One of my so called 'friends' is being completely immature - were were really close, becuase went to a small school. Well, during Christmas break I saw her at the mall, and we talked and walked around and stuff. Well, I saw her last week walking to class, and she wouldn't even talk to me ( I was right beside her). When I asked her what was wrong she wouldn't even talk to me - and then she didn't hold the door open. I saw her this week and she was running away from me. Well, when I e-mailed her, she said that she had 'new friends' and that she could depend on them, and that she was having fun and that she had moved on. Here's the thing. She never called me, I always called her. When I asked her to do something, she would always decline. I responded saying that I was hurt ( cause she couldn't even say that to my face) and told her that friendships work both ways, that she needed to call every once in a while too. Did I do the right thing?
2007-02-05 15:00:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She's the only person to ever 'drop' me as a friend. I've never had complaints from any other people. Is it just her? My parents say that she is unbalanced. Her mother has some freaky control over her - making her afraid to go outside, and talk to other people. I've just never been 'dropped' as a friend before, becuase I'm pretty dedicated to my friends, they are like my family.
2007-02-05 15:01:26 · update #1
With a friend like her would you really need enemies? Seriously, she sounds like she is the type who expects everyone to be at her beckon call. You are better off without her. IF in the future she "hi's" you in public, be the bigger person and politely reply. Dont' stoop to her level.
2007-02-05 15:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well my good thing is sometimes my worst quality, and my bad thing is sometimes my good quality... Good - Like you I'm overly honest, but many times to a fault. For some reason I never think of "cushioning" some of my truths. Of course this one is good too because I'm a very trustworthy person which is something that everyone enjoys having around. Bad - Very competitive, when I get into something, I get into it BIG TIME, while I don't resort to cheating or anything, I can be very hyperactive and obnoxious occasionally during it. On a positive for this one though, I am never willing to give up no matter how bleek the situation may seem because of this strong competitive spirit.
2016-05-23 22:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is horrible. I know that this is going to be hard, and even if you do not agree, the best revenge is living well. When she sees you, don't let her know that you are hurting. Just flash her a brilliant smile and say 'hey how's it goin'? If she sees that you are fine without her, it might cause her to think. That way, you are spreading a positive message through positive actions. Good luck.
2007-02-05 15:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by Je veux changer le monde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like what she wants give her some space,perhaps she is not confortable or too jealous of you and your personality, perhaps you are too popular, too strong, too joyful, something she isnt.
give her what she wants and dont call her, if she does not want to talk then dont talk to her, she did not even give you a reasonable answer she just said that she has "new friends" if she ever was a real friend worth your time and attention she would never say that, as if you are something she had to forget, she is not worth it, not worth it,
she is even running away from you,i know that really hurts especially when you have really been true but then again just let time heal the wounds
if she does not want to call you, then dont push it,, if she does not want you in her life, you have other real friends to be with
you dont need to think about her it will just give you un needed worry and stress
2007-02-05 15:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes, you did the right thing, she has moved on and you need to do so now too. it is not your fault. it is her loss and not yours. i would also say that she owes you an apology for being rude and not telling you this to your face. you tried, that is all you can do. go and find someone who won't treat you this way. you deserve better. you were a good friend. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-05 15:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a pain in the butt. I'm sorry you wasted time with her anyway. At least you have other more 'dependable' people to rely on. Lord, I do feel sorry for you. Maybe one day you'll be able to return the favor...
2007-02-05 15:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by The Pope 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a toxic person, and toxic people are so damaging. Although it's painful when something like that occurs, you truly are better off. Just let it go and move on.
Best luck and take care.
2007-02-05 15:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by Abby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just try to forget about it. You seem to have plenty of other friends, so rely on them instead. Just don't become enemies because that is even more painful, believe me.
2007-02-05 15:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by Science Chick 316 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't panick. she's most probably wanting to be on her own at this stage. whether she likes who you are and wants to be just like you but loves the fact that you are the one doing the chasing.. i think you did well by confronting her and you show your maturity. what to do!! nothing much you can do. just wait for time to pass. at the moment you won't get anywhere but if you just let it sit for a month or so and then if you pass by each other maybe just give her a smile or something to let her know that your friendship is still open to her if she wants it.. it's sad when things like this happen but you really dont know what is going on in her life..
2007-02-05 15:12:27 · answer #9 · answered by yellowpinkclaire 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
forgetting about her and getting a new friendship would be the right thing. and yes, expressing yourself couldn't hurt, so yes you did.
2007-02-05 15:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋