Statement: I have no life
Question: How do I get one?
I'm 20 yrs old I live alone and I have no friends. It's been this way since high-school I can't seem to shake my anti-social behavior/personality. I'd have people I talked to in school but we would never associate outside of school.
Now that I'm in college it's even worse, there are days when I literally don't speak to anyone at all, not a word. I think that's why I'm so soft spoken because I'm so used to talking to myself.
So how does a guy when meeting new people, couldn't hold a conversation to save his life, go about gaining a social life? And are there any college students out there who can have a good time without getting wasted?
I'd like to add that I'm not depressed. It's just sometimes I wonder what it would be like to hang out with friends on a Saturday night instead staring at a computer screen working on my latest flash program or advertisement to make ends meet.
2007-02-05 21:47:24 · 9 answers · asked by Rand `al Thor 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
What are you interested in? Join some kind of a club, like a chess club or earth sciences society. That way, you will be surrounded by people who share your interests, and it is a lot easier to strike up a conversation. I belong to an Earth Sciences Club, and every month from March through October, we take a field trip to collect fossils and minerals. It is a great way to meet people, and we always have something to talk about. I also volunteer to work at different events throughout the year for the club, and it is easier to talk to people when you are sharing a common task or goal. Good luck.
2007-02-05 22:03:49 · answer #1 · answered by Susan H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Same
2014-06-03 12:38:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I don't know if shyness is your problem or what. I have never been shy a day in my life, but I do have some advice for you. Try making an EFFORT to make friends. Talk to people in your classes. The next time you have to work on a project with a group of people, if you guys all get an A, ask them if they would like to go out bowling or shoot some pool to celebrate! Don't be scared, just remember that they are humans just like you. Everyone has insecurities and issues. Open yourself up! You'll probably end up having such a good time with them, that they will invite you to do something with them next time!
2007-02-06 06:00:39 · answer #3 · answered by waterlily750 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't mean to sound like a recruiter, but it sounds like you need a radical change in lifestyle. One that only a few organizations I know offer. The most radical of which being the US Marine Corps.
If that option isn't for you, then perhaps you should take a less radical approach by approaching people who share your interests, you must do something with all that self-time. Play games or something, ask people if they do the same things as you. If they do, coordinate, conversate, chill.
2007-02-06 05:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by Rush_Informer01 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Everyone goes through that. And remember that people that have friends get lonley too. i think you should try to get into a group that interests you.ie computers...But one that gets you out of the house. If you find something your really care about, after a while you'll open up more.
2007-02-06 05:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
try other ways to meet new friends by surfin' internet or attending people of the place.. loneliness can be defeated.
2007-02-06 06:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by max 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join a good singles group at a good church trying to find good friends at a bar is a waste trying to find friends is tough but if you dont push yourself to join some clubs or groups you will never find any
2007-02-06 05:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by Are we using our brains today 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
child'' you gotta lot to learn your still young yet It ain't the end yet, is it.''
2007-02-06 06:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by bigturkeyme 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can have mine
2007-02-06 05:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋