Why wont people step in?

Question

If u see a child getting hit or raped will u step in
If u see a women getting hit or raped will u step in

I have posted about women being abused and scared i dont understand why dont friends or family step in its not hard to take some time from your life and help your family or friend u know when women get beat they have bruises they have marks so clue in and help them because they need it as i have seen most of them are very scared and its understandable but i only have so much influence to help people and trust me if i could help u all i would i would be there in a heartbeat to help u and get you out of that situation but i cant do that so u have to do it for yourself or your family and or friends need to relize whats going on and help.

Answer 1

yes i would, first i dont belive in hitting a women,,an to go as far as to rape a person is truly wrong, i was brought up in the old way ,if you see a person in need of help ,you do what you could to help them,,i dont realy think of my self,when it come to see one in need , i act,then think latter

Answer 2

I do and I have. But I am taking a risk everytime I do.
People are funny about relationships and (as cops can tell you), the person you have to worry about most at a domestic violence scene is the "victim" ... she's just as likely to turn on you to protect her assailant/boyfriend/spouse.
In public ... that's different. But following a trail of evidence (marks and cuts) back to a domestic situation that the woman has not admitted publicly ... that's another kettle of fish.
A talk is appropriate, but "stepping in" is not, unless the victim requests assistance. These days there are agencies that help battered women.

Answer 3

It's not as easy as it seems.

Many times, abused women/children feel ashamed of what's happening to them, and so they hide it. Bruises are covered with long sleeves, questions are given evasive answers, tears are attributed to other reasons.
So, to begin with, it's difficult for friends and family to find out what's going on.

Once we find out, of course we should step in. But again, is difficult. The abused not always want to admit to their situation, and many times just want to go back to their abusers because they don't want to lose their relationship, or, in case of children being abused, they don't want to lose the security of their home or risk the embarrasment and uproar that would follow.
We should step in, but with professional advice. Many friendships, families, and relationships have been broken by not handling things carefully.

Answer 4

some people do step in and try to help
but in the end, you cant force the person to listen to you
they are the ones who need to make the decision
is this saying not true ' you cant help people who dont want to help themselves'?
yes, there are people who pretend they dont see anything or dont want to get involved, but there are others who truely try to convince the person to leave etc or call the cops.

i've seen too much of this happen during my lifetime, with my friends and including myself
sometimes fear stops people and until they master enough courage to do something, they suffer.

Answer 5

I never had a problem stepping in, But many people are afraid for their own safety & choose to stay clear.
I have been both..the victim and the 1 who stepped in.
I think it is our duty to try to help anyone in danger, there are different levels of help we can offer.
Not all forms of help put us in direct danger, the most important thing is for us to do SOMETHING to try to help.

Answer 6

I have stepped in on a number of occasions and generally, women go back to the abuser and avoid you from then on....plus, sometimes you are taking your own life in your hands.

Answer 7

Bless you, Scott. Thank you for your generous spirit. The world needs more people like you.

I actually did step in. Years ago my boyfriend and I were coming home at 3 am and he saw a guy down the hall pulling a girl into his apartment. I was already in my apartment and he came in and told me "quick, come and look!" She was on the floor in the hallway and he was pulling her in the door. She wasn't making a sound, but was holding on to the door jamb with all her might. he finally succeeded in getting her inside his apartment. We went up and listened at the door and heard him offering her something to drink. "Water, Coke, Orange juice?" We didn't hear her voice though. We talked about what to do. After a minute or so my BF hid around the corner while I knocked on the door. The guy opened it. She was sitting at the kitchen table hunched over with her back to me and didn't turn around to see who was at the door. I said, "C'mon, it's time to go. Steve is waiting for us." She didn't turn around. I said it again louder, "C'mon, it's time to go now." She ever so slowly turned around and looked me in the eye. Terror was on her face. She slowly stood up and walked toward me and out the door, not saying goodbye to Mr. Forceful. She was beyond drunk. As we were driving her home, she said over and over Thank you, thank you.

A couple of weeks later I found myself alone in the elevator with Mr. Forceful, who happened to be a muscle man. "You hate me, don't you?" he asked. I said, "No, I don't hate you." I quivered inside with fear.

Answer 8

could be because of fear or that they are just embarassed or feel embarassed for the person about the situation and hope that if they turn a blind eye that it may go away some day.
Or maybe they just dont want to get their name involved in such a situation

Answer 9

My parents tried to step in when I was with my adusive boyfriend but I had blinkers on and ignored them. I thought I "deserved" what he dished out and I thought I was the bad person doing something wrong.

Answer 10

People are scared that they will get involved.Even family are scared to help their own family member.Most people seem to be brave but actually arent.