I 'm 18 and a girl and Im straight so is it normal that i want to be bisexual? . I only cushes on guys but i want to cush on girls as will and im a bit unhappy cause i want to be bisexual and im not its like I dont want to be with a women and if i like a guy and he checks out another girl i might get a bit jeaules so its like i must be straight but i want to be bisexual. I even told a doctor one time that i wanted to be bisexual and she told me that i must have some feelings about it to want to be but what did she mean?
please help me this is a pretty big problem for me and i just dont know how to except the fact that im straght and not feel sad or fusteraed about this alot of the time .
2007-02-05 16:46:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
In order to be bisexual you need to be sexually attracted to both men and women. And you can't force yourself to be attracted to women.
Be happy with who you are.
2007-02-05 16:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by shark_315 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're straight. Wanting to be a certain sexual orientation won't make it so. I heard from a woman one time who had issues with men, tried to actually be in a long-term relationship with a woman (actually for a few years), but could never have true romantic/sexual feelings for her. She is very pro-gay now and has gay friends, but she was born to be heterosexual.
I am a lesbian and it personally makes sense to me that a straight woman might want to bisexual or lesbian (well, of course). But you cannot just change sexual orientation. If you want to experiment, and if by some luck (heh) you find out you are bisexual, then that's fine. However, make SURE you are upfront with the woman you experiment with that you are unsure about your sexuality.
2007-02-06 01:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by rgeleven 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did not mention anything about sexual attraction. Yes or no, have you ever felt sexually attracted to a woman? Or is it just a desire to be some sort of minority, different in some way? Or maybe just to be part of a group. Try getting involved in some sort of GLBTQA (Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered, Questioning and Allied) if you want to be involved in the Queer community. Even if you are straight, it is always great to have allies. You do not have to be Queer to care about Queer issues.
2007-02-06 01:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. It finally happened. A straight person wanting to be gay. LOL
Sorry, now that I got that out of my system, I'd suggest seeing a shrink. Based on this and some of your previous questions, you've got a tangled web of issues that need to be worked on that would be about impossible to help through this Q&A unless we want to play 200 questions. Either take a lot of time to look at what's bothering you and why it's bothering you and trying to come up with solutions for your problems, or you can get a therapist to streamline and speed up the process. It's up to you to decide which path to take.
2007-02-06 03:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well 2 me its sounds like you are bi. i am. and i went through the exact same thing. it also sounds like denial. but not about being strait. you are trying to convince your self you are strait. just sit your self down and tell your self "i am bisexual! end of story." i did it. and right now i have a girl friend. we have been together for 3 months. and a boyfriend of 5 months. they are both bi too.
good luck honey
~rocker_chick~
p.s. email me if you wanna talk more
haylea_ryne_45@yahoo.com
2007-02-11 22:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by rocker_chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im straight also but one day i woke up and had a strange feeling with the same sex... if you are bi youmust feel something strange with the same sex. that should be your prob not that you want to be bi.maybe you're just insecure with other girls that your boyfriend checked out.
2007-02-11 10:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by anonymousme11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, because of all the recent hype of bi-sexual girls, you want to be. You prolly want to be viewed to men as sexy, because of mens nagging interest in 3-somes.
You clearly stated that you're not physically or mentally attracted to girls, so you're not bi-sexual.
2007-02-06 01:25:39 · answer #7 · answered by Thief of Hearts 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be bisexual then you are. There's no "wanting or not wanting". If you mean you want to have sex with girls and you can't, then that's a whole other problem.
2007-02-06 00:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Considering that I've always been bisexual, I really don't know.
You are who you are and it can't be changed. The sooner that you accept that fact, the happier you'll be.
2007-02-06 01:48:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you try to be something you are not...you could hurt someone and have serious relationship issues....i went out with a girl once who turned out to be straight.....she completely fooled me...really...she was my first "girlfriend" but now i have to face the fact that it wasnt even real.....i ****** hate her now! and ppl that do that to others...its sick....so if you are just trying to get some attention.....go and re-think your life!
2007-02-06 01:48:27 · answer #10 · answered by adriboho 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋