Do other people find it ok to have sex whilst pregnant?

Question

My partner and I feel different about it now im 5wks pregnant, is this common, how far gone before sex becomes unsafe?

Answer 1

It's completely normal to have sex whilst pregnant. There is no time limit either, it's just up to the individual when it becomes uncomfortable. There are different positions that can be used in pregnancy like spooning.
I had sex the night b4 I went into labour with my 1st son.

Answer 2

Hi

I'm 9 weeks pregnant with my second child and my partner and I have the same concerns. I find that he has more of a problem with it than i do though. With my first pregnancy we had sex throughout although i think he found it off putting (mainly because I think he thought he would somehow hurt the baby inside). I think in the first 12 weeks you will have more concerns than at any other time, mainly because this is the time miscarriages can happen. We discussed this and decided that there were plenty of other things we could do to keep our closeness together and have gentle sex occasionally. I don't know about you but in the first 12 weeks I find that my sex drive is pretty low anyway as I am so tired so that can cause a problem anyway. When i was about half way through my first pregnancy I bought a sexy nightie (dont laugh) which covered my bump a bit and I think it helped him take his mind off it a bit which helped. Talk to him about it - not sure which one of you has the most concerns. It is safe to have gentle sex throughout the pregnancy (know this as i have a bad habit of buying pregancy magazines). The only time you have to be a bit careful is in the first 12 weeks and this is usually if you have a history of miscarriages. Anyway hope this helps as i do tend to rabbit on a bit. Congratulations and im sure things will work out ok.

Answer 3

You can have sex throughout your pregnancy and it is perfectly safe.
Why do you feel so differently about it all of a sudden? 3 weeks ago it was what created your baby!
If you really do feel funny about it and don't want to have sex, you should bear in mind that you are going to be pregnant for another 8 months, and then you probably won't be having much sex for the first few months after your baby is born. So you could in theory go the best part of a year without having sex if you stop now.
That's not healthy for any relationship!

Answer 4

I find sex really great when im pregnant....something to do with all those extra hormones and increased blood supply to that area. Anyway sex during pregnancy is a very personal choice....i have one friend whose husbabnd didnt go near her the entire time she was pregnant, and not because of any other reason than through fear of hurting the baby. Although he was reassured by many health proffessionals that it was safe to have sex the poor lovey just couldnt get his head round it. Other couples like me have a heightened sex life. The only thing id say is just perhaps ask him to be a little more gentle as they reakon that most early bleeds in pregnancy is due to the cervix, which is sensitive during this time and bleeds a lot easier. If you do bleed at all during the first three months they usually suggest you abstain from sex until you reach three months. As for the other end of the spectrum I dont think theres an upper limit of when you need to stop having sex, it just gets a little harder trying to find a comfitable position. Obviously once waters have gone or you have had a show then its time to stop...other than that carry on the baby is cushioned inside you and is quite safe, its often more of a psychological thing to get your head round as we go into protect that baby mode. Hope this helps x P.S congrats on the pregnancy x

Answer 5

You might feel different now but just wait. Your sex drive is normally increased during pregnancy and many men find their partners very attractive when they are pregnant. It is safe, normal and healthy to be sexually active until your baby is born ( although after six months the missionary position is out of the question ). Sex will help you feel happy and relaxed which is always good for the baby.

Make the most of it, when the baby arrives is when things can take a turn for the worse!

Answer 6

Whilst it is normal and safe to have sex in a problem free preganancy either the woman or the man may not feel like it and this is normal. I have heard about fathers who do not want to have sex for fear of their privates being in too close a vicinity to his unborn child!! Best not to have sex for first three months if you have experienced bleeding and/or have had previous early miscarriages tho.

Either way take it easy and dont feel pressured to have penetrative sex. There are other ways of being initimate especially as you get bigger, positioning may be an issue. As long as you both communicate your feelings, no-one should feel deprived.

Answer 7

sex is normal and wont affect baby in any way...maybe be a little careful for first few weeks.....I have 2 children and they turned out ok. It will get a bit uncomfortable towards the end so make the most of the time together as once baby comes then sex gets harder to fit in.
Theres no way my hubby would of gone all 9 months!

Answer 8

Evryone is different, I probably wanted more sex when I was pregnant but its never unsafe, the baby is well protected. Its advised not too do anything too rigerous. My sister was a complete opposite, didn't want sex at all after 8 weeks so there is nothing to worry about, we are all affected by the hormone changes differently

Answer 9

Congratulations on the pregnancy, I wouldn't say that there is anything unsafe about having sex whilst being pregnant, I had sex all the way through my pregnancy, even on the evening that i went into labour, remember that the drug they use to induce labour is in sperm so u just enjoy being pregnant and sex at the same time girl....All the best.x

Answer 10

I found sex weird and uncomfortable as soon as i became pregnant, i somehow felt if we did have sex i would hurt my unborn child(even though it is prefectly safe)! Luckly my partner was very understanding! Some people say not to have sex in the first 12 weeks and after 36 week.