I have developed feelings for him but i wouldnt admit it to him because i respect my marriage.My husband is not attracted to me anymore and sometimes i really long for that affection. is it okey to go ahead and have an affair with this male friend of mine?
2007-02-05 23:04:09 · 27 answers · asked by Eve A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-02-05 23:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by booge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not OK. If you are unhappy in your marriage and your husband is no longer interested why not separate. Its great that you have someone who is attracted to you. But having an affair will only make things more complicated. You will not feel good about yourself. Tell your husband how you feel. DO you love him? Tell him you miss him and what you shared together. If he does not respond I think the answer is right in front of you. But take the right steps. Make sure this guys like you for you, sometimes the other guy is attracted because he knows you belong to someone else. Good Luck
2007-02-06 02:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! The grass is not always greener on the other side. Why did you not marry him in the first place you choose your husband. You think your life is hard now, mix in an affair. If you work as hard at your marriage as you do your (friendship) you would not even have to ask the questions. You are a cheat and a liar when you have an affair, you also become a thief for stealing time away from the man you married. Do you really like the person you have become. Look at your marriage and work as hard on it as you have trying to destroy it.
2007-02-05 23:13:43 · answer #3 · answered by springer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I posed this same question to myself about a week ago. I didn't think I was doing anything wrong because I never let it go past a freindship level but then I thought about how I'd feel if my husband had a female friend and I gave my male friend up. My husband and I have had our share of problems and I've thought of leaving him and I clung tight to my friend because he loves me no matter what and he would give me affection like I need. But I realized that I want to be with my husband more than anything, more than I'd ever want to be with my friend. So use your best judgement and do what you feel is right for you in your heart. Only you can make a decision like that because it's whats best for you. I hope I helped.
2007-02-06 01:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by akv_8781 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a very good idea at all to have an affair until after you are divorced. Do the right thing, fix your emotional attraction to this fellow and remain faithful to your husband. If you can't do that then maybe a good conversation with the husband to tell him if he doesn't start meeting your needs you will have to find someone who does.
2007-02-05 23:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, how is it ever okay to have an affair? Well I'd say it's wrong to be friends with anyone who is attracted to you because it's too risky, as proven by the current situation. I don't know the details of your marriage, but maybe you need to talk to your husband about how you are feeling. If that doesn't work go to marriage counseling. Cheating is never the answer.
2007-02-05 23:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eve, an affair is never the answer. You first got to look at trying to save your marriage and I am afraid that may mean braking your friendship off. Try and get that spark back into your marriage, go on dates together, find out what made you fall in love with him in the first place. Give it a shot! The grass isn't always greener on the other side!
2007-02-05 23:13:36 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Shrek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never okay to have romantic/sexual relationships outside of the relationship you are in. If you and your husband really are unhappy with each other then the two of you need to resolve the relationship. It's hard to uproot yourself out of a comfort zone, but it is even more hard to continue to live with a person that you don't love.
And it is never a good thing to move onto a new project when you haven't yet to complete the first one.Because that will only make more of a mess. Unnecessary confusion, that will do no good to any of you.
2007-02-05 23:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Affairs always come with baggage attached to them. At first you will feel the thrill and after both of you have satisfied that which brought you together - mostly sex though you would not like to admit, then it will be the same old story - he looses interest of you and have to look for another to fill the gap. Your husband is the best bet in all circumstances. Strengthen your relationship together.
2007-02-05 23:26:03 · answer #9 · answered by pet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly does marriage mean to you? Would you think it was ok if your husband were to have an affair for the same reason? Don't be selfish. You want it all...the husband and a little sugar on the side. Work on the marriage, or don't! It IS that simple...
2007-02-05 23:16:30 · answer #10 · answered by Luvy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly how you feel. You love and respect your husband but he is leaving your needs unmet. Another comes along and you can't help it you develop feelings for someone who is actually filling your needs. I wouldn't recommend having an affair but I would continue your relationship but keep it Platonic. I got hurt very badly in this situation. It turns out all my so called friend wanted from me was one thing- sex. He manipulated me to get it and I regret it.
2007-02-05 23:09:40 · answer #11 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋