theres this boy hes 14 im 14 and this girl (my best friend and his girlfriend) but he told me hes planning on breaking up with her because he likes me and i really like him but i dont want my friend mad at me
so what should i do
date or not to date
2007-02-05 14:52:02 · 19 answers · asked by *5uper5tar* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if he did it to your friend he will do the same to you ...you are not going to be able to trust him + you will loose a friend...is it worth it
2007-02-05 14:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by mona w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 is WAY to young to let a boy come between you and your best friend. If you are both honest and care about each other's feelings, you could be bestfriends for life. This boy would date you for what, if you're lucky, a few months? Meanwhile, you risk what could be a lifelong friendship....
2007-02-05 23:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it seems serious now but you will go through this a million times over in your lifetime. I think friendship is more important. Tell the guy you value your friendship too much to do this to your friend. Would you want her to do this to you? Guys will come and go at your age, do the right thing and leave that one alone.
2007-02-05 22:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by Jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a good friend you owe it to her to get her reaction. show her the respect of the "girl friend code" Make sure he is worth it if you decide to go against her feelings. Then she may just say go ahead. But dont you want to ask why they are breaking up? Maybe he is a total dweeb, jerk, idiot. Find out.
2007-02-05 22:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by wingedladyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is going to get mad at you if he leaves her for you, even if you don't end up dating him, just the fact that HE left HER for YOU will cause problems. my rule for myself is never date or go out with anyone that your friends or family have gone out with. that is betrayal and will cause problems in the long run. Unless of course they were breaking up anyway and it is mutual and then he ends up being your soulmate and she is nice about it and all ends well. but then again, she might love him and hate him and you forever. you never know. it is a risk you take. do you choose your own happiness with the guy or your friendship with your friend? this one is totally on you.
well, maybe this will explain it more clearly:
I go on 1 date with this one guy. he is cool and i don't really know him. we don't kiss, have sex, and don't have that connection that you need to date, but i notice he is perfect for my sister or a single friend. i set them up and they are prefect together and end up getting married. that would be cool.
the other situation which must be avoided is this: i meet a guy and we date for 2 years and get engaged and things don't work out. we break up, and my sister has always had her eye on him so she goes after him, and he goes out with her just to hurt me or get back at me or make me hate my sister, who i may or may not already hate. this is the thing that you don't to. to me, this counts as incest. if you are sleeping with someone that your family members have slept with, that is just nasty.
2007-02-05 22:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a while (a month) after he breaks up with her, to give your friend a chance to get over him. Then ask her if she minds. You may have to make a decision as to which one is more important to you.
2007-02-05 22:57:50 · answer #6 · answered by GoodGuy53 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till he breaks up with your friend, because then she would really need a friend. just remain friends with him until your friends completley over him. but before you go out with him, you should ask your friend about... guys will come and go, but a friend you know will always be there for you. you should value your friendship mostly and if you really like this guy just talk to your friend about it, if she's a true friend to you she will understand.
2007-02-05 23:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to your friend and tell her whats going on and tell her how you feel. that way its out in the open and you aren't hiding anything from each other. other than that, i would wait a while before dating this boy just for your friends sake.
2007-02-05 22:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by RrL87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he tells her that he doesn't want to be with her anymore and she still doesn't want you to date him than I don't think that's to cool of your friend. She will eventually find someone that cares about her and should give you the opportunity to be happy.
2007-02-05 23:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your friend you will tell the creep to back off.
Although after middle school/highschool you will probablly never see either the boy or your friend.
2007-02-05 22:55:39 · answer #10 · answered by McKenzieT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let things flow naturally. To maintain your friendship with your friend, you might want to move a little bit slower with him, so that she's over him a little bit more.
2007-02-05 22:55:01 · answer #11 · answered by Michael F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋