Will I ever sleep with my husband again?.....?

Question

He snores so loud every night, that I end up leaving the room or asking him to leave. Anyone have this problem? Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Snoring is usually a sign that there may be some breathing problems going on. Is your husband willing to see a specialist ro go to a hospital for a sleep study? If I remember correctly he may be experiencing sleep apnea.

Otherwise, here are some remedies that I found for you:
Lifestyle changes
All the usual vices worsen snoring: alcohol, smoking, overeating, under exercising, caffeine.
Sleep Posture Correction
Many of us snore especially loudly when we sleep on our back. Various pillows and strap-on devices are available to get you unsupine.
Homeopathic remedies
Some people have had success with natural remedies available in health food stores and over the Net.
Throat sprays
These coat the soft tissues of the throat in lubricating oils, allowing the air to move more freely and lessening the noisy vibration.
Nasal dilation
These include adhesive strips which hold open the airways of your nose, plastic devices to hold open your nostrils, and nasal sprays which reduce congestion or the swelling of nasal tissues.
Mouth breathing correction
Many people would snore less if they would just learn to breathe through their nose. This page lists products that will shut your mouth...
Mouthpiece devices
Devices are available — some custom-fitted by your dentist — which pull your lower jaw or tongue forward, thereby creating enough space in the throat to prevent breathing obstruction.
CPAP (Continuous Positive Airways Pressure)
Machinery which blows air through your nose via a mask, preventing disruption of breathing and eliminating snoring.
Palatal inserts
The approach here is to reduce the vibration of your throat tissues by stiffening them with permanent (but reversible) inserts of polyester material.
Palate stiffening by scarring
You can achieve palate stiffening and reduce noisy vibrations by injecting a scarring solution (injection snoreplasty) or surgically by creating scarring with laser or scalpel.
Radiofrequency Tissue Reduction: Somnoplasty and Coblation
Radiofrequency Tissue Reduction (RFTR) consists of piercing the tongue, throat or soft palate with a needle connected to a radio frequency generator. Inner tissues shrink, but outer tissues, which contain your taste buds, are left intact.
Surgery
Various surgical procedures with names like uvulopalatoplasty are available which remove or shrink palate and throat tissue, making it easier for you to breathe.
Hypnosis, aromatherapy and other alternative approaches
These pages collect any off-the-wall remedy we come across. We don't endorse any snoring remedy on this site, but we try to document them all.

Answer 2

We've been dealing with this in my house too. A few months ago I started snoring - more frequently and much louder. I did some research and found that it sort of coincided with two things. A couple of causes are weight gain and changes in sleep patterns. I'm not overweight at all, but I've gained like 10 pounds in the last 6 months. I've also started going to bed like an hour later every night. I've been working on losing the weight, and slowly going to bed earlier and it's working so far. My wife also says if I'm on my back snoring she just pushes me over on my side and it's much better. Hope it works out for you.

Answer 3

oh honey, that happens to A LOT of couples, don't let it ruin your marriage, he can go to the doctor and get his situation better, believe it or not he is not sleeping right, he probably feels tired , snoring is a big problem for a lot of people, so be supportive, if it is not that bad there are anti-snore bands in most of the drugstores but there is stuff your doctor can recommend him.

I met a couple she snored LOUD and I mean LOUD , they tried everything and nothing worked but he was mature enough to convince her he had to sleep in his own bedroom, they love each other a lot so that worked for them. It is not the ideal situation but hey! marriage is like that you just have to make adjustments as you go on. But don't let this ruin your relationship.

Answer 4

My husband snores loud also. I just leave.
We tried the nose things they do not work. Pill, spray, nothing.
I sleep in the living room most of the time.
But what does work for me is the washer. Our room is next to the wash room so i wash a load of cloths...and if I am not asleep by the time it finishes i put them in the dryer.
For some reason that offsets the snoring rhythm for me.
Also going to bed before he does works sometimes but I am a night person and he goes to sleep around 10pm.
If he goes to sleep in his chair I do not wake him up...I just go to bed...AAAAAAAAaaaaaaaaaaaa.

Answer 5

My husband snored HORRIBLY. He went and had a sleep study done to see if he had sleep apnea and he didn't but the doctor's found he had acid reflux and now takes Prevacid and has not snored since.

I would highly suggest he go to the doc to see if it's something like sleep apnea which is very serious! Good luck!

Answer 6

As far as trust, that is something that comes from yourself. I was diagnosed in 1990 with dissociative disorder, then 1995 as bi-polar. Since then, I have been re-diagnosed as having Complex PTSD caused by severe childhood physical, emotional, and sexual abuse. I have been married for 22 years, and the life I put my family through is not one anyone should have to endure. As you, my wife and children walked on eggshells, because at any time, I could snap. Just a word could set me off. A lot of times the intense rage and anger I felt at the time was a flashback, but I did not properly direct my anger. I was like a tidal wave that would just wipe out everything in my path. I love my wife with all my heart, but had no control over my own stability. The medications they put me on would work for a while, but then the nightmares would come back and I would turn to alcohol to kill the dreams. That didn't work either, the anger and rage was always just under the skin. I have changed some, although our relationship is severely strained. She has left me more times than I can count, and I feel miserable, guilty, and shamed. I promise to do better, manipulate situations, and control my emotions. What I have learned through counseling is that I had no control over certain reactions at the time. I had not dealt with the root causes of my situation and that is why I felt I could not trust, love, or be loved. My wife is very supportive of my situation, even after all the heartache I have caused her. Right now, we are just taking things one day at a time. I don't know what the future will bring us, but because I am actively seeking help, I hope that I can be the person she fell in love with again. As far as trusting your husband again, no, you cannot. The question he should be asking himself is can he learn to trust himself, and if he really loves you, he will get the help he needs with his issues, but it may take you leaving him to get him to see. No one should have to endure abuse, even if it is the byproduct of a psychological disorder. I was abused, and I hate myself at times because I became what I hated most.

Answer 7

It's a fairly common problem. For info about snoring-- causes treatment, etc., see:

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/snoring/DS00297/DSECTION=2

Answer 8

Get him to go to a doctor. He may have sleep apnea. There is a surgical procedure to correct snoring.

Answer 9

Well the easy fix is to buy earplugs.. but the serious side is that he could have some serious issues and he should see his Dr and see what the Dr thinks. He could have bad apnea or other issues that could be life threatening.. For now buy the earplugs but seriously make him go to the Dr.

Answer 10

my dad used to have this problem, he went to a sleep specialist and stayed overnight a few times while they analyzed him. He came home with this weird sleepmask which he wears at night which prevents him from snoring.