I have been so busy with graduate school and work over the past few years, that I have neglected a little detail of adult life...making friends. The little freetime I had was spent with my husband or talking to my best friend (from childhood) on the phone. Although I am still in graduate school, I have taken a new job that requires only 40 hours of work per week (yippee!) and has left me with a bit of free time to...well, I don't know what to do with my time! I'm rusty on making friends and my social skills are down the gutter (I feel like a puppy let off her leash to greet people after being locked up all day!). I don't have a lot of interaction with my peers at work because we do different types of work and our offices are not in the same building. I am married, no kids (yet), and nearing 30. Is it possible to make new, solid friendships without the "special" bonds of school, kids, etc. I think it's harder as an adult to just approach a stranger and strike up a conversation.
2007-02-05 18:39:55 · 6 answers · asked by Madelaine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think you have to look at what interest you. If you have hobbies like tennis or dance maybe should look into hobbies or clubs that promote those activities. It is easier to start a conversation when people have something in common.
In addition, I would suggest is pick up your local city magazine. Hopefully your city has one. The city I live in publishes a quarterly magazine that lays out all the events and city activities from dance lessons, to CPR, to playing bingo. There should be a lot of good information in there. Also explore your city library. They will most likely have great information posted on their bulletin boards.
2007-02-05 18:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by thoughtsandtheliberation 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about joining a club? If you have a hobby or interest you could find other people who like to do the same thing. Meetup.com is a good way to find just that. You can search interests by city. I'm a stay-home-mom and found playgroups for my daughter there. Through that I've made some great friends.
Also, churches or other religious fellowships are great that way. Lots of people go to church just to meet people.
2007-02-05 18:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by GeminiVirgo1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
striking up a conversation with a stranger is not as hard as you think. start a conversation with someone you always see but always ignore like the lady behind the counter of your favorite coffeeshop, the doorman in your office building. there's so many people you can meet. being an adult is not a disadvantage. use what you have learned.
goodluck on hunting friends and enjoy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-05 18:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by biboy1437 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met a lot of interesting people through my children. I got to know my next door neighbours, and am pretty close to them. Also I met a lot of women whilst working nightshift some years ago, and we're still good friends. I live in a smallish town, so it's easy for me. Join a club or group where you'll meet all sorts.
2007-02-05 18:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
making friends is not as difficult as what you think. what is you need to do is JUST SMILE and show you happy face to everyone you meet. Or just say hello when only you got the right time. Make a simple conversation then people will notice your appearance. By doing that people will remember you..then your friends relationship will growth naturally. You must make your day is happy day everyday.......
2007-02-05 18:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by comel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely agrre. I'm having the same problem myself so I starred this question..hope you don't mind. (I'm a Pre-Med student.)
2007-02-05 18:44:04 · answer #6 · answered by Ronijn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋