Why do we waste time and money on child?

Question

I completed 3 years of marriage. Now my wife would like to have child but I think that in future I am not sure that my child will take my responsbility. Then why should I waste my money and time in upbringing the child

Let me explain why I think like this. Now a days everything is counted ONLY in money and no value for human relaitonship. I came to this conculsion because my wife hates my father very much since he has not earned lot of money and so my wife thinks that I should not take of my parents. Is this right or worng?

Answer 1

L O V E

Answer 2

So you mean to say that you stopped to give importance to relationships because some other person, sadly, it's your wife, doesn't value relationships. This is funny. Instead you gotta teach her to value relationships.

Doesn't matter whether your father was able to save money or not but remember that you are what you are because of your father. Things could have been worse if your father would have left you out in crowd thinking that you are a waste of time and money.

A child does bring in a lot of responsibilities but that doesn't mean that a child's a burden over the parents. It's the best thing that can happen to a married pair who love each other. They are sweet little angels at your service, ready to be moulded by you, taht can bring a smile on your gloomy face anytime.

About your wife being so ignorant towards your parents, it's upto you to take the charge. You gotta explain her how you value you parents. She may resent your feelings but will have to get along with it. And if she doesn't then I believe a person who cannot bind relations is not worthy to stay with.

Answer 3

Having a child is NOT a waste of time nor money, it is a gift.
As a parent & a human being it is an honor to be blessed with children.

If you feel you could not handle the responsibility of a child and give 100% of yourself, then I don't think you should have any at this time.
Never bring a child into the world if you are unable to cherish it.
You need to be able to put that child first in your life & yourself last.
I don't think by your words that you are capable of putting anyone ahead of you in life.

Answer 4

After three years of marriage you should not be having a doubt like this. The greatest gift you can give to your wife is your child. For example, If your father would have thought the same, today you would not have been asking this question. Its not the money and time .......its love.

Answer 5

all things canot be counted with money. if u r parents also thinks like that investment on u is waste u should not spend present position, how can u infer that u r another child or present child may not take u r responsibility in future. overthinking is not necessary no body knows what is in the coldstorage waiting for us. it means no body predicts what is going to happen to us tomorrow. but we have to perform our duties in this world. try to think positive side only then u know how to bring u r children positively. man is the product of environment. if u bring ur children in good discipline they will become good citizens and a disciplined child will never ignore parents. try u r luck. all the best.

Answer 6

r u mad or something to ask such stupid question and if ur parents would have thought the same thing then i think u would have not been here asking this this means u also did not take care of ur parents that u r afraid of this and child is the best gift for each and every parent and u dont waste ur time infact u time becomes precious for them .

u r abig fool so dont have child as that childs future is not safe with u and really pity ur wife she is the unlukiest person in the world to ahve husband like u.

Answer 7

A family without children is a family incomplete because children brings a lot of joy to their parents. As they grow, they become their friends. You don't need to worry about spending money on them if you remember to educate them at the same time. Children are the ones who bind the family together in most cases because after some years of marriage, conversation might become boring for the couple, so usually the main topic between them would be regarding their children. It is important to have children at home.

Answer 8

Hey, you should not blame your parents they brought you up till marriage life you living now. Some people does not have parents with them. So think and ask someone who are experience in they're life. To have child is a big wonder, there are so many people out there who don't have child at all. But doesn't mean to have allot of children's, have at least one.

Answer 9

Before answering this question we should intially question our conscience about this. if we are perfect enough in thinking like this then we can boldly answer to this query. children are the gifts given by the god and they are the fortunes of our life as all of them wont posess neglecting attitude towards their parents. if our parents think about like this, today we wont be in this position, answering to this query. Possesing children is a boon but not a curse as we can able to retrieve our childhood days by spending the days with them with utmost joy. For this we should be friend of them rather than being a dad or mom.

Answer 10

if you have an attitude like that I don't think you should have children.

Having a child with your wife is meant to be an amazing experience and one of the best times in your life. They aren't meant to be a burden on you!!

Surely you guys talked about having kids before you got married or serious into your relationship.

Answer 11

Waste if time and money????? How can you call a child a waste... They are a precious life that God entrusts us with to raise nurture and love... How would you feel if your parents though you were a wast of money and time. You need help bud! Children are a blessing.