How did you feel about their expectations for you? were you successful in achieving them? why or why not, and how did this make you feel?
2007-02-05 22:06:55 · 6 answers · asked by Shan O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its actually not a simple answer but let me try and answer it briefly.
The expectations that my parents had from me were simple, realistic and well inculcated. They expected me to be a good human being , a well rounded individual with high principles, someone who would take and be responsible for my own decisions good or bad. It was never about - you must become an engineer or a doctor or earn a lot of money or be like this or be like that.
Turning Point : During Adolescence i believe all expectations of my parents were shattered , it was my rebellion, my choise for bad company, my indulgence into bad habits etc etc. This entire experience was just like a metamorphosis stage for me which final led me to grow into the Man i am today. All thanks to the values and guidance inculcated by my parents, they were never unreal and discouraging.
Today i would say i feel happy and have a tremendous sense of pride that i have lived up to my parents expectations. In-fact my parents have lived up to mine.
I am truly Blessed!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-05 22:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by insanely_saneman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My families expectations of myself and my sibs ? . . . One a scale of one to ten (ten being the highest) . . . a four.
I just celebrated my 50th this past Autumn and my success level at this point in my life is an 8 . . . wonderfully growing towards a 9.
You're asking the " why's and why not's " ? And, " how did / does this make me feel " ? The why's of my parents are their own story that they tried to impress into me. . . I am a ' success ' story in spite my parent's upbringing style. . . Why ? Story . . . story . . . story . . .
Everyone wonderfully, beautifully, sometimes oddly or sadly has their own ' story '. . . Yet, what has a person done with that ' story ' to reach a successful point in their own life ? Personally, I am not what my parents set out their kids to be.
You ask within your question " Were you successful in achieving them (your success) ? Oh Yeah ! ! ( smiles ).
Everyone has their own " story ". . . but, it's what your do with that story that counts.
Today I sit here smiling, bright of heart, proud of myself, living my life. . . still learning and growing. . . Life is good, at bit bumpy at times . . . yet. . . Life IS good.
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2007-02-05 22:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I put up with their demands to meet their expectations until my parents passed away. Luckily for me they went very early in my life. I was nearly 35 when the last one died. After they were gone is when i finally realized that i'd been living my life for them instead of myself.
I've never been more happy in my life with my accomplishments than i am right now, and i don't owe them anything for having achieved my goals in life.
2007-02-05 22:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 12:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by clarice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents expected me to be kind, well mannered and tolerant of others. They expected me to work for a living and not sponge off others. They expected me to find someone to love and to treat them with respect.I have met their expectations. They hoped I would reach all the goals I set for myself and I'm still working on it.
2007-02-05 22:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never met any of my family's expectations for me thank god! I have always been the black sheep of my family, and want totally different things from life than they do. I am after exitement and experiences and they are all into collecting possessions. I could never be happy if I tried to please them.
2007-02-05 22:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by Katt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋