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2007-02-05 23:55:43 · 26 answers · asked by :) 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

I'm not sure what's worse, bringing up a fully developed child into this world whilst knowing you're not financially secure or emotionally stable enough to raise it properly and also knowing it won't have the basic facilities the majority of other children have because of your situation, or terminating a undeveloped baby/fetus that is unaware of its own existence. You can't pre-determine an act of unconsensual sex so this didn't happen out of carelessness or stupidity...if the child was given up for adoption I'm not sure if it would be able to tolerate the fact that its own mother abandoned and disowned them immediately after birth.

2007-02-06 00:47:10 · update #1

It's funny how NO ONE is willing to answer or address the question at hand, but all of you are quick to pass judgements on something you have never experienced before...giving a child life is a great gift but giving a child a miserable life full of hardship and adversity is just cruel, if you grew up knowing you father was a rapist and finding out your mother abandoned you at birth, how would you feel? I know how I would...utterly pathetic and hopeless. Having a child as a constant reminder of a rape incident is no way to live your life and no one should pass judgements unless they have experienced something like this before.

2007-02-06 17:39:30 · update #2

26 answers

Everywhere an abortion costs a human life

2007-02-13 22:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I can't belive how closed minded some of these people are. For the person who said you should look in to taking birth control is and absolute idiot. Why on earth is it manditory that you take birth control on the grounds to avoid pregnancy after being raped. Give me a break, if that was a logical idea we would have to start feeding girls B/C pills as soon as they menstrate. And for those people out there who are trying to convince you to carry a illegitamate child for 9 months, be reminded everyday of the horrible thing that happened to you and then to top it all off have to give the baby up for adoption, I wonder how many of them would do the same given the circumstances. Don't get me wrong I am Pro- Life in fact I'm 18 weeks pregnant right now with a baby that was un-planned and I can't really afford right now. But the difference is that I love the father and we are still together. I think that you should do whatever feels right to you and don't let all these close minded jerks make you feel guilty about your choice. After all that I unfortunatly can't tell you how much an abortion will cost you as I'm from Canada and they are free here. However I think that you deserve some support as what you've been through is hard enough with out getting critisised by strangers.

2007-02-11 22:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

There is no way to predict what it will cost. That one child could bring so much love and happiness to a family! How do you know this child would know his father was a rapist and his mother abandoned him? What if he didn't know anything but the fact his or her mother was a good enough person to want the best for them. That's why she gave him to people who could center their whole world around him. I've had three pregnancies. My very first ended at 6 months. My daughter died due to chromosomal abnormality. I longed for a baby so much. I know what that feels like. Luckily I was later able to have 2 more but not everyone is so lucky. Reconsider your descision. What if that one little baby is the greatest thing that could happen to our world? Not all people who are great and wonderful came from great and wonderful beginings!

2007-02-13 16:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie 4 · 0 0

I live in America, so I do not know the answer to your question. However, I will address some of the other points that you have raised.

If our level of development determines our right not to have someone else kills us, then is a grown man more worthy of life than a three-year-old girl? Is it more wrong to kill the man than the child? After all, she is smaller and less developed, right? Just three weeks after conception, a child's heart is already beating. By six weeks, she has tiny fingers and recordable brain waves. At seven weeks, she is moving in the womb. If her cheek is stroked, she will turn her head (she is hardly "unaware!") At eight weeks, she is fully formed. All her organs are functioning. If her palm is pricked, she will open her mouth and pull her hand away. She can even suck her thumb.

Killing someone is never kind. Remember, the child has no choice. Regardless of your situation, your child is innocent and does not deserve to die. There are hundreds of thousands of happy, productive people in the world who didn't have perfect childhoods. That is just part of life.

If you were raped, I am very sorry for that, but the child does not deserve to be punished with death for the crime of his or her father. If you abort your child (and yes, she IS your child, too), YOU will become the aggressor, hurting another innocent victim the way you were hurt. It doesn't make anything right. It doesn't erase the rape. It is just another act of horrible violence and injustice. You need to be BETTER than your rapist. A recent study showed that most women who abort a child conceived in rape regret it, while no women who give birth do (for information on this study, see the links below). You can also read actual stories from women who have been raped below as well. Do you honestly believe that people whose fathers were rapists are less worthy of life than the rest of us? Do you think the circumstances of their conception determine their worth?

Studies have also shown that adopted children do very well. Would you kill an already born adopted child to save their feelings in the future? If not, why kill the child in the womb for the same reason?

I understand that you are feeling angry and probably a little desperate right now. I ask you, though, to take a few minutes and look at this information. It may save you from doing something you will regret the rest of your life:

Rape and Abortion:
http://www.afterabortion.info/Victims/index.htm
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/focusmagazine/sohl/A000000103.cfm
http://www.dakotavoice.com/200611/Guest/20061101_GR.html
http://www.afterabortion.info/PAR/V2/n1/RAPESUM.htm
http://www.deathroe.com/Pro-life_Answers/Answers.cfm?ID=31

Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
http://www.nrlc.org/Factsheets/FS15_pilldanger.pdf

Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp

Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm

Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html

2007-02-08 00:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

Why would you eve say this?-
"It's funny how NO ONE is willing to answer or address the question at hand, but all of you are quick to pass judgments on something."

First of all I myself just came across this question.
Second- I personally couldn't tell you or even answer this question as I live in Canada.
Third even don't I don't agree with abortion, I do believe in safe places to have one if need be it.

So please don't pass judgment on everyone as I wouldn't on you.

But if I had to take a wild guess, I would go with one another person's answer was.
Which was the cost of a human life not to speak of the memory!

Thank you
^j^ Sandra ^j^

2007-02-13 14:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 0 0

if u care to read this story, read on.

When i was 21 I had a fiance who is abusive. Every other day he would beat me up and threatens me that should i decided to leave him, he would disfigure my face. Went to the police but they said that they cant do anything based on threats, they have to wait until something really happen. Him beating me up considers as domestic violence. Knowing that i have been planning to leave him, he raped me. Soon after i found out i was pregnant. I quickly opted for an abortion. Thinking that i didnt want to raise a baby with this abusive man and i cant afford to raise a child on my own, i thought it was the right thing to do. I kept telling myself, this child did not deserve to have a father like that. I thought that those reasons were justifiable. After the abortion, i have been dreaming of a girl in a playground, calling me 'mommy', she holding my hands, we were laughing and playing so happy. When i woke up the guilt came like a bang. I cried and i regretted my actions and i kept thinking what it could have been, having her in my arms, just like in my dreams..
Soon after much careful planning, I managed to get a job in a different country and i quietly left him without a goodbye.
I am now 33 and married. Gave birth to a son through a cesaerean due to breech. Meaning the chances of me having more babies is crushed. I have always wanted to have 5 or more babies coz i love children very much. .Everytime i look at my son, i will remember the baby i have aborted. She could have been 12years old, hugging me right now.. She could have been here with me, making me a proud mother. When i look back at the mistake i have made, and if i could turn back the clock, i would have done it differently. I could have kept her and run away. I realised i was stupid and ignorant then..Yes i would have kept her and her father wont even know it and he wont bug us..My baby son would have had a big sister singing and laughing with him.. Everyday i pray for God's forgiveness and i beg forgiveness from the daughter i have lost. I pray that God will give me as many children i could bear.
So please, dont do it. Dont do the same mistake i have made. The baby didnt do anything wrong, the foetus is at a helpless state and you are the only one it has to survive. Your womb is his life now and dont, please dont terminate it.

2007-02-11 18:15:03 · answer #6 · answered by Say what? 6 · 0 1

I personally do not believe in abortions. However I don't know what I would do if I was raped, and I don't think anyone can honestly say what they would do unless they went through it. I typed in abortion clinics in sydney, and it showed me a website called Bessie Smith Foundation. It lists different abortion clinics in Sydney.
Fees seemed to be anywhere from $150 to $1500 depending on your insurance, and how far you were in your pregnancy. I hope this helps you.The rest of the address is services.htm doesn't seem to want to show the whole address

2007-02-12 17:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I am also in America so I'm sorry I can't give you a straightforward answer about the price. A friend of mine had an abortion here and It cost her about $300 (USD) but she also had several follow up visits to make sure she wasn't having any problems afterward.
Whatever happens, I wish you the best of luck. However, I will say this... whoever he was, I hope that you will do your best to ensure he doesn't do the same to another woman. Hang in there, girl!

2007-02-12 14:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by frozenpeaches1981 2 · 1 0

I dont know to tell you the truth abortion is free where i am from. But i do wish to point out that it is a womans CHOICE to have an abortion and a very hard choice at that, i believe no woman enters into having an abortion lightly. Please think before you judge as you do not know this womans situation people!

2016-03-29 07:28:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I know a child who was adopted and his father raped his mother. The child is in a loving family and is a sweet a loving child, happy smart and understanding of the fact that his mom loved him enough to give him a family. Children of adoption don't have to resent or be hurt by the birth parents. I'm adopted and never felt abandoned or hurt. I grew up knowing that the lady who gave birth to me gave me to the family I know and love (truly truly love) cared more for me than ANYTHING. She gave me and my sister a great gift. She did something courageous. Please go to this website: www.zoeforlife.org

God Bless you, sweetie.

2007-02-10 14:42:16 · answer #10 · answered by carolinagal75 3 · 1 1

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