I have broken up with my girlfriend before but this time she is being in the depths of despair. I received a call from suicide prevention/intervention hotline and was told that it was absolutely necessary to talk to my girlfriend as she is in the commence of a life-threatening conduct. I was told to cooperate—by saying positive things about her appearance especially her hair, avoiding saying no and say things like—you sound frustrated or angry. I am not a negotiator. Shouldn’t she be committed to a mental hospital? Isn’t me talking to her might trigger suicidal actions?
2007-02-05 23:03:55 · 4 answers · asked by Daniel W 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well, it is better to talk to her 'cause she loves you and you lve her and wish her the best. try to talk kindly about why she's trying to commit suicide (but this is a long way to go). do as you were told to do and talk to her nicely. She'll like it. When the time comes and u feel she's safe try talking to her about the reason of her suicide.
People who commit suicide are desperate. They are in need of someone beside them to give them a helping hand. Don't throw her in a mental hospital 'cause by that you're condemning her to a death sentence and this is the last thing you want to happen. Try coming close. See what's broken ur relationship before and try to mend it . Believe me this girl loves you deeply 'cuse if she doesn't she wouldn't have thought of this. (suicide).
Talk to her and try to find a solution. Hope she's fine.
2007-02-05 23:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by drfarfour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most clinical psychologists will tell you that depression isn't open to negotiation - you can't talk someone out of being depressed, nor can you convince them that they are successful and good-looking.
The psychologist Beck identified a triad of cognitive deficits that depressives exhibit - they show that, despite logic or evidence to the contrary, depressives attribute negative emotions towards themselves about negative events in their lives.
Perhaps it may be beneficial to talk to her, as a friend, but it's unlikely that talking alone will convince her to think more positively. It's important that she receives appropriate professional help if she's thinking of suicide.
2007-02-06 09:45:31 · answer #2 · answered by muldenthalle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Daniel
Your not responsible for her choices
Isn't she really just manipulating you by making you suffer for breaking up with her?
There are proffessionals to deal with her.
Your first responsibility is to look after yourself. It sounds like that means cutting her control over your life. Leave her to the professionals, get some help if you need it
Don't let her blackmail you back into a relationship you don't want and can't survive
2007-02-06 07:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care at all about her as aperson, you will do what the prevention people ask of you. This is nothing to play around with.
2007-02-06 11:24:27 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋