On saturday morning he recieved a letter which through damage in the post was open so i took a look and discovered that he had bought us tickets to see the england match on wed night,i thought hey wat a great surprise the kids will be chuffed.So i just put the post on the table.On sunday night i said to him that the kids might decide to go and see there dad for a few hours on wednesday night hoping that this would prompt him into saying that he had bought the tickets and so to arrange for them to see there dad another day,but he never said anything.About an hour later i sed if the kids are with there dad did he want to go to the pub to watch the match,still he said nothing bout the tickets all he said was that he would be working away on tues/wed night so he wouldnt be able to go to the pub.All i sed then was well have a good time at the match i know about the tickets, i asked him why he had not told me bout the tickets i feel he has lied and betrayed me.
2007-02-05 22:09:29 · 21 answers · asked by happylove_bunny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he said he didnt tell me cos we had been arguing last week and could not find the right time to tell me.He has done this before when he has booked skiing trips with his pals and only told me the day before he goes, im not allowed to go on holidays with my mates.Is this wat our future holds that everytime he wants to do something he will not tell me and just do it and blame it on the fact that maybe he booked it cos we were not talking at the time.He said its all my fault that he does not tell me cos i get too angry.Is this double standards,at least he has been away with his mates,im not allowed.we have been together for 8yrs and he does this all time im stupid are'nt i but is it a lie or what else is the explanation for this behaviour.He said he is taking the lads from work so why didnt he just tell me straight
2007-02-05 22:15:36 · update #1
Even if i wanted to go away ive no one to go with cos i dont have any mates anymore cos ive just devoted myself to him but where to go to meet new people is the question also without him accusing me of being unfaithful
2007-02-05 22:23:31 · update #2
True Love Never Runs Smooth,
Pity you cant get someone to have the kids so you could go with him.
On his work trip.
Good Luck Hope it all works out for you both.
OK OK the add you gave Now alarm bell OK why does he do it Simple answer HE'S SELFISH that is a selfish act.
I think you two need to see someone for the kids sake b4 you both say goodbye. Or maybe it would be better for them? I don't know. But I do know SELFISH acts.
Q is he the jealous type? if so be aware, Could be a guilty conscious
2007-02-05 22:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change = yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others
2007-02-05 22:13:48 · answer #2 · answered by Photographer 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not at all :] She shall be fine. Our little girl went to Grandma's at 2 weeks for a couple of days while I was in hospital for an operation with no adverse effects! She was as good as gold! If Mum oand Dad feel fine to leave her for a night at 5 weeks then that's great and I'm sure you'll have a lovely evening :]
2016-03-29 07:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you're hurting, but you're playing games.
If you 're not happy its time to both talk in an adult manner.
You looked in the post then played games about your children seeing their father. What was the point?
You saw the tickets. You tell him. Honesty doesn't lead to things like this.
Maybe try being honest with each other and asking yourselves if life isn't just to short and start working on being happy, what a relationship needs sometimes; a little work and a lot of commitment, honesty and love
2007-02-05 22:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by Em 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is being totally unfair with you. Of course you will be upset
if he keeps going away and not telling you until the last moment.
He has lied to you and if I were in your shoes where I have got
someone to look after the kids I would book myself into a health
spa for a weekend and keep in wondering. See if he likes it.
2007-02-06 00:37:03 · answer #5 · answered by Minxy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is making your life so unhappy why do you stay together ?
Start a new life with your children concentrate on your family for a while and then start looking for a new relationship put the children first you will be surprised there are men out there who admire strong independent women with self respect
2007-02-05 23:37:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was cheating i'm sure the last place he would take another woman is a crowded football match,why didn't you ask who was going to use the tickets.You could go to manchester with him for a bit of a shopping trip and stay with him overnight.
2007-02-05 22:15:54 · answer #7 · answered by heebygeeby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ouch. so what did he say after you told him you knew about the tickets? did he say who he was going with? its either 1 of 2 things, either 1 he's going with the lads on a lads couple of days and didnt want to tell you incase you wouldn't "let" him or didnt want him going or 2 he has somebody else and is bringing her. either way he lied to you and you need an explanation and he definitley needs to grovel to make up for that one.
2007-02-05 22:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say what his response was when you said you knew about the tickets. Is it possible he bought them on someone else's behalf? If they are indeed for him (and his guests), then you have good reason to feel stabbed in the back.
2007-02-05 22:12:59 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just wanted to go with his mates to the match and knew that you would fly off the handle if he told you that?
2007-02-05 22:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋