Then when i found out she cmpletley changed here attitude and begged me to stay as i was walking out the door. She mentions repetivley ,she didnt sleep with him she knows thats what would make me shurely leave and asks me to please stay .what gets me is 2 months earlier she said "she loves me but is no longer in love with me".So I did see are relationship ending but when I found out she was planning on leaveing me for him wile he was locked up I was I shock,anger,confusion,all the things to be expected when u find out your wifes leaveing u for a former friend that I had treated like a brother. we have three kids together I had enjoyed raiseing them & will never stop being Dad to my daugther & 2 boys.That said ive changed,I was so proud with my family enjoyed doing stuff with my kids stuff that i had never had expirienced as a child.I never had a man roll model didnt even ever see my real dad & My moms choices looking back were F#@!up she got used & I now see my wife like I saw my mom
2007-02-05 17:39:22 · 5 answers · asked by Jason M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's funny how women act like only men cheat, huh? us men know the truth cuz we've been through it
2007-02-05 17:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by some_one1234 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So basicaly you've answered your own ques. Not all females are screwed up like that just the overwhelming majority. I once had a lady friend or so I thought for 18 yrs. and at the end of that 18 th. yr. she commited an unforgiveable act of "larsony" which is "treason". There's only one thing to do my friend and that is don't under any circumstances "play ya self"!! Get the hell out of there "NOW" cause it ain't gonna get any better and you know this. Be a father to your kids best you can, but create some hurried distance between you and the mom. In time your wounds will heal & maybe just maybe a new love will come into your life and if not then have many loves but "occupy your life" with nothing but positive things & people!!
2007-02-06 02:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sureshot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As that confused philosopher, Maddox, said: "What women really want is a good looking guy that treats them like ****."
Not all of them... but in many cases, that's a truth like a cathedral.
You'll see, mostly, human relationships are out of the boundaries of logic, so... Don't let this eat you. If she prefers somebody else, that doesn't mean you're inferior in any way, just that she's not who you thought she was. I know that might be world-shattering, but believe me, you'll live trough it. Even if you don't want to.
Have a nice life, and remember:
It's not your kids fault,
It's not every other women's fault.
Those two lines are more of a mantra than actual advice, so don't feel offended by them. Honestly, Good luck.
2007-02-06 02:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by San La Muerte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a book you might find useful, "Are You the One for Me?" by Barbara deAngeles. She talks about why you would marry someone who is like your parent, which is what seems to have happened to you.
Your wife went for someone who is incarcerated? That is messed up.
I know you're very unhappy now, but I hope you will pursue counseling with your wife, or even without her. If there is any way at all that you can put this together for the sake of your kids, I hope you will try, even if you don't feel like it. Otherwise, they're in danger of having the same thing happen to them, repeating the pattern.
2007-02-06 04:53:14 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some time people dont see the what good for them until it goes
away you really sound like a good man, that had a raw deal
with this one. but dont let it worry you just keep being a good
father and let it go. she not worth it. trust me she will see
that the grass is not all way greener on the other side. i hope
the best for you. good luck.
2007-02-06 01:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋