I made the mistake of letting my daughter co-sleep with my husband and I.Not olny is she sleeping in our bed but she is nursing her self back to sleep every time she wakes up(which is 2-3 times a night)I know I have created my own problem,but co-sleeping was easier in the begining, now it just causes all of us to loose sleep!
2007-02-05 16:20:54 · 8 answers · asked by Ms. sierra 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
i dont find any harm if she sleeps with you, she is too small now and she requires the affection and love of both her parents. my daughter is 18 months and she sleeps with us, infact we love to embrace her and sleep with her, she gets up in the night... dear let me tell you one thing, the moments when they are small are very precious, the love and the affection you will get now.. cannot be found when they grow up.. take it as much as you get..
2007-02-05 17:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by Richa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to wean her from nursing back to sleep first, then work on moving her to her own crib.
I found by trial & error that around 4 months is the best age to move them to their own bed -- after that it just gets harder.
If you have trouble stopping the nursing while she is next to you, try putting her crib next to your bed and just putting your hand through to pat her when she wakes. It may take her a few nights to decide you aren't going to give in, and this will mean some crying. But she is definitely old enough for it. If you wait until she learns how to climb out of her crib it will be worse!
If that doesn't work, try Dr. Sears' sleep book (they encourage cosleeping up to the point that it is disruptive).
Also, be sure you aren't drinking ANY caffeine that might be going to her! I made this mistake. It takes much, much longer for caffeine to go out of their systems. One cup of coffee in the morning might still be bugging her at 10 p.m.!
And start a bedtime routine that will prepare her mentally for sleep. It can be anything that works for you and you can do each night.
I've been there -- and this too will pass!
2007-02-06 00:36:02 · answer #2 · answered by wee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Went/going through the exact same thing. I can't give you an answer, but just wanted to share some info.
My daughter slept w/my husband and I. For various reasons, we became divorced.
My daughter is six years old now and still sleeps with me. It's just her and I in the household and it has become such a habit, I think I'm doing it for my own security. I know it's wrong, but I don't know how to break the problem.
Good luck to you and hope you can take care of it before it goes on any longer.
2007-02-06 00:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Nunya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to learn how to self pacify and it will be haert wrenching couple of nights put give her a pacifier if she takes one and lay her in her bed. Let her cry for a while 30-45min. then go in her room and lay her back down without making eye contact or talking to her this will let her know that you are still around but that her bed is for sleeping. Like I said this may take a few nights but it will be worth it in the long run. Good luck
2007-02-06 00:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try getting a copy of Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth. My wife and I did the same thing and we paid for it with our first daughter. This book is worth its weight in gold to me. It gives you tips on how to cure problems with you kid by their age which is very helpful!
Good luck!
2007-02-06 00:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by powellmap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a basinette and then from there move her to her own room. During the day let her nap in her own room. At night try to put her in her own room, and she may have to cry herself to sleep, but if you don't give in, she will catch on.
2007-02-06 02:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by Della 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as it is gonna kill you, you have to put her in her crib and let her cry. the first night will be murder, but after you make it thru that it gets better. when she starts crying let her cry for 5 minutes before going in and letting her know ur their. then next time wait ten minutes. she'll eventually fall asleep. you'll feel bad, but it has to be done
2007-02-06 00:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by tiffers 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
MAKE HER GO TO HER OWN BED. Tell her she's too old... wait... 9 months? Ummm... put her in the crib. She won't get out. She might cry, but all babies do that.
She'll get over it eventually.
2007-02-06 00:29:15 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋