Whenever I need my husband to stay awake he tells me that if he is tired he can't stay awake no matter what. This would not bother me if this was the case all of the time but whenever he is doing something that he wants to do he has no problem staying awake. He just can't seem to stay awake when I need him. I feel bad getting angry but I can't help it. It makes me feel like he doesn't care enough to stay awake for me. We have talked about this but nothing ever changes. Am I wrong for getting upset?
2007-02-05 17:15:25 · 15 answers · asked by JenW 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey.. There are things you can do to "wake him up"
2007-02-05 17:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably works his butt off everyday, ever think of that? You're being way too needy. You need to make your husband want to stay awake! You're either a naggy wife, or you are a good wife. I'm guessing you're a nag, because your question seems to be all about YOU. Marriage is a partnership, not sure if anyone has told you that. You seem to be concerned about you, you're not concerned that your husband had a long day and is tired. Maybe you should put your feelings and needs aside and be a good wife. That's what you're supposed to do when you get married. "I feel bad getting angry but I can't help it." BS! Your actions are a choice, so ya, you can help it. Quit making excuses for yourself and learn how to be a good wife and quit your b*tching. I'd fall asleep too!
2007-02-05 17:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It may be that previously when he stays awake, the conversation or any activities, does not go well with him. Probably too much arguments or quarrels, or the subjects talked about was not to his liking.
Try to be creative, talk something interesting or do what he likes doing and I am sure he will stay awake for it. NO use getting upset but do what is needed to keep him awake.
Good Luck
2007-02-05 17:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats men for you.
next time when he says he is sleepy, try some topic that really interests him - like about a bike or car or his favourite music or play his favourite action movie. he'll forget that he was sleepy.
ofcourse this doesn't solve the problem but atleast u'll understand that men are men.
my husband used to spend all his time on mobile after dinner - playing games or trying new software. i tried to make him talk to me, he dint bother so i just bought a better mobile and started playing games the whole night. within 15 days, he made a rule at home saying no mobiles in bedroom after dinner.
hahaha
2007-02-05 17:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can stay awake for what he wants and not for what you want ever, then you are not wrong for being upset with him on this matter. I am sure that if the shoe were on the other foot, he woudl feel upset as well. Try it and see.
2007-02-05 17:31:08 · answer #5 · answered by daddyspanksalot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have learned that men are from a different planet. I had that same problem and i learned that its not that he doesnt care. Its just who they are. Have you tried talking to him during the day and not before bed? I guess the getting upset really depends on the circumstances. But a lot of the times I think we women forget that they are men and we want them to react the same we would if the shoe was on the other foot. but unfortunately that would mean that they werent men.
2007-02-05 17:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by static1182 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No of course its not wrong if you get upset because its okay to let your emotions express your true feeling. Maybe he's starting to not care that much about you like he use to. If his problem gets worse then for sure you need to talk to him asap and make sure he's listening to every word you have to say and make sure he understands your point of view. Or if your able to go on with his condition then let it pass. If I was you I would have a serious talk with him right away.
2007-02-05 17:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a problem with that myself. for me it is because when i am just sitting and not really doing anything except listening i get tired. i suggest trying what my gf did. she started talking to me about important stuff while i was doing something i enjoy. many times we talk while i am on here or while i am playing video games or working on my car. really for me the only time i cant keep track no matter what is when i am watching football but that is over now so that wont be a problem any more. but it has been an effective tool for us. i am not trying to defend him, but what has happened is i have started trying harder to be able to focus on just her. a relationship is giving and taking not just i hope this helps.
2007-02-05 17:44:46 · answer #8 · answered by big_john_719 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is the same way. She sleeps early unless she's interested in something. Used to take it personally and let it bother me but not anymore. Try "needing" him at times other than when he's sleepy.
We're happy...hope you get it worked out.
2007-02-05 17:28:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i mack mine have a shower be 4 an that seems 2 work
2007-02-05 17:20:40 · answer #10 · answered by Tracey_ann W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably faking sleepiness half the time just to get "off the hook" from chores, or whatever. What can you really do? Nuttin!
2007-02-05 17:25:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋