The day I went to the college I have never been at rest,I just keep comparing myself with other people and feel inferior to them if I find them better than myself.This way I have disrupted my peace of mind,please suggest on how can I restore it.I just can't help comparing myself with other people........please........
2007-02-05 23:35:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
first, don't compare... you are unique... you have your own blood type... you have the chromosomes of your parents... you have different reactions to food, beverages and the like... you even have a unique finger print that is only your own... never compare yourself to other people... you even have a certain skill that God gave you... use them... Other people have different strengths... and weaknesses... so do you... find your strengths... focus on what you are good at... if you think you are weak in an area... find a way to strengthen it... lastly, NEVER compare!!!
Second, relax... You are the one comparing yourself to others... You should only compare yourself to only one person... yourself... What do you want to be... what do you want to reach... What do you want to give to other people... How can you be of service... You should push your heart, mind and body to the uttermost limit of what it can do and find out for yourself what you can do and what you do best...
Do the best you can, in all the ways you can, in all the time you can... in all the places you can.... in all the situations you can... and you can say at the end of the day... I did well...
Focus on what you want....
Focus on what your strengths are...
Focus on what you can improve...
Focus on what you can do...
Focus on being you...
Leo Buscaglia said "You are the single most important person in the whole process..." whether it be love, friendship, education, etc...
You choose to be what you want to be and act on it... that's how you lose your inferiority... remember you are bigger than your feelings...
2007-02-05 23:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by DEADPOOL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, first of all, don't panic. Perhaps we all had pass for the same period when we observe others and we think we are not good enough, for their standards or ours. You want peace of mind, and that is disturbing you, so you need to prove that you can get better, or be better than someone else. Think we are all different and we just need to find a way to express ourselves that feels good and secure, something that fulfill your life so you don't need to look at other people from the moment you get busy with yourself. I think the only think may help is not to try to restore anything, so if this is happening it doesn't have to be bad necessarily. It's just part of the process in live... Take your time to find some activities, buy some nice books, go to the cinema and let yourself get inspired by things you do by yourself, whatever that is. And when you find something you really like to do, go for it, whatever that is, whatever people may think. Believe in yourself, so you are special and unique person and like all of as, just need to find the way. Don't' worry and good luck!
2007-02-06 07:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should learn to love who you are more. Each one of us is gifted in our own special way, and you will always find that there are some people who are more talented than you in some areas. This does not mean therefore that you are less of a person or inferior. Sit down and think about what your strengths are, what you love doing, why those who are your friends remain your friends. You are special, never inferior. Believe in yourself and let go of negative feelings about the person you are.
You'll see that once you start loving yourself and being confident in who you are your whole attitude towards life will change and people will notice the brilliance in you. Be happy and start each and every day with a big smile.
2007-02-06 08:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by Solid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come to the realisation tha we are all different. You are different, you are a unique individual. We all are. If you are going to keep comparing yourself to other people, it is a battle that you will never win.
You have to be kind to yourself. Who else is going to do that for you? If this self-judgment is causing you grief, you must stop your mind from hurting you. We are all different, born in different circumstances. No one is any better than anyone else regardless of how much prettier, richer,or 'smarter than they are to you. Greatness is the pride of the self irrelevant to anybody else.
If your thoughts are giving you pain, stop thinking. Just take a deep breath and take a look at yourself. Your insecurity is blinding you from the truth within you. That you are unique, different, and no better or worse than anybody else.
You must find the strength in your consciousness to be kind to yourself. You owe it to yourself. Let your ego tell your mind to stop judging and comparing, for it is not serving your purpose. Control your mind - don't let it control you.
Find your strength and dignity that makes you who and what you are - unique, different, and self-loved.
2007-02-06 07:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by Nocturne_in_G_Major 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well then u should not compare ur selef wid ane1 as all people r different n everyone is special in their own way.......u can increase ur self concepts by taking karate classes which help a lot n comparing just out of the question so dont compare n u'll feel better loads of luck
2007-02-06 07:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by bluedragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who in your life has told you that you are less than someone else? Having self esteem issues like this is set in by a pattern; they don’t just develop over night. Look at your self, are you happy with you? Do you have friends, a partner? How do they see you? You need to start doing things in your life for you, things that are going to raise your self esteem. No one should ever feel inferior to anyone, especially everyone! There are very few people in this world that have an opinion about you that should count… YOU, your partner, and your closest friends, that’s it!!!! Love your self and those who are closest to you and to hell with everyone else.
2007-02-06 07:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Imagine how it feels to be that person you admire only to find out they feel like you do and admire you because they feel inferior? Start concentrating on yourself and don't worry about others. Find the things you are best at and you will find somone who may also want to be good at that and you can help.
2007-02-06 07:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by Grianagh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't try to be pleasing a lot or all the people you meet and know, they don't really care about you or whatever it is that they are thinking, just try to please yourself and like yourself, don't compare because you are a very unique person and there is no one else in this world like you ...please and love yopurself and no matter what just do things for yourself and don't be hesitant to be selfish until the time comes that you like and satisfied yourself then that the time that you can start helping and be conscious about other people, you cannot give something and be conscious of other people until you are happy with yourself.
2007-02-06 07:41:40 · answer #8 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you find them better than yourself ? Try to find out and prepare yourself to excel them. Don't give chance to yourself to blame yourself in future saying that I didn't even try. If you find yourself economically inferior. It is your privilege that you have more opportunity to learn in life and many more things than the rich people.
2007-02-06 07:50:31 · answer #9 · answered by Tashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to focus on yourself and not others and find what you are good at and you will feel great doing what you do great.also learn more the more you know the better you will feel.but only stick to what you enjoy and absolutely need to know.
2007-02-06 07:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋