he was due to leave for good, instead he said he was staying one more month because he had not found an apt.He leaves all weekend with this woman and even comes back trying to talk about how financially I'm going to do and remind me that he is leaving so that I don't get my hopes up hi that he still wants to safe our marriage.I feel like I'm seriously am about to loose my sanity coping with this situation,I don't beg him at all. I let him just be and he still finds the way to upset me so much I feel sick most of the time.I don't pack his S*** because I told him I had wanted to work things out and wanted him to realize that he's making a big mistake cause 3 mo's ago we were planning a life together and he claim to be in love with me.we've been together almost 8 years He hit me so I left for 2 mo's and he never came to apologize to me.I was the bigger person and came back home to work it out but instead he's now in lust with someone else he met online..I'm all cried out.....
2007-02-05 23:37:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HE HITS YOU????? OH HELLS NO GIRL... LET HIS *** GO WHT YOU THINK THE OTHER WOMAN IS NOT GOING TO GET HER ASSS BEAT?? IF I WERE YOU I GET OUT OF IT BEFORE THE OTHER GIRL REALIZE WHAT SHE IS GETTIN HER SELF IN TO AND IF SHE DOESNT TAKE *** WOOPENS THEN HE WILL BACK TO YOU WITH A READY TO GO FIST... DONT DESTROY YOUR LIFE LIKE THAT, THINK OF ALL THE WOMEN WHO DONT GET A CHANCE TO LEAVE.. BECAUSE THEIR MEN ARE SO ABUSIVE THAT THEY ARE AFRAID TO LEAVE. I THINK HIM LEAVING IS GOOD FOR YOU.. START OVER AND CLAIM YOUR LIFE BEFORE HE TAKES IT.
WHEN HITTIN IS ENVOLVED IT SHOULD BE NO APOLOGIZING, NO SECOND CHANCES, NO LOOK BACK.
LET HIM GO!!!!!!!! LOVE YOUR SELF ENOUGH TO GIVE YOU ANOTHER CHANCE WITH SOMEONE ELSE.GOOD LUCK.
2007-02-06 00:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when someone lays there hands on you, that's an immediate no,no. Leave him that's a dangerous sitiuation. HE didn't even apologize to you for doing that?!? That shows that he doesn't think what he did was wrong. Just let him go. The sooner the better. You can make it on your own. There are things out there to help you, i mean it's not going to be easy but you can make it. I'm not saying htat you guys should break up for good but definately take some time apart and you may find that there is better out there. Good luck
2007-02-06 00:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by iwuvmyhubby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He hit you and you let him back into your life? Oh no. Depending on where you live, you can have him removed from the house pending separation agreement or divorce and change the locks. You are not a doormat and do not deserve to be walked all over. He wants to spend the weekend with her, good, he can spend the rest of the week with her as well. You will make it, you will be fine. Cut him out of your life and move on.
2007-02-06 00:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by MK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack your bags and move out!!! You have to to save your own sanity! I was in a similiar situation...My now Ex was in love with someone he met on the internet...Site unseen, he traveled to KY to be with her...He was only gone 3 days..It didnt work out so he just moved on to the next one on his friends list..I saw a lawyer, filed for divorce, found a cute apartment and am now on my own...I worried too about making it on my own financially...I'm doing ok! He's the one now struggling to make ends meet...He's mentally abusing you and you dont deserve that....And by the way, this really was the hardest decision I ever had to make because we had been married 34 years!!! If I can do it, so can you!!! Good luck!
2007-02-05 23:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by mary2148 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to leave and go be with her, staying with u is just hurting u. he can't hear a thing u are saying to him, he is too preoccupied with her. pack his things and make him leave the home. we can't make someone love us and we need to just accept it, and distance ourselves from the person, he should just leave. he is selfish and of low character and best to know this, and not put any faith in him, but u need to stand up for yourself and make him leave, and file for divorce and decide your moving on in life. even if he did come back how long would he stay before he found someone else again? he isn't sorry and shows no remorse, there isn't anywhere to go with it, no options left but to get out of it, as the longer u stay and hope the worse u feel.
2007-02-05 23:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don not let him stay there any longer!! Maybe he should spend more time looking for an apartment than spending time with his mistress!
I can understand why you are hurt and I am truly sorry for your situation. But you need to be strong!!! If you continue to let him stay there he is only going to keep this emotional abuse up! And no one should have to live like that! I hope that you are able to find the strength to kick that dead beat husband out!
Good Luck!
2007-02-05 23:49:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sure...there are warning signs. in actuality, women persons be attentive to their husbands like the backs of their hands. something distinctive or out of the traditional that would not have a proof is suspcious. as an occasion, exercising extra, new clothing whilst he by no potential cared in the previous, changing grooming behavior/products, spending an prolonged time in the bathing room with the cellular telephone (for sending emails/texts), coming homestead previous due, listening to distinctive music (perchance what she likes), and so on.
2016-10-01 12:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by clarice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life. This guy is no good. First of all you are married and he is cheating and looking for an apartment with his mistress. Next, he is giving you mixed signals. And the worst part is he hit you. Do not stay with someone who abuses you. No one is worth that much pain. You deserve better than this. Divorce him and move on!
2007-02-06 01:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by Jess_DH13 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After his month is up make sure he leaves. Tell him the least he can do is not rub it in your face. Get an attorney! He will probably tire of the online person in a month or two and come trying to make up with you. Don't let him!
2007-02-05 23:43:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce and have him escorted out of your home and change the locks. You are letting him walk all over you and he obviously doesn't care how it makes you feel and yet YOU allow him to do this. If he has mad eit clear he is through you make it clear he is out the door on his @ss, let his new woman take care of him it's no longer your job.
2007-02-05 23:46:17 · answer #10 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋