What happens if u have an ex and he is tryin to make himself a better person after all the things he has done.. like cheating.. smoking.. things like that.. And i still talk to him all da time.. U could probably say everyday.. And then one day he just put all his feelings that he had for me and just said it all.. I was so shocked.. He said he wanted ta marry me and things like that.. And he was crying and everything.. After all the times he hurt me.... What should i do???
2007-02-05 14:37:44 · 15 answers · asked by Beautifull513 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
move forward with your life not backwards, he may be trying to be a better person but he has cheated on you before,etc and could slip up and do everything he did before to you again, don't let the past repeat itself find someone else out there for you that will treat you with the respect that you deserve....
2007-02-09 03:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want him back? If not make a break for it. Sometimes people change (or only for a little while).Cheating is a hard thing to forget. You need to think back to when he told you all those things you mentioned. Was he upset about something else or drinking, ect. I'm not saying your not worthy of this guy wanting you back. Your probally too good for him. Can you say he was sincere.?Sometimes people say all the right things for all the wrong reasons. How old are you? If you are under 25 move on. There should not be this many problems in a relationship. This is my opinion but, you need to do what makes you happy. If you feel you cannot live without him, go for it! Try the relationship one more time. But, keep your guard up. Good Luck.
2007-02-05 14:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had he been drinking or smoking before he said that??
Well, in my past relationship, my ex said all thoses stuff he loved me, wanted to be with me, and he wanted to be the 1st man in my life for everything, but it turns out it was a lie. I did not get back with him Thank Lord because once school started i saw he had another girl so oh well.
So what I can say it think about it. People can say so many things but doing it is something else. Do you really love him, to be able to take the chance for everything he had already done to you once? Think about it, everything is tricky. First i say give it a try if you really want to. But don't get married so soon, without really knowing if he has change.
Good Luck!
2007-02-05 14:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from personal experience...think about it before you make an honest decision, and don't just think with your mind...use both your heart and your mind. I was in a relationship with a man for 3 years, we have a daughter together...we kept breaking up constantly, because he couldn't do right by me as far as keeping himself on the right track and staying out of trouble..and quitting smoking, and at least "trying" to live his live a little better. When we broke up, he came back saying how he would change and do this and that differently if I'd be with him...and I went back to him, yea he changed. But it was only a matter of time before he went right back to how he was, only deeper into it...because then he started disrespecting me. So I got my heart broken...now, think to yourself. Are you willing to put your all into a relationship and risk your heart getting broken? Good luck, I hope for the best!
2007-02-05 15:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by T-Baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will you be able to really forgive and forget? Because its not really forgiveness if you're not able to forget it. It will always be in the back of your mind what he did to you and how he hurt you.
How long ago did yall break up? If its been a couple of years, and you still love him, then thats your call to test the waters and see if he is being genuine with his words and actions. If its a recent thing, chances are, he's not being serious. It takes a very long time for patterns of behavior to completely change. If he's seriously in the process of working on those things, you need to decide if you want to be the person by his side encouraging him, BUT if thats what you decide, you also need to prepare yourself for the worst if he doesnt stick to the plan.
He has to make sure that his actions mirror his words, and understand that this is about HIM proving himself to YOU.
2007-02-05 14:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by untraceablekiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way this would ever work out would be if YOU could get past all of those things COMPLETELY. if you are with him and he's out for sometime, the thought of him cheating can't even come to mind. if it does, then you aren't letting those things go. Many people try to change, but they aren't always successful. You need to keep all of those things in mind.
My personal advice would be to remain friends with him, and you actually SEE the changes in him. Once you have proof that he's changed, then you might want to give him a chance. If you don't see changes, then you will be right back where you started.
Let this quote be your guide "Shame on you if you fooled me once. Shame on me if you fooled me twice."
2007-02-05 14:43:03 · answer #6 · answered by annie41378 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you know him better than any of us out here. Only you know what you truly feel about him and this whole situation. If he did you wrong once than he'll probably end up doing it again. Whatever happens try to be true to your self. If the whole "dating your ex" thing doesn't feel right END IT!!!!!
I mean if it didn't work out the first time it probably wont last.
2007-02-05 14:49:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
an ex is an ex for a reason, its nice that he is trying to make himself a better person but I'd say you are better off just forgetting about him.. you cant teach an old dog new tricks, the same thing will happen again
2007-02-05 14:42:10 · answer #8 · answered by Shy_and_Sexy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He had a chance to show you the real him already. I guess this depends on what you really want. Can you risk getting all broken up again or do you think he is sincere...try giving him a trial run and see how he's "changed". Remember you don't have to settle.
2007-02-05 14:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by Jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first u have to ask urself,can u trust him?!i mean really trust him,u dont want to marry somebody that everytime they leave the house ur not able to concentrate on anything else but who there with or if they actually went where they said they were going,that's no way to live&it wont last long without trust
2007-02-05 14:44:55 · answer #10 · answered by lisa m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋