Do you think I should help him?

Question

There was that man, an IT student, and he was low on cash, as all
students are. So, whenever I needed some help with the computer, I asked him, and paid him for this, giving something extra and paying for his transportation, just to help him out a bit, and we were friendly.
Then one day my Windows collapsed. I called him, he was out. They told me to call in the evening, when he would be back, and I did. He started shouting at me, telling me that it was late (though the person who answer the phone said it was ok time to call), and
basically telling me off. He found a great IT job and did not want to
have anything to do with me anymore. I wondered at that time why he didn't just said politely: "Sorry, I am not interested in this stuff
anymore, try somewhere else." I went to other people and fixed it for the lower price.
Some time passed, many months, and I received an e-mail from him, asking me how I was and what not.

He lost his job and wanted me to
help him - I know some IT people and really could.
Now, the question: do you really think I should? I have been in the similar situation in the past with other people. They seemed to be friendly while they needed me, then dropped me rudely, and all of them
then came back to me, asking me for something. I helped some again,
and then again dropped me and I felt bad about myself. Certainly people who act like this deserve what they get and must bear it on their own?

Answer 1

no i don't think you should help him. he was rude and his behavior may be an indication of other problems. the fact that you met him when he was unemployed and he now unemployed again shows instability...at the very least job wise. tell him you have a new techie to do your trouble shooting and wish him good luck. sometimes people are not very gracious when their fortunes change. there is a saying; that you pass the same people in life as you succeed, as you do when you fail. if he is such a great ti and the job was lost for whatever reason, he will find another one.

Answer 2

Since it is in your nature to help people, you would feel bad if you don't help him. However, tell him that although you are willing to help him, you are very disappointed in his earlier attitude to you, and that you are helping out of the goodness of your heart. Tell him you hope that things turn out OK for him, but that this will be the last time you are helping him as you cannot see yourself open to his abuse again. He will either apologise for his rudeness, and step lighter around you next time, or never contact you again. Either way, your conscience will be clear!

Answer 3

Actually you don't need to ask others opinion for such thing. Just ask your inner self which decision can make you happier - help or not? If your nature enjoys helping others, you would surely feel happier after giving a hand to others - without being calculative or regrets. Otherwise, just leave the guy.

Answer 4

Very understandable what you are saying. He had not right to get mad at you and shout and not talk with you for awhile. But it is in the past to forgive is idle. Not saying to help him get a job just push him in the right direction and what happens happens. Sorry for some people doing you wrong.

Answer 5

You have a big heart, that's why you want to help others. That's a very good trait to have. However, I would remind this guy how he treated you the last time you tried to help him and tell him you are just not up for it again. Good luck.

Answer 6

Go ahead and help him out if you don't you will
fill bad about it and there goes your Karma.

Remember it is you doing the good deed and
will gain good Karma.

You will fill better knowing you did good.

Answer 7

Give him the flick! he deserves it!