Friend help?

Question

OK, I know I'm going through a "tough part of life" right now, but I think my friends seriously suck. I always feel like they don't care for me, and they don't listen to what I have to say, and I know it's true. I know this is true because when I talk on the phone with them I attempt to say a story twice, and they'll be all like what are you talking about? Others are too obsessed with boys they don't even know, and others think they're too good for everyone else. I need help, and please nothing like 'get new friends', because I'm stuck in the same school until May. In August I start at a new school, but I know many of them, and their drama are going to be following me. I know I shouldn't be talking about them like this, but they absolutely drive me nuts, sometimes even to tears. I feel like no one wants to listen to what I have to say, and I know I'm way smarter than all of them. Please help, and no stupid answers.

Answer 1

Girl, what make you think you are way smarter than your friends? Since you are already looking down on your friends and you think you are too good for everyone, you won't have a good relationship with your "friends".

Answer 2

You know what? I'm 38 and completely agree with you. I have become completely picky about my friends. I have found over the years as I have met people and become friends with people that they are inherently selfish on the whole. Not all, mind you. I've also met some wonderful people down the road. But, the majority of people who tried or became my friend were not true friends...at least based on MY definition of what a true friend should be. Even when I was younger like you, I never had a lot friends, which was by choice. It was too tiresome to deal with all the melodrama. I always like things simple. I don't know if I helped or if it answered your question, but I really do know where you are coming from. Kudos to you. You are going to grow up being smart and know what you want.

Answer 3

no offense and all but ur friends seem over obessed conceaded and boy happy
i mean if they barely no what ur talking about when ur on the phone then 9 out of 10 there not listening espeacilly if u gotta tell a story twice....now i can understand if they were like this every once in a while then its probably because they dont want 2b bothered but on a daily basis....buddie u need to make some new friends that you know will always have your back and are an awsome person who theres to listen
yo friends is using you mak n friends!!!!!!!! at times it is hard but in your case it maybe worth it cuz wat if u really needed there help and they werent listening and you had no where else to turn ...then what

Answer 4

If you are seriously stuck with these friends, and want to be happier until you *can* change it, then I would say just change the way you think about them. It is the only way you have left open to make any changes. Just try to think of the positives.
The only other things I can think of are: spend more time doing other things you like doing or can distract you, and spending time with family members. Do you have somewhere else you can go? Church? Club? Work? Grandma's [nursing home??]? Neighbor's?
Blessings.

Answer 5

I have some friends just like that. Recently, I came across a VERY good friend of mine that was self-absorbed, and obsessed with boys she hardly knew, just like your situation.

Every time I tried to talk to her about what was going on in my life, she would go off on some epic story about whatever trivial issues she had going on in her life.

I finally thought about it, spoke with some people, and sent her a very long detailed message explaining how I felt, and she has been a better friend ever since.

Sometimes people need to have their flaws tactfully pointed out, so they know what to improve. Constructive criticism.

Answer 6

Sometimes friends dont understand, and have no clue what you are going through. Try talking to a trusted adult or a school counselor.

It maybe easier to confide in someone who is more mature and has been through similar situations. That doesnt mean you have to give up your other friends.

Some friends are easier to talk to than others are. One friend may be more understanding of situations than others are. good luck.

Answer 7

Maybe you are not comfortable with them b/c you have different values. I have had people do the same thing to me and it is really rude!! I have also learned a trick for those people, or really anyone...
People love to talk about themselves. So ask them questions about them or complement a girlfriend on her skirt etc. People will eat that up.

I think you are prolly stuck with this until you go off to college and can find people w/ more substance.

Try what I told you...It worked for me when I was in your spot!

Answer 8

All of life is tough. Get used to it and stop whining and sniffling like a three year old.
You are the PROBLEM , not your friends. Look in the mirror and you will see what needs to change in your life.
This is the cold , hard truth and not a stupid answer.

Answer 9

OMG!!! i have the EXACT same problem!!! its more with my parents than my friends...they juss act like they dont even care about me anymore!! & i cant wait 2 go 2 high school next year so i can meet all new kinds of ppl and i wont have 2 put up w/ the ppl that i already no!!!

Answer 10

Sounds like youre more mature than them in some ways. But how mature are you really? There must be some kids at the school who need a friend. Have you asked yourself why you havent tried befriending them? Or is it not hip enough? Think about it.