Why are American woman so insecure...?

Question

last summer, I went to Europe. I was born in Brasil, moved to the US when I was sixish. anyway, I would see a knock out woman, and I'd compliment her, like, "Wow, you're very pretty." most woman there would say thank you, others thought it was sweet, and a few claimed it made their day. anyway, back in the USA, I would compliment a woman, and they'd call me a pervert... or get all defencive! I think I took it to my head, and since most of my friends are girls I asked them, but they didn't know either but said it was silly, because "Alex, you're a stud" I doudt it. I am confused on this, does anyone know why?

Answer 1

You have become American by now: "moved to the US when I was sixish", There can be other variables at play here:

1), Out of cultural politeness: you were after all, a guest in their country. Perhaps they thought they should be nice to you so as to leave you with a good impression of their country.

2). Your own demeanor; the image YOU projected: you were probably having a great time doing tourist stuff and perhaps the way you came accross was qualitatively different (perhaps more exuberant, enthusiastic)than usual (in your home country). Perhaps women found YOU amusing!

3). I have lived in europe for years (Austria and Germany): people are MUCH more formal there. Perhaps their being more polite to you is a function of their culture/cultural expectations? Politeness for sure is more valued in Europe; this ain't even debateable!

And as far as women in general goes: "once bitten, twice shy". Think about it: why would that NOT make sense?

To conclude that you received a different response to identical stimuli is a shaky premise at best; to concude that the responses you receive in America are due to inherent 'insecurity' in American women is without foundation.

Answer 2

I don't think American girls as a rule are insecure. I have lived in San Francisco, for example, and women there are so great, confident, straightforward and honest. I also lived in Rio de Janeiro for few years, and women there are probably the best and most secure of them all; but San Franciscan girls are pretty near. Europeans are in a special league by themselves, super confident and know very well how to handle a man. So, yes, I think that most American women (but definitely not all) are insecure. And I agree with the ladies who have answered your question: American men are idiots, unfortunately. A woman in Rio or in Paris or in Madrid receives a compliment from a guy, she smiles, acknowledges receipt, and the guy keeps moving and that's all. Here, a girl smiles and the guy already wants to take some advantage. Many men here are losers. They just cannot let go. So women developed this self-defense. Sad but true.

Answer 3

probable by way of quantity of media attetention that is linked with those with the Hollywood definition of elegance that is utter pretend ninety% of the time. This leads many women human beings to trust that the in common words way human beings will lust after them is to have that image, it truly is further better even as they flow to a public college and are bombarded through others for looking outdoors of the norm (intense college females might want to be utter b*tches). there are a determination of outdoors resources that attempt to convince women human beings that their bodies are organic sh*t and it outcomes the mentality of countless women human beings into questioning that their body ought to certainly be organic sh*t. men get an similar therapy, yet are a lot extra possibly no longer to care about it for some reason.

Answer 4

Rape, unfortunately, is an extremely common crime in the United States. Any woman moving to the United States should get as much information as she can about rape prevention. Nearly every community has a counseling center. Learn the law. If someone you know, even well, forces you to have sex against your will, that is criminal rape. If you are raped, do not wash in any way, call the police immediately, and try to remember every detail about the attacker.

Answer 5

Because American media makes us insecure. And men play so many games we don't know if they are serious or being rude. We should be less defensive and less insecure, but don't count on it happening any time soon.
To the guy who answered first and complained about your spelling - you should let him know that doubt is spelled with 1 b and 1 d not 2 d's.

Answer 6

In many cases, women have had bad experiences with men, making them feel vulnerable if they trust or accept a complement. If a man has deceived them in the past, they are probably confused and hurt and lose some of the trust that they had for men before. Most women get through this fairly quickly and move on, and trust again, but (maybe more so in America) sometimes men are more desprate and less caring. A lot of men in the US are perverts, so women defend themselves against this. Good gentelmen who hand out complements with out expecting something in return are consitered rare! Hope this helps. Peace out!

Answer 7

American woman are insecure because they are raised like that. A 100 years ago it was a horrble sin to show a little skin of the ankle or too much neck. Young women would not even allowed to speak to a man with out having another person there too protect their virtue. They were taught that from their mothers who learned the same from their mothers. Today it is nothing like that but I know what I have been taught from my mother and granother and alot of it just stays with you. But there is the skinny to skinny fat thing, pretty or not. Alot of cultures still teach their young women that their bodies are bad. And it is very sad.

Answer 8

The genders are at war in this country. You are male and therefore their enemy. If they dont know you and you dont look like Brad Pitt or like you have a lot of money they probably arent gonna respond in a friendly way.

You're better off ignoring them completely and sticking to the Brazilian or European (except British and Spanish) variety. American women are only out for themselves anyway. They won't care about you or your needs.

Answer 9

Because American men (in general) have made American Women feel that way. Other cultures are raised with the respect of women more so than the American Male. Please do not get me wrong, not all American Men are disrespectful, but as the saying goes...one bad apple spoils the whole basket!

Answer 10

Many American women have been harassed, stalked, sweet-talked, hurt by prior boyfriends, etc. Also, most were taught not to talk to strangers, and that if a strange guy talks to them--he is probably propositioning them. I don't think that most are insecure, they are just being cautious.