I have dated this guy for 3,5 years and broke up with him 2,5 years ago...Now he is with my sister and they are telling me that that they love each other very much...i havent spoken him since we broke up...everyone knew that he was in love with me more than anything and he wanted to marry me...how could my sister do smtg. like this?how he can be with her?my mind just doesn't get this...how am i getting used to yhis?
2007-02-05 17:41:46 · 19 answers · asked by poor misguided fool 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No.. That is not normal.. Your sister broke the "unwritten rule" of any of your ex boyfriend become off limits to her when you break up.
2007-02-05 17:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So he hates your sister, got her pregnant to get back at you? He set himself up for at least 18 yrs of child support to get back at you? What an idiot....and your sister is a fool, but then young kids are often easily swayed and taken advantage of by older people. What do you do? So distance yourelf from the situation for now. Down the road you'll figure out what's best for you. It's clear your sister was used, and the guy is no loss to you. I can see you disliking him...but she may need your support. She's just a kid, even if a stupid kid. The guidance and advice of an older, wiser sister may help her in the future. Her life isn't lost...it's just going to be a lot more challenging (esp if she has a baby and keeps it).
2016-05-23 22:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOO. TALK TO YOUR SISTER!
This is a big deal. For one, your ex and sis really could be in love, but as your sister, she needs to also consider how you feel too. This is a touchy situation. On the other hand. I'm not trying to rub it in, but you DID break up with him.
My advice is to TALK to your sis. Ask her why she loves him. Tell her that you're a little hurt because of the distance you put between you and your ex. And do so SENSITIVELY, you do NOT want to encourage the wrath of a possible Bridezilla.
You need to have a nice talk with her. And maybe explain WHY you broke up with him. If he wasn't unfaithful, and it just didn't work out for you guys, then I'm afraid you may just have to move on with this. Regardless. Talk, find out what's going on. Breath
best of luck
2007-02-05 21:31:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to be mad!
i bet you feel like you've been back stabbed & there doing this to make you feel akward or whatever.
your sister no doubt should check with you to see if this guy is the one for her.
ive only heard this kind of sanario on soap oprea's. so im guessing this is not normal.
let your sister know that this is wrong, & you feel betrayed.
she shouldnt be digging around in your romanic life anyways.
you have every right to be mad, but just let her know how this make you feel, & ask her how she can be happy with a man that dumped your own sister to be with you.
i think thats very....weird. your ex is a jerk & obviously has no respect for you.
dating is...one thing, but marring you sister...after YOU dated him for 5 years?
you spent half a decade with this man, doing the same things he would be doing with your sister.
i wound end. unless they...."truely" are happy with eachother...
lol sorry if my comment was a little...exaggerated.
i just think its wrong.
2007-02-05 17:52:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Space yourself from them so they get the hint you need a buffer zone so you see less of them - less exposure will give you some fresh air and composure from the situation. Then remember if she has ex boyfriends that you are interested in, all men are fair game as you shop around for new boyfriends.
2007-02-05 17:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think it's not a question whether it's normal or not.it's a question whether u still love him or not.if u dont let they marry and congratuate them.but if u do i think u need a talk with the guy.work out the problem before they get married.i think it's the better solution the u do nothing at all but confusing yourself.
2007-02-05 18:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by kelen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now when you two are broke up from each other, you should not be worrying about what he is doing, Your sister, on the other hand has full rights to select a husband.
2007-02-05 17:45:40 · answer #7 · answered by rahul 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it happens more than you think, your not interested him so let it go, they may have found something in common that you didn't have. It may also be a reflection of your parents of raising children that are desirable both ways. And it's much easier if you know someone to talk to them. And that is what happened, he was hurt and injured or her and he or she is an enabler.
2007-02-05 17:51:25 · answer #8 · answered by Right 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel bad for you, thats a really tough situation... in my family of three girls we all have an understanding....Dont mess with your sisters man...past, present or future!!!
If I ever did anything like that my family would disown me.
I would talk to her about it tell her how you feel and see how serious she is about him... Ask how they got together?
Its odd because when I see my sisters x I dont speak to them......
2007-02-05 17:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things change. Accept it. It ended betwn. you and him 2 1/2 yrs. ago. That's a long time. I think your ego is bruised. Get over it and wish them well.
2007-02-05 17:59:25 · answer #10 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋