i mean what should i do?i know my husband love me very much.and i love him ,too.but i'm the one that wrong.pls give solution....
2007-02-05 17:56:38 · 28 answers · asked by eva erawaty henry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You probably shouldn't have gotten married hm?
Marriage is about commitment, and communication.
Sometimes you go through what's commonly known as the "seven year itch", it doesn't necesarrily have to be seven years. But at some point you may feel like you're not really in love with your husband. Sometims it's not really love for another person, as it is a fantasy, or the Ideal love.
My advice to you, don't be selfish.
Just that. You made a commitment in front of your family and the law to stay by your husband, and unless he is LITERALLY beating you, or your life is LITERALLY in danger. You need to work together with him. Forget about your silly fling right now. You are NOT in love with some other guy. You're just a little uncertain. That's how it seems from what you wrote. You sound more confused. Otherwise you would have written more about this other guy. You need to tak a long look at your future. Do you really wanna mess things up? and also, you can't romantically love more than one person at the same time. Either you love your husband, or this new guy. My bet, is you still love your husband, your just confused. Talk to him. Spend time with him. Tell him how you feel.
If you're feeing insecure, tell him that. Tell him you want to bond. THAT'S WHAT MARRIAGE IS ABOUT
My best wishes to you. Please think this through
2007-02-05 21:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your husband and he is a good sort, stay with him, look at why you are looking else where and do something about it, don't give up on your marriage you may regret it for the rest of your life, i say this as i know, i was in the same position as you and nearly lost my husband, but just in time realised he was the person i loved and was in love with, we have been together 20 years now and when i think of what i nearly did i still feel guilty, he is the best thing that ever happened to me, mind after saying this i only know this because of what we went through, he ended up going and living with someone else for 4 months but i had been treating him really badly, i was going out all the time flirting with anyone and everyone and he though i was seeing someone else, i knew this but never did anything about it, you still have time, so if you truly love him stop what your doing and be grate-full its not too late, do more things together and get the spark back, good luck and best regards for the future.
2007-02-05 18:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by whitleylass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Move to a new city and never see the other guy again.
2) Get counseling.
3) Work on improving the relationship with your husband by doing more things together.
4) Take up some new interests, hobbies, or challenging projects that will give your life more meaning. People are usually drawn to cheat because they're bored with their life on some level. They mistakenly think this is their spouses fault, as if another person were responsible for defining the purpose of their spouse's existence.
2007-02-05 18:08:13 · answer #3 · answered by J R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its shear madness when such a love occurs. You will not be in a position to take either of the steps. But one thing you should understand have you not committed yourself to your husband that both of you would stay together even when you face both known and unknown hurdles if so how come now you are thinking about this new relationship . What would happen to the children. What the society would think about you ? study all this and even after this your love out weighs all this then I am afraid that you have no choice except telling your husband and leaving him.
2007-02-05 18:03:00 · answer #4 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess first u should make sure whether u love this guy or its just attraction / infatuation coz its pretty normal for anybody (whether single or committed) to have infatuations.
If its just that, then u may laugh about it and forget trhe issue there.
but if u feel u love this guy, then try to figure out what is making u do it - like r u bored in ur marriage / r u upset with ur husband for some thing / r u not satisfied with ur husband / u mentioned ur husband loves u but do u love him???
once u get honest answers for the above questions, then u may go ahead and live with the guy whom U LOVE.
2007-02-05 18:04:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your feelings and emotional interests are developing out of your marriage, then there is something wrong in your marriage.
As I was the victim of adultery I don't condone affairs. Talk honestly to your husband about how you feel about him and your marriage, I wouldn't recommend talking about your feelings for someone else.
How do you know that your husband loves you in the sexually passionate way? It may be comfort love, and if so he may be feeling the same way.
Don't start an affair whatever you do, too many people get hurt including yourself.
2007-02-05 18:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by bengimog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your husband as you say, then leave the other person alone and make a go of things with your husband.
If that is not possible then the only answer is divorce, only you can find the solution nobody else.
2007-02-05 18:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear it. I feel so bad. You 2 have to talk and make sure that you really want to work on your marriage and get some help for sure it is not easy to forget that he cheated although if you forgive it. make sure that he is not going to see that woman and let him knwo that a woman who goes with a guy who is marriend and has kids is such a bad person who does not care about anyuthing and anyone else but herself, and will do that agian and again I wish you all the luck take care
2016-05-23 22:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can be really mean and ugly but when the tables turn.... Anyway its hard but you really have to take a step back , almost as if youre watching it from another persons perspective, and see what youve already got and then see what you could have. Its not easy but remember what ever choice you do make youre going to have to live with it. Good Luck.
2007-02-05 18:04:07 · answer #9 · answered by Princess Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have to make up ur mind about who you realy want to be with. One can be in love with more than one person and its okay for it , but you have to decide who to stay with because I'm sure they don't like sharing. ALso, does this other person love u or care for U as much as U do? The mistakes we make affect our future in a way.........
Think about it anf make sure you pick between the two. U probably got married young
:(
2007-02-05 18:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by Junia Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋