Pregnent at age 13?????

Question

Dont worry its not me thats pregnent but my friend is! She is only 13 and Im scared for her! How do I help her!?!?! She refuses to get an abortion!

Its not her fault

She got raped

Answer 1

you said she was raped i hope this was reported to the police as for being pregnant has she been to the doctor or the local health dept?if she has and is pregnant for sure her parents have to know she is to young and most 13 year old girls bodies are not ready to carry a child it can be dangerous for her health,but first things first no matter what either of you think her parents have to know i understand the fear of telling them trust me i do but they have to be involved now dont wait they will me upset and might even be angry but they will be there to help her make a decision that no 13 year old child should have to make.
sex might sound like the end all be all when you are young but the fact that shes a baby having a baby is just one of many problems that come along with sex stds are out there and think about this the next time you or your friends think sex is the answer there are stds you live with for the rest of your life and dont forget there are some that you can die from please think about that too sex at 13 is like playing in traffic yes you might not ever get run over but the one time you do will be the last.......

Answer 2

I don't believe in abortion, but holy hell girl.... a 13 year old even having sex is beyond my imagination...

I was 21 when I had my son (2 years ago) and even THAT was young, too young for comfort, but I had to deal with it. I was about to graduate from college, but I had to withdraw, and I haven't been able to go back since because my 2 year old is THAT time consuming and needs my full attention.

I strongly suggest someone get her to a planned parenthood immediately. They can talk to her about her options, possibly adoption... A baby is wonderful when you're ready, but on the flip-side, this will be HUGELY overwhelming for her.

If adoption is out of the question, I very much hope she has a lot of people who will be there for her during this time in her life, support her, and help her out as much as possible.

Don't try to make her get an abortion, just get her to a planned parenthood. I would be scared for her too, if I were you. I'm not saying she's a bad person or anything, but I cannot even imagine what I would do if I had been 13 and pregnant. A 13 year old shouldn't even be having sex! Hell, I didn't even kiss a boy until I was 16!

Good luck. Be there for her as much as you can.

Answer 3

The first thing is to get her to tell her parents
I know this is hard but if she is not going to have an abortion she needs to tell her parents the sooner the better they can help her work it out and yes they maybe upset for a little while but they will come around to the idea even if your 20 your parents can still be a little worried about the idea but they will come around in no time you need your family close when you have a baby they will help you work it out and she will feel so much better and less stressed which is not good for the baby so please get her to tell her parents

Answer 4

Maybe she does't want to get an abortion. Did you think of that? Maybe she wants to keep it and raise it. Tell her to put it up for adoption. Why are you so against her being a mother at 14 years old? It's not your baby so don't make a big deal out of it. Be a friend and support her in her decision regarding HER child. She'll need all the help she can get in raising this baby.

Answer 5

Sorry to hear about your friend ...Being Raped is horrible and getting pregnant from it on top of that even worse I think she should put the baby up for adoption because I think she is way to young to be a mother with or without support from her family..She will have a lifetime of pain anyways everytime she loks at that baby she will be REMINDED of how it was Conceived in a brutal way of being Raped...Even though it is not her fault or the baby's for that matter..If she cant or wont put it up for adoption maybe her parents if finacially stable ect can help they can raise it as there own..In the mean time stick by her as a friend and support her in whatever she deceides

Answer 6

As hard as it might be to raise a child at that age, an abortion might hurt her more emotionally than anything. Be her friend and try to see what made her make the decisions she did to get in this situation in the first place and help her sort out her life.

Answer 7

Well, it's good she's not getting an abortion...that's just wrong. Do her family know? Because they need to! Just talk to her a lot, hang out like normal and be girls! If she can't handle a child for the rest of her life, she should put it up for adoption when it's born. Good luck!

Answer 8

A family member of mine had a baby at thirteen. It was a very difficult struggle for her and the family. Just be there for your friend and get her to a doctor as soon as possible. Does her parents know? The sooner they find out the better it will be for everybody. I personally don't believe in abortions but i do know that she is too young. Make sure that your friend gets the proper treatment to prepare her for the baby. Today, my family member is doing great with her daughter. It took hard work and caring family members to be there for her. But remember this is not always the case.......................

Answer 9

Well, to me abortion is not the answer at all. That's how people get out of their mistakes instead of learning from them. Your friend is just going to have to face reality that she's pregnant and she needs to start planning on how she is going to provide and take care of the baby. Maybe you should sit down and have a heart to heart talk with her and just let her know how you feel. Good luck, and God bless you.

Answer 10

If she doesn't want to get a abortion then the only thing you can do is be there for her. Raising a baby is a lot of responsibilty and work and she is going to need a good friend beside her.