long as you didn't committ the Adulty act. if you or the other person committed adultry then it was sin but if your the innocent one then you didn't sin. there is a couple that did get married and they were the innocent ones and they hooked up.don't know why it happend but it did and they are still married today they have a child together christian love bonded them. about the other ones that committed the sin they are no longer together go figure.
2007-02-06 00:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by bustnloose_2000 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some think so.... BUT.... in the Bible it states that after you say I do its till death..so even if you go through a divorce you are still married.
you can only remarry if your spouse dies.
2007-02-06 00:24:02 · answer #7 · answered by Holla 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not as long as their spouse is still alive. And don't let that make you want to kill them please. When you marry, you make a vow before God and men to love your spouse in sickness and in health, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, til death do you part.
The Bible says that you must pay your vows that you have vowed unto God. Marriage is not something that you can back out of when you feel you can't take it any more or when you get fed up of the other person. God gave you a special calling in your marriage to show His love for the other person through you.
Marriage is a sacred covenant before God and the wife becomes flesh of her Husband's flesh and bone of his bones. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder. MAN here refers to any human being including yourself, your spouse or any other person who is so fearless of God that they would try to make God's handiwork as nothing.
Fear God and depart from evil. Remember, no adulterer will be able to enter into God's kingdom unless they repent and turn from their sin to God. In His Word, God gives specific instructions about how a man is supposed to treat his wife and vice versa. Read God's Word and ask Him to open up your understanding so that whatever situation may arise, you will depend on His Word and Spirit to guide you in the right way.
I am in a situation where my spouse is committing adultery continuously against me but I choose to do what is right. When I was saved,it was as if I was blind before and my eyes God miraculously opened. I asked God to forgive me of my sins and He did,casting them into the sea of forgetfulness to be remembered no more. Jesus taught me to love and forgive and He said "Freely ye have received, freely give". So as I have freely received forgiveness of sins through the blood of Jesus, so I choose to follow God's example and forgive my husband even though he has not repented.
It is not easy but when you know that God is with you, you will overcome. I cannot live comfortably knowing my husband is in sin and that Jesus may appear at any time. I do not want to end up in the lake of fire and neither do I want my husband to go there therefore, I will keep on praying for him and Iknow that God will save him as He saved me too.
PS. - Don't think I'm so perfect, I made a mistake and a year and a half after he had left, I ended up committing adultery but I was praying for God to deliver us and He did. Thank God for deliverance. Now I know what to allow and what not to, so I just keep on trusting in God to help me on my way.
2007-02-06 01:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by child of God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2007-02-06 00:21:03 · answer #9 · answered by Gasman 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes but not in a church depending on the religion
2007-02-06 00:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by Java Queen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋