I love her, but she lives at home and only has the responsibility of a car payment and now she wants to raise a child.
2007-02-05 19:33:32 · 26 answers · asked by JP 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sounds like a good time for both of you to grow up!!
2007-02-05 19:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by Oops! 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby can be scarey, especially if you weren't trying to have one and are young but it is also a wonderful and amazing exprerience. You may be worried about money and that you may not be fully prepared but sometimes things happen and you have to step up and take responsibility for you actions. She has already decided to have the baby so you have to try to be supportive, start planning and start looking at it for all of the great things it will be. You are going to be a Dad! having a child is a blessing! So many people want one and can't have one. Although it may be tough to imagine, once you see your little baby I am sure you will be overwhelmed by how much you will love it! And, 5 years from now you will wonder how you could have ever thought you may not have wanted it! I know a few people who had kids when they least expected it, and not one of them regrets having the baby now and although they were nervous it was all worth it! As for the money worries, I can understand your concern but I think that you may be surprised that people are going to be willing to help you out. I'm sure that your parents, her parents and other family and friends will try to help you out in many ways. I would suggest that you talk to people you trust and have xperience with children to help you through this and communicate with the Mom because you two will share this forever whether you are a couple or not. Be strong, be positive and good luck!
2007-02-06 04:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your girlfriend is ready and you are not. Sounds like she is willing to face up to the responsibility of being a mother. As she lives at home that is the best place for her to live with the baby during and after the pregnancy. Her family may be very willing to support her emotionally. When the time is right the three of you will probably be able to set up a home for yourselves - support your girlfriend totally in every way you can, be thankful she has a roof over her head right now. You will gradually by spending time with her and your baby get used to the idea of being a father. When you are present at your babys birth you will I am sure be elated and want to give both baby and Mum everything you can to make them happy and secure. Talk to your parents both of you, Im sure they will support you also. Im a Mum also.
2007-02-06 03:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
SHE wants to raise a baby. Who put their wang in her? You!!
So start taking some responsibility. Theres these things called condoms. But whats done is done now it is time for you to get ready to have and love a child. Be there for your girl, whether you guys stay together or not. Your child will be better taken care of if you dont stress out the mom.
2007-02-06 03:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by monica your new bff 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just keep it!
You won't get more regret after all anyway you wont add more sin by killing the Infants. some how you will be a Father anyway. Just Marry her, and solve the problem together as a team.
Believe it or not my Grandparent survive to live with their 6 children without much money, so I believe money is not a reason not to raise a child.
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2007-02-06 03:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by Andrew S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that most people ever think they're totally 'ready' for parenthood. But, you do have several months to grow up and prepare. If she wants this baby, then it's HER choice. You make your own choice whether you are going to be a dad and stay with her and your baby. She will most likely resent you if you talk her into an abortion. And the success rates of relationships with resentment in them isn't very high. You need to SUPPORT your girlfriend who is pregnant with your baby. That is what she needs. You have several months to get ready. I wish you the best.
2007-02-06 03:40:44 · answer #6 · answered by K 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look man, you got your head on straight. Don't give abortion a second thought. I've been with my g/f for a year and a half. we don't really try to have kids, but we are'nt really keeping from it either. But I think it ould be nice one day, but as long as we've been together, it hasn't happened yet. I am not saying you're a bad person for not lying and saying that you're capable right now.You are completely right. As long as you try your best. There are plenty of people, including myself ho would love to be in your shoes. So, don't go through ith that. Man be honest with yourself, can you honestly take the life of an inocent baby? There are plenty of people who would take care of it. I honestly hope you make the right decicion dude. Take care.
2007-02-06 03:45:54 · answer #7 · answered by blacksheep0685 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, ready or not you are having a baby. Don't worry about her responsibilitys. Mother hoods happends the moment that little one is born. God has a way of working things out. Don't listen to the people posting rude anwers. Good luck!
2007-02-06 03:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by jakesbell87 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are so many married, grown adults that say..."we are planning to have a baby." you can never plan something like that. if you don't have kids you will never know what "ready" is until it's there. it's all about instinct...a mother especially has that. there is too much financial help out there for you if finances is the problem. don't do something you may regret and ruin a potentially lasting relationship one day. everything happens for a reason, no matter what choice you guys make. good luck!
2007-02-06 03:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by skrubz69 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whether you are ready or not, you have a child. Regardless of the circumstances of your life, your child is totally innocent and does not deserve to die. This is your son or daughter you are talking about, and he or she deserves your protection. If you love your girlfriend, you will not ask her to put herself at risk and kill your child. She will end up hating you for it if you pressure her to abort. This is your chance to show what kind of man you really are. Do you really love her? Are you willing to take responsibility for your actions?
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2007-02-09 22:16:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves a child let her have it, I think she will be old enough to be responsible for her action, but never abort a child instead try to let other people adopt the child.
2007-02-06 03:48:28 · answer #11 · answered by fongski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋