2007-02-05 15:56:31 · 15 answers · asked by LadyD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just curious!
2007-02-05 15:59:08 · update #1
I have confronted him on this and he stopped with the porn, but now it is naked women...just not porn. He thinks he is hiding it and he really isn't. I am smart and know how to look up the web pages he has looked at! I don't know what to do, but it is driving me crazy. I hate snooping, but I just have a feeling that is looking. Am I crazy? Or is this a "normal feeling?"
2007-02-05 16:16:03 · update #2
Lady D, most heterosexual men like to look at naked women. It doesn't matter if we're in a relationship or not.
And if we are in a relationship, it doesn't mean we don't like our woman, or don't think she's sexy, or think she's fat or any of the other paranoid things women think when they find out their man is looking at porno.
It means we need a rich varied fantasy life and we live that out by looking at other women.
For instance, a guy migh be marred to a White woman, whom he loves very much and whom he would never cheat on in a million years.
But he's always wondered "what would it be like to have sex with a Black woman?"
Now, he has a choice - go out and have an affair with an African American lady - or look at naked pictures of Black women.
Which is the better choice?
Or, a guy might have a flat chested wife who he loves very much, and whom he would never cheat on in a million years.
But, he's always wondered "What would it be like to have sex with a woman with big huge titties?"
Now, he has a choice - go out and have an affair with a woman with big boobs, or look at naked pictures of top heavy women on the internet.
Which is the better choice?
Here's an idea, instead of getting mad that he looks at porn, be glad that he uses a safe and respectful outlet for his sexual fantasies, rather than him going out there and acting out sexually with random women.
Tell him he can look at naked pictures of women as much as he wants - you won't snoop, and you won't pout or get mad when he does.
Problem solved!
2007-02-05 16:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your reaction to this is not a singular issue. Many women feel this way when they find their fella has been looking at porn sites. It drives them up the wall if anything, and how you feel about it is more than understandable. I'm not so lucky. I have posters of my favourite singers from the music industry not scantily clad or semi-naked and that alone sends my gf into a jealous fit! So you could imagine she'd probably kick my *** into the middle of next year if I looked at porn sites! Anyway, if he's not cheating on you then you shouldn't view it as much of a problem. If anything it's probably likely to make your relationship endure because although they are pictures of other women, it's only a fantasy - and not a reality. I wouldn't worry about it, although your feelings on the issue are well placed. I'd say it was a normal guy thing, a lot of guys do look at porn, whether they're single or taken, so don't get too upset by it. I admittedly had to google suicide girls because I thought he might be into some seriously warped sh*t and possibly long to slash your wrists and take photos of you naked, but thankfully I was wrong ROFL. Don't sweat it. You'll be fine.
2016-05-23 22:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't wrong. Porn is a billion dollar a year industry and just because someone likes it doesn't mean they don't love and cherish you. It also doesn't lead to cheating. That is like saying that a woman having a vibrator is committing adultery. Now if it becomes an obsession that is something to be worried about, but most men have some porn stashed somewhere, and many women as well.
2007-02-05 16:08:29 · answer #3 · answered by babyred 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It used to be that they'd hide play boys under the car seat and in the trunk or where ever they figured you wouldn't look. So looking at naked women isn't new, it's just a new way of doing it. It's just the lying that drives us nuts!
2007-02-05 16:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by Tasha 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that you feel so compelled to make a big deal about this when you said yourself your sex life is pretty good? It's only naked women and no man wants to make his woman feel like there not all that, so he doesn't say anything. Big F-en deal, It's not like he's dating them. Yep your crazy! You're too possessive for me, you need to cut him some slack or you'll lose him. What are you doing to spice up the relationship? I thought so!
2007-02-05 16:31:30 · answer #5 · answered by beamer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no he's just being a man my husband looks a porno when i'm not around i dont worry about as long as he's not displaying other sneaky behavior my question is why is he hiding it . my husband does not watch it in front of me but if i walk in on him he acts normally and sometimes i watch. it's just not something we do together but we both know we are grownups with nothing to hide or be ashamed of. now if i had a idea he wanted to be with another woman then there would be double trouble. he's so afraid of aids it's funny. so cheating is not even on his mind.
2007-02-05 16:05:45 · answer #6 · answered by dimplez 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Instead of complaining about it, why not do something out of the ordinary to get him off the internet and back in your life. While hes on the net suk him off while hes watching that stuff. Hell soon stop and want to be with you.
2007-02-05 21:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
men looking at porn on-line is no big deal. We are VISUAL creatures. Women, on the other hand, looking at shoes on-line is the most flagrant form of pornography I have ever witnessed.
2007-02-05 16:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just what the hell is YOUR problem..so he likes to look at porn...so what! Do you always have to have something to grip about. You admit your sex life is good...what the hell IS wrong with you?
2007-02-05 16:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope ...
It is not wrong..
Men like porn...Men are very visually stimulated.
Women do not ..Women are not so visually stimulated..
Women like porn for women " Erotic Romance".
It is not cheating...
Get used to it...
All men will do it...
Have a few drinks and join him....
2007-02-05 16:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋