The story begins with my sister dating a man who claimed he was madly in love with her and they both agreed to take an HIV/AIDS test before the next move,the man was negative and my sister positive,, before the man was so loving,providing and caring, after the results, he started pulling out slowly, no more phone calls, text messages, and no more visits.
Do you think as he had told her before that he was madly in love, and now pulling out is that LOVE but was blocked by the results??
My sister had agreed they use protective measures like condoms but he is still distanting him self, what advice are you giving us and if were you my sister, what would you do??
DO YOU THINK HE EVEN LOVED HER A BIT??
Thanks for your great help and be blessed.
2007-02-05 17:58:05 · 13 answers · asked by kiss me. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi, this is a hard question to answer, on one hand i think he maybe does love your sister, but loves himself that bit more and is more worried about himself getting this or maybe what people would think of him if they knew, but in that case he is not the right person for your sister as she needs someone who is going to be there for her and support her more than ever now, this must have came as a great shock to your sister, but what can she do she has to live with it, is he man enough to live with it too and be strong for her, if not maybe she should find someone who will.
On the other hand he may just be scarred, he may love your sister too much that it is killing him knowing she is going to get ill, and maybe he can't cope with this, so he is backing off so as not to get hurt when the time comes.
In my oponion men don't cope with things as well as women do, they back off when scarred, they don't know what to do so do nothing hoping things will just put themselves right, they say women are the weaker sex but i don't think so.
I feel if i was your sister i would take it that he didn't love me as much as he said he did, that if he truely loved me he would stand by me and be there for me no matter what, i would be looking at my relation ship with him and decideing whether i wanted a man like this. What would your sister do if it was the other way round, would she stay or run for the hills, I would stay thats why i say this, he can't love her if he stops phoning her and is not coming round to visit, so my advice is tell your sis to get on with her life and live it for today, enjoy it while she can, do all the things she wants to do now while she is still able. Please past my love and kind regards on to her and I wish you all the best of luck for the future, she is lucky she has a sister that loves her, be there for her and let her know you love her as you are doing,good luck
2007-02-05 18:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by whitleylass 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a fairly constant anthropological and psychological theory that 'God' and the salvation paired with the concept are just ways for our minds to move the blame for our less than savory actions onto a higher power, and still keep the belief that we are going to be rewarded for 'trying'. It is only sensical that we would invent a Heaven as well, because we are afraid of what may come after, and as humans are much happier deluding ourselves into thinking that we're going to be pampered in the after life. Aside from that, its a good form of control as well. People with a little bit of logic can use the beliefs of others to manipulate them into doing as they want, as a number of people have shown over the centuries. I tag on this disclaimer: I'm not saying that Christians et all are bad, because a lot of them are good people, and they have the right to believe as they will, and I am merely offering an answer to a question. (Don't expect anything but closed-mindedness from them, though. When asked to present a scientific basis, the best they can ante up is 'faith' or start quoting lines from a very old book that has had most of the outright riddiculum cut out of it by an old English King) (Also what you were describing hit closer to Buddhism, Hinduism and Taoism. Christians don't believe you become one with God, just that you get to bask in his presence for all of eternity.)
2016-05-23 22:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a special type of person to manage going from madly in love and everything you expect from that to where your sister and the boyfriend got so quickly. Call me old fashioned but having such tests was never on the menu for me,I see it as being responsible though especially if they had both been irresponsibly sexually active in past relationships.Love is a little word that covers a lot of ground, it would be simple if it was about the easy things in life but it isnt.Anyway at least she knows where she stands and can learn from it and get on with her life. Wish her good luck from me.
2007-02-05 18:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U know first and for most.. am very sorie 2 hear about ur sister's condition... but not that sorie... cause feeling sorie that much wil make her loose hope in life. she better stand up and face reality and do what wil keep her healthy. That man yes lovd him but was never committed 2 the relationship. Had he committed himself somehow yes then we could be able to rate the lov. Am sorie am of no help but tel her that had they committed themselves then we would be able to rate. The man is stil searching so let him do...the poor man doesnt know that other ladies wont have the guts to tell him their status. And it was wise for him to have stayed with someone she understands better than the new search... anyway bye gone are the bye gones. Tel ur sis to gather herself up and face reality and deal with it. She wil cope. AIDS does not mean that u r dying tommorrow mind u. She stil has a life to live . hav a gud day
2007-02-05 18:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He did what most people would do. HIV/Aids is a death sentence. If we are honest none of us would knowingly get sexually involved with a carrier. He may have loved her, but - be real. The relationship sounds quite new. Why tie himself down?
2007-02-05 18:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by Foxxy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is running scared. Lots of people are ignorent, and so run for cover. Your sister should try life without him. I'm sure she will cope with her family around her. Good Luck.
2007-02-05 23:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by nora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he did but is just too scared of the possibility of contracting it himself. You sister must continue to be honest in all her relationships though.
2007-02-05 20:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason why he's pulling out is because his heart is broken and he won't be able to spend the rest of his life with her and yes he did love her probably more then just a little bit.
2007-02-05 18:05:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he did and probably still does love her.
Sometimes you have to ask yourself how YOU (being this man) might handle critical situations such as this. Doing so helps to consider different perspectives in our efforts to better understand and love others for who they are.
May ALMIGHTY GOD bless and comfort you and yours.
GLORY to GOD FOREVER.
2007-02-05 18:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as though he did love her but was scared off with the positive H.I.V results.Cant blame the man !
2007-02-05 18:11:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋