His family is very close to my husband and I - his uncle was the best man at our wedding, and his step-father was the minister. He joined the Army and graduated from basic training last August, and now is gone. I know that the, "I'm sorry for your loss," and, "He's in a better place," crap doesn't matter - it makes no difference, I speak from the experience of losing both of my parents, one in the last year. What do I say or do for them to make any difference, even just a small one? He meant so much to so many people, and has a twin sister and three younger sisters.... I'm just at a loss.
2007-02-05 20:56:47 · 9 answers · asked by jhostman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Wow Im so sorry to hear that. What one of my late brothers friends and his wife did when he passed was take one of my brothers pictures, have it enlarged and the date he was born adn date he died printed in it on a border with his fave quote and the surrounding paper left blank so friends and family could write their messages on it and then had it framed. We still look at it and read the messages today and he died 2002. It also gives people who never met him an idea of how he was. Maybe you can do the same thing or similar thing....
2007-02-05 21:02:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. Telling someone who lost their son, or any other family member "He's in a better place" is NOT going to make them feel better. It's almost like dismissing their pain. Something like "He will be so missed" validates their grief and empathises with what they are going through.
In the end, nothing you can say ever seems to be enough. Dying sucks for the living.
2007-02-06 05:03:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jadalina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start with what a terrible loss they are suffering. Then let them know how much he meant to you and so many others and that you'll always miss him..Offer a shoulder to lean on and an ear to listen anytime they need you.
I lost a son to drunk driving and these sincere words of comfort helped me most of all..
2007-02-06 05:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Friend, was a Brave Soldier. who volunteered to keep us safe. Who paid the ultilmate sacrifice to Serve This Nation. God Bless you, And all of the Family.
2007-02-06 05:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by Goggles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a real tough one. I wouldn't say anything. They know you are upset and vise versa. Just be a shoulder for them to lean on if they need someone to confide in. Sorry to hear this. Best wishes.
2007-02-06 05:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by 444 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theres not much you can do to be honest apart from just being there for his family... This is talking from experience. lots of us have lost people out there and this to be honest is the best way
2007-02-06 05:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by gotta_be_gnome 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them about your friendship with him. It might make them feel better to know that their son had good friends that made him happy while he was alive.
2007-02-06 05:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them how proud they can be of their son who cared so much that he gave his own life to protect our freedom. Tell them how grateful you are and how grateful his nation is to him for taking care of us.
My sincerest condolences and sympathy to you and his family and my greatest gratitude to him.
2007-02-06 05:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by Some Guy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I really don't know what to tell you in this regard, but please, even though I don't know you personally, allow me to express my deepest condolences on your --- and all those other people's --- loss.
2007-02-06 05:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋