my dad is a heavy drinker and my mom puts up with a lot of verbal abuse from him when he is drinking. my sister and I are looking for help to get him off drinking and stop being so mean to my mom. any one have any ideas
2007-02-05 23:42:33 · 7 answers · asked by charlotte b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm very sorry to hear of your situation. I a (former)wife of an alcoholic of 16 years. I only have little advice for you. Your dad is only going to quit drinking when he is ready. Only your mom can do what she can do. What she feels is right for her. She may be afraid to live without your dad. She may think she deserves it. (after all how long has he been an alcoholic?) Your mom probly prays everyday and night for god to help her. you and your sister may think about talking to a school counsler (if your in school). Its hard to understand an alcoholic. But be there for your mom. Be her shoulder to cry on. Let her know you are there for her. Build up your mom's strength with your love and comfort. You yourself can pray to god and ask for guidence and strength. I will pray for you and your family. God Bless you.
2007-02-05 23:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by Daisey G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way to record what he is doing while he is in the act. Then when he is straight, let him see what is actions lead to, and perhaps it may speak more than words. But if this doesn't work, then your Father doesn't care about his actions, but if he does and he is hurt by his own doings, then it is going to take alot of counceling for your dad. Cause he isn't going to just quit cause he is an addict and that will take serious intervention. I wish your entire family LOTS of luck! God bless. Good Answer Daisy, very caring and compassionate!
2007-02-06 07:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is difficult since alcholics usually do not think
that there is a problem.You can start by attending alanon
meetings for the family of the alcholic.Maybe you could
get your dad to go to a meeting AA or into a treatment center.
2007-02-06 07:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alanon is support for people who live or have realationships with alcoholics. If you are a teen there are special support groups. alateen I think is what it is called. Contact your local AA group and they will tell you where to go. Be brave. Understand that alcoholism is a disease. The deision has to be his. Your Mom needs to attend some meetings too. No one ever has the right to treat someone poorly. She needs to address these issues for your safety.
2007-02-06 13:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by Tina S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can do for your father until he is ready to get help
if your mother wants to put up with his abuse that is her choice
but for you and your sister she should not put you guys threw that
i lived with it my whole childhood i moved out at 15 it will never get better till your father decides to get help
don't let history repeat itself
keep this in mind when you are ready to get married and children learn from what your father is doing and better yourself
2007-02-06 07:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by blu3_3y3d_bitc4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try AA. try to got o therapy with him so that he realises that his family is there for him.
It will be tough though because he has to appreciate first that he,s got a problem. your mum has great kids so keep it on and u will achieve
all the best
2007-02-06 08:11:08 · answer #6 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel its very hard time that u r going through,all u children go to him and talk to him when he is not drunk,and make him realise how his behaviour is causing a affect on u childrens,
2007-02-06 07:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by dreamboy_4_u0072002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋