Too much change in life too soon... marriage, baby, new job, a new home together. My wife and I are starting to repel eachother, what do I do?
2007-02-05 15:13:40 · 10 answers · asked by airmandan10 2 in Pets ➔ Fish
I read somewhere that the most stressful things in life are.......
Getting married
Moving
Starting a new job
and having a baby
You have had a busy year,no wonder why you are a little stressed out. I'm sure your wife feels the same way. You're probably both wishing you could go back to simpler times!!!!!
You need to stop and remember why you got on the roller coaster together. You love each other!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tell her how you feel and that right now you know you are both stressed and life will not slow down but you will get used to the new pace.
Prioritize what you can.
New job-new baby...........probably equals
boxes can be unpacked whenever
Never neglect your relationship with your wife..............
That's the foundation of all the rest................
If you stop and think about it all the rest can be replaced except your relationship with your wife!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You may not have a lot of time to spend together alone any more
Just make it quality time!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Babysitters are worth their weight in gold!!!!!!!!!!
Talk to your wife and tell her how you feel and how much you love her and you're glad you got on the roller coaster with her!!!!
2007-02-05 15:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by Susan C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In what ways are you repeling each other. Is it because you can't seem to ever have time for your self or the pressure of the multi events in your marriage. My suggestion to you is...find someone in the family to babysit your child and plan a romantic weekend with your wife. It doesn't have to cost much...the best pick me upper are the ones we create. be creative....think about the thing that attracted you two together and move from there. Rose peddles on the bed around the floor...candles and wine. Creat your own love suite within your own home. Massage oils would help to ease her tension....use it well.... and I am sure you can image what to do from there....
2007-02-05 15:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a baby sitter, take a night off, and go on a date. You need time for each other. Stop letting life interfere. Relationships are never easy, and require work form both parties. Also, learn to grow together. Change happens, adjust together.
Why did you ask this in the fish category?!?....lol
2007-02-05 15:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by christa5533 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that you've got to give one another time. Marriage is always changing. Stick it out! to many people call it quits way to soon. Sometimes things just get settled into a comfortable stage, some stages you just want to kill one another. Don't give up to soon.You are parents now and you've got the baby to think of.I had tow sets of Grandparents who stayed married for life. They would've given you the same advice.
2007-02-05 15:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are three stages in a romantic relationship. 1. Romantic love. 2. Power struggle. 3. Acceptance. It sounds like you are hitting the second stage
I'm not sure I can state it better than this article does
http://www.innerworkspublishing.com/news/vol1/3stages.htm
Also, I cannot stress enough that in order to change and grow in you relationship, you have to be willing to take risks, especially with your feelings.
2007-02-05 16:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by WOMBAT, Manliness Expert 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go Fishing
2007-02-05 17:23:00 · answer #6 · answered by Daisy Mae 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
calm down.
think tru...
is dat what both of ya all wanted? y do marry, new kid, house, all..
whats her problem?
do you guys talk at all?
hint?
post partum sindrome!
women dont feel good after the baby is born. y? boddy changes
id say... have her talk to her mother.
2007-02-05 15:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first thing you do is post this question under family and marriage...this has nothing to do with fish.
2007-02-05 15:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by s w 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
unless your baby is a fish you need to resubmit your ? to a different category.... now if that is the case, you need to dismiss the fish
2007-02-05 16:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by short fat white girl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
get some fish?
2007-02-05 17:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋