Since my husband and I because engaged we were told that communication is one of the keys to a successful marriage. What exactly are we supposed to communicate? I know it sounds like a stupid and obvious question, but sometimes those can be the most difficult. What is communication or is it just a buzz word that make people think that they are giving good advice?
2007-02-05 15:19:16 · 11 answers · asked by pina107 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh God, yes, there lies the trouble of marriage. I've being married for 8 years and after many difficulties found that listening between the lines closely is key. Don't take what he says too personal -I know that's difficult- but rather detach from the situation and discuss it like if he was your neighbor or somebody other than your closest relative so you get your sensitive heart out of the way.
Same apply to talking about conflicts/problems/decisions.... finding the right time to bring any -constructive- criticism or discuss family matters is very important, like not driving him crazy while he's trying to find an address or fix the car.
A final word that I learned after countless hours of family therapy: be kind to each other, listen his internal voice and remember that because you sleep in the same bed doesn't mean to loose your manners, treat him with the outmost respect to ask for the same. Hope this helps, good luck!
2007-02-05 15:59:51 · answer #1 · answered by feb_jt4216 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before marriage it is a time to talk about everything, from how many kids u want to have, and where u will live, just anything u can think of that will come up later once your married, because once your married it is often to late to realize u never discussed this or that and now are upset at something. before marriage we need to know every thing there is about any prospective marriage partner, so there are no surprises later on, so u know exactly what u are getting. make sure u share the same belief systems, and if u are communicating with him there is no way u won't be able to see what u are getting. so many people marry out of lust, and once that honeymoon stage weans as it always seems to, we often realize we never even knew the guy, once we begin having problems, that's why communication is the key, so we know what we are getting before we marry them.
2007-02-05 23:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is talking with each other about things.. Carrying on a conversation with the person and getting to know one another.. Being a good listener is an important part of communication too! If you cannot communicate well with each other this is not good and you will need counseling and help to learn how to do this.
2007-02-05 23:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communicating well has a lot to do with making sure you both truly understand what the other is saying. This means not expecting the other person to be a mind reader (none of the "he should have known"). It also means continually clarifying to be sure you understand (for example, "when you said XXXX, are you referring to YYYYY?").
There are a lot of unnecessary hurt or angry feelings all over misunderstanding what the other person said or did. If you feel upset - say so. If you don't understand something - ask about it. Be as clear and specific as you can, and encourage the other person to ask questions.
2007-02-05 23:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by katnkaboodle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is that: to communicate something to another person. Before you get married, you use to tell the other where you be, what you like, what you want to do in the future, etc. Once we married, we forgot to continue with this part of the relationship: we use to stop telling that single things to our partner. Little things builds big and strong things! Start telling those little things again!
2007-02-05 23:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by ecazdi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is when you can talk to your husband or wife about everything and anything.If you can't talk then chances are you may not have a good marriage. I went through that with the first man that I was married to. We did not no how to talk to each other and about all we did was argue all the time.
2007-02-05 23:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
# the activity of communicating; the activity of conveying information; "they could not act without official communication from Moscow"
# something that is communicated by or to or between people or groups
# a connection allowing access between persons or places; "how many lines of communication can there be among four people?"; "a secret passageway provided communication between the two rooms"
2007-02-06 01:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is very, very important. You have to listen, not just talk to your husb/wife. If you only care about making your point and not about hearing his/her point of view, that is not good communicating. It is also bad when you just keep quiet and don't share your feelings.
2007-02-05 23:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is knowing you can say anything, anytime! What? Anything.....something stupid, funny, what happened in your day or something serious! It is very important!
2007-02-05 23:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by LuVmYfAmiLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how you feel about things and what your dreams are, your likes and dislikes all these things are communication How else would you know your partner
2007-02-05 23:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋