Im getting married in 6 months and am starting to have doubts about whether I'm good enough for him.Me and my fiancee come from very different world's.I'm just a hair dresser with a high school diploma and he's a successful lawyer with a bright future ahead of him.A lof of comments made by my future mother-in-law and my ex boyfriend who I'm good friends with regarding me not belonging in his world are really starting to get to me.My fiancee has always treated me with the utmost respect and never once made an issue about my background.He's told me time and time again that he adores me and nothing and no one else matters to him but me just as I am but I can't stop these doubts from coming to the surface.I'm hopelessly in-love with the guy and would do anything for him but I'm scared that I'll be dragging him down.I just want him to be happy.What am I supposed to do?
2007-02-05 15:43:34 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will not be dragging him down, he knows who you are and you know who he is. You think you are the FIRST girl that a mother in law has dogged because you are with her son? If you were rich like him then she would find something else to pick about. Do not listen to them listen to him. You are going ot marry him not her.
2007-02-05 15:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you supposed to do? Marry him, and live happily ever after. This man who could probably have his pick of more affluent women has chosen you!!! That right there says worlds about who you really are. "Just" a hairdresser is ridiculous. Yours is a profession that takes skill and talent just like anyone Else's. Ignore Mum in law. She's just stuck in her own world. Ignore the ex. He probably just wants you back on the rebound.
A true story... My brother is a Masters of Aerospace engineering. and my wife never graduated high school. My brother had to call my undiploma'd wife and ask her how to bake a potato when he was preparing a meal for a date one night.
Sheepskins on a wall don't necessarily mean how smart a person really is, or how much they're worth to someone who loves them.
Don't ruin your chance at happiness. Build a wonderful life with this man who has the uncommon ability to see through all the crapola, and know of your true worth. You're good enough, and then some. Trust me. I'll bet he has feelings that he's not good enough for you, and he'll try very hard to earn your love. You've got all the potential for a wonderful life. Congratulations. Those stuffy old things that affluent people do like which fork to use for which dinner course are learned skills you'll easily learn too. His family will come around soon enough when they see how happy the two of you are, and how capable you really are too.
2007-02-05 16:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, never let anyone make u feel like u're not good enough.Never feel like you are not good enough.Just because u're a hair dresser and he's a lawyer, what difference does that make?There is a reason u two are together.There is a reason he picked u and a reason u picked him.Yes it may be difficult at times being from 2 different backgrounds, but the most important thing is he loves u for who u are,not for what you are.Stop doubting yourself so much.Stand proud of who u are.You might scare him away eventually if u continue to put yourself down.Don't let his family and friends get to you,they are just threatened by you.Stand by your relationship and love your man but most importantly...LOVE YOURSELF! Hope all goes well!
2007-02-05 15:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by AJ78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People from the outside have no idea what the two of you
have together. Education and profession have nothing to
do with character, ethics, love, kindness, compassion
or understanding. These are the qualities that make a
marriage sacred and magical and a life full of joy. Feel
sorry for the people who judge you on a superficial level.
They obviously have not experienced happiness in this
manner. Without your profession, your future mother-in-law
and people like her couldn't last out there in the world for
one day and I know a lot of college grads who aren't even
smart enough to cough when they have a cold. Real
education comes from living and loving life. Your husband
already knows this...believe him and embrace it as your
own philosophy.
2007-02-05 16:07:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH BABY!!! Of all the girls who have cut my hair over the years I wish I could of married just one of them. Why? Because the conversations I had with them seemed to really click but either they were engaged or already married. Not to mention the way they looked. They knew each other and could cut and fix up each other to where they looked like New York Fashion models. Instead I married the girl who took care of me in the hospital when I had phneumonia ( A nurse is the next best thing) and been married fo 20 yrs. But I still have crushes on the girls who cut my hair! now that you know why us guys go to salons for a trim and keep coming back even when you mess up our haircuts, well. now you know!!!!!
2007-02-05 15:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't doubt yourself and your love for your fiancee. Talk to your mother in law to be and tell her how you feel towards your fiancee. She'll come around. Just remember too, she only wants the best for her son and she will soon find out that you ARE the one for him. I have 2 sons and think about their future wives. I want to know if they will be good to them, the women they choose are women who will have to "take my place" in taking care of them. (if that makes sense). I know no one will REALLY take my place and that they will always need me (maybe that's what she needs to hear) That you can't take her place, but you will make sure that he will be well taken care of. I wish you luck. Please don't second guess true love, you sound like a wonderful person and so does your fiancee. A perfect match, if you ask me.
2007-02-05 15:57:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I come from a working class family. Dad and Mom have no college education and they struggle to get by. My husband is British, graduated at the top of his class at Cambridge and he's also a successful symphony conductor. He loves me for who I am and that's all that really matters. There really is no such thing as 'separate worlds'. You need to work on your self-esteem and stop listening to people with an agenda. Your ex does have an agenda even if you are friends and Mom may be intimidated by your fiance's success. Trust your gut, it really never lies.
2007-02-05 15:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him then marry him and don't worry about what others might think. Just because that you might not have the same background as he does doesn't me that he is better than you or you than him but what does matter is that the 2 of you love each other and want to be together. After all, opposites attract.
2007-02-05 15:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by n0s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let other people have control over your life. Sounds to me that you've found the perfect man in your life. As to your friends, they may just be jelous of your potential life with a great man. As to your mother in law, she might change her views about you if you try to bring her into your life and have her get to know you.
Marry this man girl. What matters is you and him. Even if your a just a hair dresser you can still give this man full support with his job, career choices and paths ahead of him. Perhaps thats why he loves you and needs you. You complete him.
2007-02-05 15:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you pass up true love if he were poorer than you?
Life may hold many surprises for you yet. You may become rich and famous for doing celebrity hair or developing the world's best perm. Your love may decide to teach law to high school students and have a drastic decrease in income. There are few certainties in life so follow your heart to where you will be happy.
2007-02-05 15:48:47 · answer #10 · answered by LO! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋