How can i get over the fact my wife has had a lot of sexual partners then me?

Question

my wife is a lot more experienced sexually then me.She has had alot of partners mostly one night stands and this really bothers me.How can i get over her past?

Answer 1

You need to get over it. She is with you now and that SHOULD be all that matters. You knew about her past before and even if you did not married or not it is none of your business. What she did before you is exactly that something she did BEFORE you.
If this is something you are hung up on then I am afraid to see what happens when something major happens in your relationship.

Answer 2

Like alot of other answers, it doesnt make sense that it bothers you now rather than before you got married. Maybe you are wondering if she compares you to others? I doubt if she is very proud of herself for having alot of one night stands, so it would be cruel of you to not accept that part of her life, that is history, and cannot be undone. You loved eachother enough to marry, so you should just quit dwelling on somehting you can't change and stay focused on the positive aspects of your wife. Sex is just one part of a marriage. The world puts way too much emphasis on the sexual aspect and not enough on the day to day commitments a husband and wife share. Just ask a few older people who have been married a long time what their secret is to a lasting marriage is, and I could almost guarantee that their first answer would not have to do with sex. Good luck.

Answer 3

Have her give you some lessons.. How did you find out about her past? It didn't bother you in the beginning of the relationship? If not, why now? Let it go. She must love you.. otherwise. she would have never married you.. You can have numerous sexual partners.. and not do it well.. or you could have one sexual partner and have done it very well.. Don't compare yourself to the others.. Your wasting energy.. Good luck..

Answer 4

I am going through the same thing with my husband. With me it is my husband who had lots of other women. We have only been married for almost 4 years this June. The first year of our marriage that is about all he would talk about to me.He had said that he did not even care about any of them. They were all whores and drug addicts and he had lived a pretty wild life. He had also said that he used all of them. He had also lived with some of them and did not want to marry any of them. I was married to someone else for alot of years and had children that I raised. I have wished many,many times that he had not told me but there is not anything that I can do about it now. Alot of men and women who have several sex partners - why talk about it to the person that you are now married to? I would sometimes get jealous but I really don't have any reason to be jealous. All of the women did not amount to anything. I can understand what you are going through. I threatened to leave my husband when we were first married but didn't get to because we were living in a different state than we are now. I no that it just takes time. I am still dealing with it after almost 4 years of marriage. What I have to do alot of times is not allow myself to dwell on it.If I start to think about any of it then I start to think about something better. I hope that I have helped some.

Answer 5

Since she already has many partners and so you have... Now what difference does the number make?

If you are pure then definitely you can expect the same but as you have said you also do have partners then you should not spoil your life just by thinking like this.

Hey more experience more pleasure... :=)

Answer 6

It's your Ego that's not happy. After all you did have sex before marrying her too. So what's the big deal about the number of times? Once her virginity is gone it's gone, no matter how many times she did it. What if it so happens that she has less experience than you? Should she get upset about it?

Answer 7

You loved her enough to marry her then her past should not matter-that was in her past-don't let that break up your marriage-let the past stay in the past-look to the future and there you will see that her past was not something you had to worry about-build a bright future with your wife and forget about what she did before you married her all of that was before you-so let it stay there in the past

Answer 8

Look at the fact that she CHOSE you and LOVES you! One niters really are just about sex. Marriage is alot more than just sex!!

Think of it like this, what she has learned or knows is going to be to please YOU. If she wanted to be with someone else she would not of married you.

Obviously she loves and cares for you and if she knows what she is doing in bed than that is a plus for you, because your the one who gets to enjoy the pleasure.

Now, with you being her husband, you can show her what love is and how to make LOVE and NOT just sex. Making love goes alot deeper than just sex. Thats something ONLY you are showing her. Think about it.

Answer 9

Here's how you get over it- First, watch the movie "Chasing Amy".
Then, wake up, smell the coffee, and realize that she comes home to... (drum roll) ...YOU! Yes! That's right, ladies and gentlemen! This well- trained sexual diva has chosen none other than Mr. ash219772 as her final answer!
Dude, you must be doing something right or she'd still be looking, wouldn't she? So keep on doing something right and relax...

Answer 10

Did you know this about her before marrying her??? If so you chose her so you will have to get over it and love her in spite of it all.... You may need counseling to deal with this but you cannot hold her past against her as it is just that her past! you need to let it rest and let it go or you will hurt her and your marriage and ultimatley end up losing your marriage. Have fun with it and have her teach you what she knows. Spice it up and have fun with it:)