My best friend has been dating a guy for over a year, right now he's in between jobs and she's working, he says he's looking but I dont think he's putting in much work trying to look for a new job. Last year Feb, he ask to borrow $300, to this day he hasn't giving it back, since then every now and then he'll ask for 10-$20, that nothing much, but when that accumulates, that's money. Anyway, Financially, he's not bringing anything to the table and as the Man, you should even been in the situation, but here's the thing, I know for a fact, even if she dosen't feel the same way about him, I know that HE is madly in love with her and he would do just about anything for her. I honestly think he would take a bullet for her. She ask my opinion on whether she should end it. Because she feels like she's in a Junior H.S relationship and I understand her, an adult relationship can't just be based on feelings alone. If there is a future here, they need some financial stability on BOTH parts.
2007-02-05 18:18:29 · 3 answers · asked by JamaicanVixen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
One hand washes the other, so if her can't meet her 50% on everything, whats the point? BUt I don't want to tell her to leave because I know how he feels about her, what should I tell her? I'm confused...
2007-02-05 18:19:40 · update #1
*****Sorry for the typos ****
2007-02-05 18:23:40 · update #2
in my opinion, she should give the guy another chance and see how it goes first, but not hold on for too long. if this was to continue what is the point of dragging the relationship on and on with no end to it. this would not only hurt your friend but the guy as well at the end. it is better to break it off before the wound gets any deeper and by then no one will be able to help anyone. if the guy is really keen on getting a secure job and give your friend happiness, he will put an end to this - hopping from job to job. if he loves your friend as much as you say, he will do whats best for the both of them.
2007-02-05 18:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by S.T. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as your friend gives her share of the rent, let them be but tell your friend to be cautious. also try talking to the guy. tell him that there's a fine line love and stupidity. if he really loves your friend, he should do something about it.
i've been that road before, and i know that kind of situation. i'm glad that i'm not like your friend's bf. i think of what our future would be if i didn't get a job.
if evrything else fails, tell your friend to dump the guy.
2007-02-06 02:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by biboy1437 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her...that time will tell if hes in love with her or not......but that she should give it more time...
2007-02-06 02:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by Yisi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋