I mean nice big home, driving the nice SUV and having backyard bbq's?
My bf of 3 years (we have a kid) thinks this an illusion I have and that Im a selfish ***** for wanting it "over night"...well its been 3 years already and nothing...Am i kidding myself?
2007-02-05 17:07:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not all it's cracked up to be- trust me. Our society places WAY too much emphasis on "things" rather than on inner peace.
2007-02-05 17:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by "Corey" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a great dream. Hold onto your dreams.
The suburbian dream life is expensive though. Depending where you live. If you can find the money to make it happen. It is worth it, for you and your child.
My only caution is not to over commit yourself financially. Otherwise you will both be so busy working you won't have time to enjoy your lifestyle. I know a lot of people who have ended up breaking up with financial pressures as a result of wanting the dream.
goodluck
2007-02-05 17:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by Ang H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if you don't have dreams what do u have. What are you doing to assure that you will have what you desire? School, saving money, 401K, debt free, sacrafice now for later? You can have it if you really want it. You may have to start with a new smaller home get equity in it and move 3yrs later. But as long as you are moving toward a goal. It is also better if two work at it togther, but you can do it alone. I did, and still working on it.
2007-02-09 13:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by keriss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a look at your finaces are it they are no better than they were 3 years ago, you are just kidding yourself. The main thing is to look after you bf and kid and make the most of what you have.
Nobody said life was easy, but there is always the dream to keep you going
2007-02-05 17:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by Murray H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not wrong to want that, or dream about it, but you can't have it overnight either.(unless you hit the lottery) Don't get deeply in debt to have it, or you risk losing everything. I'ts ok to dream, that gives you motivation to do things like- go to school to get a better job so you can afford it. Sometimes you just have to be happy with the blessings you have in your life right now, but never stop dreaming! With a positive attitude, and believing that it will happen, anything is possible.
2007-02-05 17:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by seven-11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want that too, I have been married for 13 years. But that dream takes alot of work and sacrifice. And if you want it bad enough I believe you can have it. But be willing to take the good along with the bad, because there will still be bad days. But if you work hard at the happiness of your family life the good will definitely out weight the bad. I hope the best for you !
2007-02-05 17:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by annajaaki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no doubt that this takes time... Consider other things like modern loft living,... Country living is nice.. these things all rarely come over night ... After 3 years if you had been talking about it from the beginning you should have an idea on where you are going.. Maybe he has different plans?
2007-02-05 17:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 10:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely "NO" Why you feel and think that a suburban life is silly? You will definetly love and feel the difference between city life and the suburban life and wherever you live just "LIVE LIFE HAPPILY" wish you good luck...
2007-02-05 17:14:28 · answer #9 · answered by Vasif Baig 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah yes, the "good life".
I think you and your boyfriend are on two separate pages.
2007-02-05 17:40:31 · answer #10 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋