im really confused and need help.Ive known him for about 7 years now,but weve only actually talked for 2.Hes one of the best friends ive had,i liked him last year.and i thought he didnt like me.but he recently told me that he liked me but didnt want to ruin the friendship so he never told me.now its just rekendled(i cant spell)flames.i really do like him,but im not sure if its the right thing to do,our friendship is at stake.any suggestions?
2007-02-05 18:04:20 · 7 answers · asked by rwnwick1983 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Totally YES. I had this guy who I was best friends with for 3 years. After the first year of our friendship, I realized that I had feelings that were stronger than just friends. I didn't tell him because I was afraid it would ruin or change our relationship.
The funny thing is, he was doing the same exact thing. This totally sounds lame, but we didn't admit to each other how we really felt until we were both pretty drunk. We started to date after that. That was over 13 years ago. This coming August is our 10th wedding anniversary.
I can honestly say, we've been through some rough things. Personally, I couldn't have gotten through them if I wasn't married to my best friend. There are also times in a marriage that being best friends is what saves the relationship.
I say go for it. Of all of our friends we had in college, we're the only ones that are still married. I truly believe it's because we had/have the strong foundation of friendship.
I just thank God everyday we got drunk that night! LOL! I can't imagine how my life would be if we grew apart and lost touch with each other.
2007-02-05 18:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After many years, I believe now that friendship is the best foundation for a good and satisfying love relationship and i know you know what i mean. I think that you should give it a try. There are some friends who are just meant to be friends but there are some who are meant to be more than just simple friends and it's for both of you to find out what you're both meant to be. In either way there are risks. Would you risk continuing the friendship and leave the future wondering what if? or Would you rather risk moving the relationship to another level even if it might not be a success and the friendship could be stained? It's a risk but looks like you both like each other more than friends, that makes it hard for both of you to be "just friends" now. Just be strong and be mature in your decisions. You'll both be fine. :-)
2007-02-06 02:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by terra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? All relationships have to start off as friendships first. You just happen to have the friendship thing down packed. Give it a try. It'll be just fine. Don't worry too much about ruining the friendship. Usually, the best relationships are those where they were great friends.
2007-02-06 02:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by Scott D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the right thing. Only you know the answer to this question.
2007-02-06 02:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by gypsydude88 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Date him and see how it goes..
2007-02-06 02:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it a try..
2007-02-06 02:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by Von 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO!
2007-02-06 02:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋